All parents know and dread this word. We've all been there. They happen all the time. They happen for reasons. They happen for no reasons at all. They just happen....more

The Burden of Existence

My husband wrote this observation in 1997, more than ten years before we had the babies. It provides a thoughtful perspective and broader implications to my daily seemingly-miniscule struggles with them, a main point of contention being that I cannot understand why anyone would want to spend so much of their time in distress, particularly over whether or not they can have ice cream for breakfast.Read More:...more

Moms can't be wimps

I've got a dumpster diving, fit throwing toddler on my hands. The last couple of weeks have been full of extremely dramatic meltdowns. At least he is old enough now that when he melts down he gingerly throws himself down so he doesn't cause any damage to his person anymore. Oh, and the dumpster diving? Well, he loves digging in the trash. I struggle to keep him out. We spend a lot of time cleaning up garbage and washing hands around here. ...more

The Five Different Types of Toddler Tantrums

My life plunges ever deeper into the realm of ridiculous as my kids struggle to determine what is reality and what is imagination, what is reasonable and what is impossible.  It's a long process and their "coping mechanisms" involve a bit too much noise for my tastes. At age two and a half, here are the most frequent tantrums in this house. 1) YOU CAN'T UNDERSTAND WHAT I SAID BECAUSE I'M ALL GARBLED AND MY DICTION IS TERRIBLE.  CLEARLY YOU HATE ME. ...more

Toddler Tricks - 35

Ways to Trick your Baby: Problem: Toddlers have very rigid routines and definitions as to how the world around them needs to be working. Any minute detail you forget can be grounds for a knock-down, fall-out tantrum, and these things can escalate before you even figure out what the problem is. Solution: Read More:...more


MAYBE IT’S NOT JUST A TANTRUM   We’ve all seen toddlers having meltdowns–throwing themselves face down on the floor, crying, wailing, screaming and behaving in a way that’s embarrassing to their parents and irritating to by-standers.. Is this a natural and normal part of child development or is it something else? New research suggested that a lack of emotional regulation (or self-control) in childhood can predict psychological problems in adolescence and adulthood....more

Who Came Up with This?

The screaming, the thrashing, the whining, the complete meltdown explosion. It caught me by surprise.  Yes, I had noticed my babies getting more cranky over the past few days, but I figured it was letdown from our vacation ending, tiredness, maybe a growth spurt causing hungriness....more

I Need Some Space!

I've heard over and over again that the best way to get a well-behaved child in public is to remove her from any situation in which she is causing a ruckus.  Screaming at a restaurant.  Back to the car, possibly to drive back home.  Tossing and flopping on the beach, time to go back home, immediately.  I've never quite been able to pull this off because usually when one twin is melting down, the other is completely fine.  To take both twins outside of the area for a calm down period only serves to enrage the happy twin.  To leave the happy twin in the area (whe...more


As far as family outings go, the walk around the Tidal Basin this morning to see the cherry trees in bloom could sink in the dirty muck of the Potomac and no one would miss it. ...more

Toddler Tricks - 30

Ways to Trick your Baby:Problem: Your kid is having a meltdown. It may have started out as a minor disagreement over some toy or distress that he can't find something he is looking for, but given a few minutes, it's grown to a fullblown tantrum.Solution: Read More:...more