I admit, I am a bit superstitious at times. I do believe that there are things that exist in this universe that cannot be explained by science or religion. I sometimes even have premonition dreams. Not regularly, but it does happen. For instance, I knew that I was going to get this particular job that I had desperately wanted. I dreamt right before S and I shared our first kiss; before he first professed his love for me. Despite my brother's dream of his first child being a boy, I, on the other hand, dreamt of being with my niece. Unfortunately, they are not always pleasant dreams....more
I am 35 years old, Chinese/Canadian, and find myself to be in the unique, yet ever-growing, group of women attempting to become single mothers by choice.To my family's dismay, I have always been the black sheep out of the bunch. Rather than choosing a well-paid career path that is respected within our culture, I decided to pursue education and eventually followed my heart into social/humanitarian work.At quite a young age, I also decided to move out into my own little place *gasp*...before getting married (to a nice and wealthy Chinese man of course)....more
Single parenthood, like all forms of parenthood, comes with its ups and downs, but going into the situation with a little advice in your back pocket can make the journey easier. As a single mother, I know what you're going through right now, and my experience as a life coach for other single mothers has helped me to collect a lot of advice over the years. Whether you planned in advance to be a single parent by choice or your new role has taken you by surprise, there may be a few questions you're asking yourself.
Making a choice to parent on your own is huge and it is scary. It is also liberating. You are making a decision and acting on it on your own timeline. You are calling the shots about when you will become a parent.
What I am about to say is absolutely based on gut feelings towards a movie that I have not seen, nor do I have any intention of seeing unless it is a sponsored event by a new cast of Mystery Science Theatre and I can bitch and moan all the way through until the closing credits. And yes, I think it is obnoxious that I am going to say what I am going to say based on my feeeeeeelings, but I have tried to ignore them and it isn't working out so well. ...more