A Word to the Wise. But Which Word?

There were four generations of us eating and laughing and reminiscing and debating and drinking and sharing stories…and it was just great.  One of the topics that came up --as often happens when there are lots of women and wine around-- was men.  It started out as a "can't do with 'em, can't do without 'em, can't kill 'em" kind of conversation.  It eventually evolved (or digressed) into "what should a young woman do?"  And that's when it got tricky.  Lots of women, lots of opinions. Marriage? At what age? Maybe never?  Then what?...more

Milestones for the Modern-Day Single Lady

Every popular woman’s  magazine has, at some point, run an article about things a woman should know by a certain age or lifestage. One of my favorites, by Pamela Redmond Safran, ran in Glamour Magazine.  It’s a smart and fun list of her take on life’s milestones for the 30-year-old woman....more

Yes, People, I Am Still Single

One of the things I like about getting older is that many of the things that used to bother me when I was younger, no longer do.  One of those things that no longer bothers me is being asked --often in an incredulous tone-- why I'm still single.  And its a good thing because it happened, again,  just the other day....more
Eleanore, your post had me laughing from the moment I read the title. I'm divorced and I may ...more

My Friends, Their Husbands

When I am boyfriendless, I tend to rely on other people’s husbands to do the things that my own husband would do, if he existed.  (Well, no, not everything. This is all very G-rated.)If I could’ve figured out a sane way to have a (faithful) husband on a part-time basis, I possibly would have married at some point in my life. Possibly.  But I now realize that I have figured out the part-time-husband thing.  He’s just not my husband. More correctly, they’re not my husband....more

What Does It Mean To Be A "Leftover Woman"?

The Chinese have an expression for women like me. They're called "Leftover Women".   Leftover women are still single past, well, whatever age it is people think they should be married.  The assumption, of course, is that no man wants these women; they are the ones left after all the desirable women are taken. It seems not to have occurred to users of this phrase that some (many?) of these women are right where they want to be.  ...more

What Is That Smell?

Apologies in advance.  This post could be filed under “Unnecessarily Morbid.”  But this is something I think about sometimes.  It usually happens when I hear news about a decaying body being found in an apartment.   The body is not found by a loved one, but usually by the Super or the police because neighbors complained about a foul smell coming from the apartment.  ...more

Is An Affair Ever "Acceptable"?

Adulterous affairs have pretty much always been seen as wrong, but are some less wrong?  The “other woman” has traditionally been the scorned party, a negative force. But is this changing?  Is adultery becoming more acceptable?...more

Getting Your MRS. Degree

By now, you may be familiar with the firestorm around Susan A. Patton’s recent advice to female Princeton college students. After attending a professional women’s conference on campus, Ms. Patton –a Princeton alumna-- decided she had an additional message for the women of Princeton University, a message that likely was not covered in the conference.  Ms. Patton wants these female college students to start locking down their future husbands now. ...more

When Being Single Becomes the Norm

By now, we all know about the rise in single people and that, for the first time in U.S. history, there are more single people than there are married people. (http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2011/12/14/barely-half-of-u-s-adults-are-married-a-record-low/).  Interestingly, this increase in single people is not just a U.S. phenomenon: single households have increased 30% worldwide....more

Have a Baby, Win a Prize! (Honest)

In my book –The Spinsterlicious Life: 20 Life Lessons for Living Happily Single and Childfree– I tell a story about the time when my (by then, married) ex tried to talk me into having a baby with him by offering me lots of money, a live-in nanny, and a new apartment.  (Spoiler alert:  I didn’t do it.)...more