How Should I Handle My Step-Mama Drama?

I am the proud (step)mom of a lovely 4-year-old little lady, with whom I share an incredibly close bond. I have been wearing my “mommy” shoes since her (single) father and she moved into my home when she was a 9-month-old baby. Her biological mother suffers from behavioral and mental illnesses that cause extreme outbursts and instability, and at the time she was not at all interested in being present in her daughter’s life.Recently, however, the Biological Mother has been seeking help and has been trying to step back into the picture. Although this should be a great thing—the more love, the better!—I am starting to get really worried about our little family’s future. We are expecting a baby this winter, and the news of a new child in the family is sure to set off past issues with Bio Mom. This is supposed to be such a happy time for us yet all I feel is STRESS STRESS STRESS!HELP!Step-Mommy Dearest...more
I am the stepmother of six children (two different men). I have been actively step-parenting for ...more

I can't compete with that New Mommy Smell

Yesterday, I wrote about the fact that my ex is now dating/planning to marry a woman I considered a friend. Last night, I figured out why it’s making me upset: ...more

Cake and the art of being a step-family

Yesterday I made cake with my step-daughter. The smell of it cooking made everyone a little nuts. We are all sugar and chocolate fiends in this house. We believe in consuming as much sugar and empty calories as possible, every day. Of course, those of us who are adults realize this isn’t much of a nutritional plan for life, so ...more

Going on Thirteen

Rita Arens' recent post here on BlogHer about a thirteen-year-old Australian model coincided in timing with my stepdaughter's own 13th birthday, and inspired some reflections on adolescence here, ...more

Oh My Gaaawd, I’ve Become By Stepmother

How is it I've ended up the one thing in the world I never, never wanted to be? (Besides poor planning, lack of confidence, educational deficiencies, laziness.) I swore I would NOT be like my stepmother. Not ever. I despised everything about her, starting with the fact that she stole my dad from his family and ending with the fact that she was a doozy of a doormat. (Of course, I was a teenager, and only slightly under the influence of hormones and Evil Thought Disorder.) Please read the rest here: ...more