I'm sure some of y'all have heard or seen the interview that Candace Cameron Bure gave. The one I'm talking about is on Biblical submission. Some who interviewed her or talked about it later without talking to her got the information wrong and twisted. Jane Velez-Mitchell totally got it wrong and not only that, she threw a fit on national TV. Are you kidding me? Screaming and yelling to be heard. Oh, yes, that will make people listen to your side. Nope, sorry, that in my opinion made her look like a child throwing a fit when they don't get their way, or when someone tells them no....more
I had a dream a few months back that I was dangling on a roller coaster, my hands gripping the sides of a drop-off that went straight down into blackness. I was in my car with my children, for heaven’s sakes. I couldn’t risk their lives letting my clunky Chevy Tahoe loose on these metal tracks. What kind of mother would let go? I couldn’t tell if my car was strapped in or if I would fly off into the cold air. Where would I land? Who would provide for them? What would I do? Help, Lord!...more
A couple of years ago, my husband began leading our family in a time of "family worship".The routine usually looks something like this: After dinner- during dessert, Daddy reads a Bible story to the kids, sometimes they recite a memory verse, we usually sing a hymn or two, pray, and sing the doxology....more
If you've seen one rejection, you've seen them all.Not true. Just this week, I received a rejection within 24 hours of submission. Horrendous, you say. Not really. The story didn't meet with the magazine's needs. Of course, I could have spent more time going through the story, flipping back and forth to and from the guidelines for several hours. Since I didn't take that time, I was blessed to get a personal note from the editor who told me why the rejection was necessary, that he realy liked my writing, and that he'd be pleased to see more of my work....more
As someone who believes the world could do with a more open-minded approach to peoples consensual sexual interests, I wanted to like Fifty Shades of Grey. But as I read the book, I found it not only sets people who live a BDSM lifestyle back decades in terms of being understood by society, but that it eroticizes dangerous practices as well, especially for those who are new to this aspect of sexuality and looking to incorporate it into their lives.
There is a great need among our species to answer the question of "why," and this need often leads to wild speculation that is very difficult to substantiate. When it comes to BDSM, we cannot ask "why" because the people who practice surrender are not a homogenous group. We're not just women, we're not just straight, we're not just submitting to lovers or even other humans. The answer to the question of "why" is as varied as our numbers are varied. All we can ask is "how."
That's a dirty word in American society, isn't it? I am independent. I am not submissive. I know my own mind and no one can tell me what to do. Right? Except for when we're not independent. Except for when we do what we're told. Except for when we frequently submit our wills to any number of things and people around us. It's how we stay on the road when we're driving, it's how we keep our jobs, it's how we stay in relationships, it's how we live....more