My Life Can't Begin Again Some Other Day

This morning I shed some major tears over my battle with infertility. I cried because tomorrow I will be a 35-year-old, childless woman. I cried because I also realized, for the first time, that I’m scared to have a baby. I have so many fears surrounding having a child, that I’ve kept hidden from myself. But it’s all surfacing now. And I’m wondering how much of my own fears have blocked my body from doing what is most natural. ...more
After three miscarriages in the space of a year, I can relate to your story and your fear that ...more

Worry is a soul eater. Does it munch at your house, too?

Worry is like a rocking chair, it will give you something to do, but it won't get you anywhere. --Unknown Worry wastes our time and corrodes our innards. Yet we almost enshrine it. I wish worry worked. If it did, we would have no world problems, no personal problems. But in all the history of people worrying in the world, there has not been one example in which worry moved anything forward. There are plenty of examples, however, of how worry froze the person feeling it, and immobilized them into inaction. Or gave them ulcers. Or spastic colons. Or rashes. Or all of the above. ...more

When I log-jammed my life many years back, I got out of it by doing one thing every day that I ...more

Resolve to leave things behind that belong there

There is a wonderful Zen story about two monks who had sworn chastity. They vowed to not even touch a woman. One day they were with a group fording a river. In the middle of the river, a tiny woman suddenly lost her footing and was in danger of drowning. One monk waded over to her, lifted her, and carried her across the river. He set her down safely, and walked along his way. His companion walked silently for ten miles, getting progressively more agitated. Finally he blurted out -- "How could you! You know that we have vowed to not even touch a woman!" The monk replied "I only carried her halfway across the river. You carried her 10 miles." ...more