A Letter to Maria

I am sure you would like to think that you destroyed us, my sister and I. Have you ever wondered what happened to the two little girls you abused for all those years? Do you smile thinking you got away with it? Do you think we just became two insecure, scared women? Well let me tell you what you DID manage to do to those two little girls so long ago.By keeping us in a dark basement and living in fear you tried to cower us.Instead you created two very brave girls that grew up to be even braver women....more

A Love Letter to My Son's Stepmom

When I learned you were going to be part of my son’s life, I couldn’t breathe.  I expected you to despise me, the ex-wife, in the way so many women do.  And I worried you’d see my little boy as a nuisance, someone to be tolerated because he was a reminder of me.  Would Connor annoy you when he had a tantrum or needed to be consoled?  When he spilled juice, would you be angry?  Young children affect vacation plans, dinners, quiet time.  Would you grow to resent him the way so many stepmoms do?  And would my little boy end-up broken and confused bec...more
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My Full Time Job Stepmother

Stepmom: You are Called!

Stepmoms, have you ever questioned your decision to marry into a blended family? Do you ever wonder what your purpose is, or why even when you have the best intentions at heart, it often seems like an uphill battle? Well here's some good news for you. You have a grand purpose!You are Called!I Corinthians 4:2  "Moreover it is required in stewards, that a man be found faithful."I Peter 4:10  "As every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God."...more

Bio-Mom of the Year

Have you ever wished your stepkids’ bio-mom “got it” and “understood”? Like a phoenix rising from the ashes, this contributor is the ultimate bio-mom. Trish Eklund is gracious, communicative and open to her two daughters’ stepmother. Can we clone her?...more

Things My Husband Wished I Knew

Things My Husband Wished I Knew By Donna Dennis Munoz(Editor's Note: This article was written for the February issue of Stepmom Magazine at www.stepmommag.com)  ...more

So What About This "Narcissistic" Thing?

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I AM the New Wave of Feminism

I Am the New Wave of Feminism I am the new wave of feminism.I see a gay black woman leading an organization side by side with a middle age white man....and it doesn't surprise me. I expect it.I have never known a time when I didn't have the same rights, same abilities, same expectations as my male counterparts.I believe femininity is as valuable a tool as hard work, strength, determination and will....more

Stepmoms: Grow by celebrating your faith through love!

  “… The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love.” Galations 5:6 (NIT) Our faith will not only shine through, but be strengthened when we express it through our love. I apply this to my step-mothering. Step 1: I pray and ask God to help me love my children as He loves them....more

There's No Reset Button for Stepparenting: Tips for Resolving Conflict

We have those moments with our mothers, or sisters, our children, and even our husbands. No one is safe from an outburst. It could come at the worst of times, and it could come at the best of times. But what happens when you have that outburst and say something that hurts your stepchild? Well, it’s no different from saying something hurtful to your biological child, your own mother, or even your husband. The problem is the relationship surrounding the situation....more
Love the steps you have here, and will for sure be rereading them, but i just had to come and ...more