Dr. Romance's Guidelines for Not Fighting

Fighting a lot? Dr. Romance recommends:...more

These Decisions Can Increase Your Happiness

When you use smart decisions and self-awareness to shape your life, it will reflect your deepest aspirations and your fondest dreams. 1. Make your life your own. Decide to re-decide. Re-examine your goals and dreams. Don't just assume that what you wanted yesterday is still right for you. Have your goals and dreams changed? Give yourself the freedom to decide today what you want your life to be about. ...more

Turnaround Time

Solstice is the day near year end when the sun is furthest away from the Earth, and immediately begins to come closer again. Solstice marks a celestial turning point, and it’s no coincidence that we celebrate the end of the old year, and begin a new year of birth and renewal at this time. It’s a time of new beginnings, of letting go of the old and generating the new. Many of my clients come in looking for a new way to see or do things, or a way to let go and refocus. What kind of renewal do you want to generate in your own life? ...more

Problem Solving for Couples

In a previous article “From Struggling to Solving” I discussed how to get from arguing to solving problems. Getting into the right frame of mind is a great start, but many of my clients also need steps for how to solve problems. Here are three of my most effective tips. How to Have a State of the Union Meeting:...more

Romance Does Not Necessarily Mean "Love"

In romantic depictions of love, cute little images of cherubs and cupids abound. But Cupid, in his real incarnation, is not so sweet and cuddly. His arrows can create deep and lasting wounds, and can strike you blind and irrational in a heartbeat. A few disaster-filled run-ins with Cupid’s dart and you can readily believe that love will never work for you. ...more
Yes, I've had romances without a lot of love, and the deepest love without a lot of romance.more

Dr. Romance Video: How to Decide Whether or Not to End Your Marriage

To watch video, click hereDr Romance: Should you stay in your marriage?Marriage can be frustrating and disappointing, especially if you don't have the skills to fix it.  But giving in to the frustration and leaving may turn out to be the worst thing you ever did. Consider these reasons to stay:...more

Mirrors and Teachers

There are people I love who are easy to be around, and others I love who are more difficult for me....more

Living Outside the Box

I was speaking with a client today about his burn-out in his career. This is a man who’s been very successful, earned a lot of money, and worked hard for a big, national corporation. I told him he was burned-out, and on strike, because he had put himself in a box about work. The box consisted of four walls: Wall #1: I have to make $$$$ amount of money Wall #2: I have to work for a certain kind of company Wall #3: I’m scared about letting myself be creative (the unknown) Wall #4: I hate all of it. ...more