Why some parental decisions get rebuffed

This post first appeared on Mona Andrei's personal blog, Moxie-Dude.When people first meet me they’re always surprised by my age. If you don’t know me in real life, I’m pulling 40.Note from the Hamster: Liar! You’re pushing 50!Then they’re surprised to find out that I’m a mother to four kids – two in their mid to late 20s and two teenagers....more

Why I'm mad at Katy Perry

This post first appeared on Mona Andrei's personal blog, Moxie-Dude.Before I get into the meat of this post about why I’m mad at Katy Perry, please allow me to make a few assumptions …Assumption #1:At the risk of sounding like a stalker or even a genius, I’m going to go out on a limb here and assume that you own a radio. I just figure that since you have internet, you must also have a radio.Assumption #2:...more

It's true: Your teen isn't listening to you

One of the hardest parts of being a parent is that you have this person in your life that you are completely responsible for, but you can't actually control. Yes, you can influence, encourage, support and punish this person. But, in the end, they are a separate individual from you and going to do things their own way and you just have to take a back seat and deal with it (preferably without losing your temper)....more

5 Important (but Random) Lessons Teens Need to Know

You thought you had a lot of lessons to teach your toddler? Well, I hate to break it to you, but potty training and spoon feeding are only messy in the literal terms when it comes to the lessons you will have to teach your teens and tweens. Most of our kids' friends are pretty smart and self-sufficient, but every now and then we'll talk about something and they have no idea how they would solve the issue. ...more
jaycee OMG yes!! I'm amazed at how many of my friends kids have NO clue how to do the most basic ...more

The Bright Pink Pencil

 Ugh, Monday. Why, oh why, did you have to do me like this? I’m tired, it’s gray outside, I have things to do and no motivation to do them… and then you do THIS? Texts from a frustrated teenager? Really, that’s just beyond the pale....more

To the Brink and Back

The “D” word.I said the “D” word.Disruption. Despite my reservations, I let E go down for a week and a half-long visit with Bmom and his bio siblings. I couldn’t come up with a better reason for him not to go than “I don’t think it’s a good idea,” and couldn’t explain beyond that, so I caved. Next time I’ll know better, but you know what they say about hindsight. ...more

Just five more minutes, Mom

As mentioned before, when it comes to mornings, I am awake and ready to go. This ability served me well in middle school and high school when I was responsible for getting myself awake, dressed and to school (via the bus or my own two feet) on time. I set my own alarm and I didn't hit the snooze button....more

New test can predict teen binge drinking

A lot of factors go into determining why a teen would binge drink: genetics, peer pressure, personality, accessibility, home life, cognitive abilities, etc.That's why I was so interested in reading this article. After all, how could scientists create one particular test to predict binge drinking?Turns out, they can do it by looking at the physical structure of a teen's brain (age 14) and combining it with a wide range of data on things like personality, life history, genetics, IQ, demographics and life events.Here's what they found:...more

Freed: The Story of a Teenage Low-Life

Originally posted on ChapterTK.com Feelings of inadequacy are not new to me. For reasons unknown, I’ve dealt with that feeling for most of my life. I’ve grown used to the fight, giving the world my all even when I feel rejection.I’m sharing one of my favorite poems, today. I don’t know that it’s any better than the rest, but it carries more emotion for me. This poem depicts my fight for acceptance and self-definition....more

Keeping Your Love Life Strong When you have Teenagers

There are probably thousands of articles on how to keep your love life spicy when you have infants and just as many when you have young children and yet there seems very little in the way of us parents who are single and have teenagers.For those who don’t have teenagers or no kids at all I can’t help but be amused by some of the things I hear.“ You’re so lucky you can leave your kids home and go out and enjoy yourself. “...more