My Sunday: Pajamas, Word Games, and Wine Cooler(s)

When the kids are all with their dad, you're on your own,and you can't get over to visit your mom on Sunday, then this is what you do:...but only once the sink's empty and the laundry is drying on the line, of course....more

Dating Guidelines for Single Parents

As a single parent, you probably have so little free time that dating seems an impossible task. Yet, single parents are dating in unprecedented numbers, so if you’re looking for another “head of household” to date, you’ll find one. As a responsible parent, you’ll want to be very cautious about whom you date and eventually bring home for the safety and well-being of your child(ren). You may feel guilty or unsure about whether dating is OK....more

Mommy darling is in charge of kids and ghosts

How in the hell am I going to survive summer?  I just keep asking myself this, over and over, and I still have no answer.  Right now, we are mildly sane because my two big kids are in school, and the baby goes 3 days a week.  In summer, I will not get a break, and I’m fucking freaking out, ya hurd me?...more

Seriously This Really Happened

Life can be so great.  Sometimes I'm convinced that God is trying to hand me my ass on a platter.  This is a true story.  Zero embellishment, simply because none is required....more

The Mother of All Gifts. Literally.

If I think about who, what, where and when I am, the answers usually involve being a mother.  The why and the how do as well; however, the responses are much more intricate.  I’m unsure as to whether I’ve always wanted to be a mother, but I seem to have been born with a hyperempathy that has compelled me to want to care for and protect people, to hug complete strangers, to feed them, to wipe their tears away. ...more

New Labels: Widow, Single Parent

When a spouse dies and you have children two things happen at once. You become a widow(er), and a single parent. Simultaneously.Overnight I adopted new labels. One moment I was married. The next I was not only widowed, but the sole care provider for our daughter.What do these new labels mean? Do they mean anything at all? I would say it depends on the day. If I am missing my husband, my friend, I feel quite widowed. Other days I accept that he is gone and I embrace that I am single. Single-with-experience....more
I hate the word widow.  That one word makes me feel so powerless.  I hate the single status too ...more

Mayor Rob Ford

You may be wondering what the Mayor of Toronto has to do with my good grief blog.  What, after all, could Mayor Rob Ford possibly have to do with this story?  Let me fill you in.Last week I took my daughter for pizza.  Pizza Heaven.  I can still taste the pizza goodness.I pre-ordered for pick up, but my daughter couldn’t wait to dig in.  Plus, they had cable.  We don’t.  That’s 2 points for Pizza Heaven, 1 point for me, the paying mother....more
That is funny and sad all at the same time.more

Unfortunately, the truth.

Yesterday felt like my possibilities were limitless. Today I feel like a fool for thinking so. I had a job interview that went really well but I couldn't get to my tutoring client. My phone service has been disconnected for non-payment and so I couldn't call my client. I have an empty gas tank, so I don't know how I'll get anywhere today. I'm supposed to go to a last training session for a part time job I got. I can't call and rearrange the time for that last training session and reschedule my tutoring client for today because I don't have a phone to connect with them. I will try to email....more

Family Inside Jokes: Ice Cream and You Can Call Me Jane

When my daughter was little she would only eat one type of ice cream: Vamnilla.  No, that's not a typo, Lizzie called it vamnilla for years -- with heavy emphasis on the first syllable.  It's still her favorite flavor. Every time she orders it I whisper "vamnilla" to her under my breath and we exhange a look and have a laugh. It's one of the special inside jokes we share....more

Is it hard to find love as a single parent?

I am a single mum of one child. I just feel like it’s harder to find a guy that is understandable .I feel like I won’t find love because my life is complicated until I met Mark on, who got 3 kids from same dad 1 from another and 1 pregnant By her new man. He loves me and my son very much. The web let me believe single mother also could find true love. ...more