Let's Talk About Death, Baby.

 Well, it’s 8:09 Eastern Standard Time, and I’m barely awake.  I figure there was never a better time to talk about suicide.*****For a few reasons, suicide has been weighing heavily on my mind as of late....more

“Radical Self-Reliance” Is Killing People. It almost killed me last week.

Trigger warning: frank discussion of suicideOk. I’ve been sitting on these feelings for a long time, and some of my dear readers have probably heard me rant about this in person, but I have a bone to pick with some of the catchphrases/attitudes I hear winging around the Bay Area. Really, I have a bone to pick with five that I think actively damage communities we care about and hurt people we love....more

Look- Sometimes Drugs Are A Valid Coping Mechanism.

Trigger warnings: drug use, sexual assault, take this advice with a grain of saltAlso want to note: comments on how this isn’t an ok way to deal with my problems and I should meditate or go jogging instead or whatever are absolutely unwelcome unless you personally were one of the people helping me manage this situation. Thanks!...more

When My Lowest Point Was Also My First Step to Mental Health Recovery

The end of last month marked the one-year anniversary of the worst time of my life. One year ago, I decided life was not worth living. One year ago, I gave up completely. One year ago, I ended up in the hospital where I was sure I would die. But something amazing happened. One year ago, some of the strongest people I know came to my side to support me and help me get better....more

Two More Suicides: An Open Letter to My Daughters

This is just such a moving and important message from a loving mother.more

The Child You Left Behind

Suicide. The word alone is enough to send chills down your spine. Unfortunately it affects at least 3700 Canadians a year. On March 6th 2006, I became a part of those statistics....more

Depression is Dangerous

I was there once.In fact I've been there a few times over the course of my life....more

Bye Bye Robin Williams

I'm helping my patient get settled and we both hear...BREAKING NEWS! This grabs our attention. Then I hear it and immediately my thoughts are "Oh C***!" Then my thoughts turn to "How sad, and he must have been in so much mental pain." Robin Williams has a warm place in my heart and in many hearts of others. For us here in the San Francisco Bay Area, we feel Robin Williams as one of our own family. He's lived here most of his adult life, he's played here, performed here, and made his mark....more

Zelda Williams, I Lost My Dad to Suicide, Too

“I love you. I miss you. I’ll try to keep looking up.” Sitting at my desk at work, I read the words on my computer from Zelda, Robin Williams’ daughter,  who tweeted about his death. For some reason I decided to look at the clock, I wanted to know what time it was... 8:38 AM. I lasted a little over 12 hours after hearing the news before it finally hit me. The night before, Trey had given me a hug and asked if I was okay. I said yes, which was true at the time but now it was different. Now I was not okay. “I love you. I miss you. I’ll try to keep looking up.” ...more
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Suicide is Painful

Two days ago, the world was shaken with the news that one of our most beloved stars, Robin Williams, died through suicide. Since I heard the news, I’ve debated whether to write on his death or not. Should I go there? Should I discuss all the thoughts that went through my head? Or, should I let the news pass over me and move on to other more happy thoughts?Suicide is personal to me. Any suicide I hear about breaks my heart. It doesn’t matter if it is someone as famous as Robin or if the person was unknown to all but those who loved him or her. Each suicide affects me deeply. ...more