It Happened to One of Us: On Preventable Deaths and Fear

That the death was preventable is what adds an extra punch to the gut here. Because that whole idea, that death can be preventable, is what torments all of us, parents especially. It's what draws us to the idea of so-called helicopter parenting; it's what keeps us up at night, listening for our babies' breathing; it's what leads us to imagine that it's entirely possible that we'll never want to let our children learn to drive, or date, or even leave the house alone. We're terrified by the idea -- the idea that I think most of us know so intimately that we can practically feel it, touch it, see it glimmering in the air before us -- that something might happen to our children that we could have prevented, that we might, someday, face the dreaded specter of 'if only I'd... ...more

This story reminds me of the time that a cabinet that I installed in the laundry room fell off ...more