Are you an Introvert or an Extrovert?

"Come out of your shell"...  That noxious expression that fails to appreciate that some animals naturally carry shelter wherever they go, and that some humans are just the same.   -Susan Cain...more

Calming Coping Skills

As a counselor, I know it’s important for everyone, both kids and adults, to know and use coping skills.  Coping skills are activities anyone can do to help manage difficult thoughts and feelings or challenging situations. Not all coping skills work in every situation, so it’s good to have a variety to help manage different challenges.  When I think about coping skills, I tend to divide them into 4 categories  - Calming, Physical, Distractions and Processing....more

Please pass the talking feather

Most conversations are simply monologues delivered in the presence of a witness."  ~Margaret Millar...more

The Lost (and FOund) Art of Conversation

Just like in the 80's when The Buggles sang about video killing the radio star, many people today are bemoaning that technology is killing the art of conversation. With messaging, emails, texting, tweeting, and every other form of technology-aided communication, some folks are saying we're losing our ability to have conversations with people and listen to more than 140 characters at a time....more

How Do I Teach My Kid Social Skills?

I have a 6-year old who doesn't want to be friendly to other kids. How can I help her?photocredit...more

Flummox and Friends: Making TV for Quirky Kids

When you were a kid, did you ever wish Schoolhouse Rock taught lessons about playground social dynamics as well as math and science? A socially awkward child like I was certainly could have used something like Flummox and Friends, the new "off-beat, live action television show designed to help kids navigate the social and emotional world." I talked with Christa Dahlstrom, Flummox and Friends creator, about why her show is so needed, why you and your kids should watch its pilot, and what her next steps will be....more
Great interview! I did a short follow-up on this too:

How Apps Can Support Your Child's Social Skills

Sometimes I think social skills apps are redundant, since iPads are themselves such social magnets. These tablets can motivate kids of all abilities to interact, and give them a common ground for communicating....more
Very interesting only because that no need too much time to explain complicated thing to ...more

Teaching Acceptance

I have watched last week's Glee episode no less than five times. It just gets to me.One Sunday afternoon, I took BG to our town's Christmas parade. We managed to find a spot right at the front of the sidewalk in front of this really nice older couple and their two young boys.  At one point, a young dance troupe went by made up of a few girls and one boy. I heard the boys snickering at this boy, but it was what happened next that floored me....more
love this! such a moving post. I have been trying to get this message scross for so long, you ...more

What the Childfree and Single-Child Parents Share

A mother of an only child recently wrote me about the top five "bingos" she has received as a "Done at One," or DAO.  They are more related to what's behind a lot of bingos the childfree get than you might think. Here they are:Top 5 Bingos to the DAO1. You only had ONE child? Why didn't you want more?...more
Love this article.  I have an Only.  This article and the comments have enlightened me and ...more

Finding Friends

We were in the Rainforest cafe in Grapevine last week. We were standing at the entrance, waiting for a table. Zane was wearing his Lego Batman shirt. Two little boys ran up, and I got nervous. Random children don't usually show up wanting to talk, and I immediately thought they were students that I had met through my job. Then I realized that these two boys weren't there to talk to me. As if! ...more