When Your Body Breaks Your Heart

When I started The Shape of a Mother in 2006, I had expected posts full of pictures of bellies, pregnant and postpartum, lined with joy and growth, wrinkled with love. Stories of women who learned to love themselves despite looking so different from the airbrushed models of magazines, stories of women who loved themselves because they looked so different. ...more

How horrible. My heart goes out to them.


Embracing My Flakiness

As a flaky person, I say stupid stuff, forget things too often and -- most embarrassing for some reason -- miss freeway exits on a weekly basis. And my heart sinks with self-hatred deep into my stomach each time I realize I've driven too far. If a friend told me she responded this way to something as silly as missing a freeway exit, I'd be horrified. ...more

Wait. Are you saying sandals don't belong in the refrigerator??


The Shape of This Mother...

What do you feel when you look at that photo?Shock?Revulsion?Fear?...more

Wow, I'm honored for you to comment on this post, Bonnie! Your website truly changed my life, ...more

Maiden, Mother, Crone: My Body and My Spirituality

Loving, supportive friends are not unlike mothers in some ways, and by being a loving and supportive friend, you are mothering someone, and effectively learning how to treat yourself in the process. Mothering my children and being mothered by my friends has taught me how to mother myself, and that has helped me grow so that I can help others. ...more
Beautiful! I relate so much..I'm a Crone now..and the upheavals felt earlier on have given way ...more

Add Your Name to BlogHer's Own Your Beauty Statement of Belief

Own Your Beauty. Change The Conversation. We are the beautiful people. All women. Every one of us. And that's amazing. Let’s own it. Let's collaborate on a definition of beauty that celebrates what makes each of us unique, inside and out. Instead of measuring ourselves against some airbrushed, Photoshopped ideal, let’s tailor the standard of beauty to suit ourselves. ...more

Own Your Beauty Host Blogger: Bonnie Crowder of The Shape of a Mother

Bonnie Crowder is a homeschooling mom to two children in Southern California. She started The Shape of a Mother in July of 2006 because she believed that women have the right to know the truth about what bodies look like, and that knowing the truth can help to heal from deeply painful self-esteem issues. ...more

Pregnant, fat

Here’s my revelation about pregnancy and your body image: it’s the same as when you’re not pregnant. If you obsess over your weight when you’re not pregnant, you’re probably going to do the same thing when you’re up the duff. You will obsess. You may just not care enough to curb your eating, and of course you’re encouraged to eat, which for most of us is a revelation unto itself and the most delicious feeling in the world! ...more

I couldn't contain all my thoughts on this subject in a comment, so I wrote a post about it ...more