Transracial Adoption: One of these things is not like the other...

An interesting incident from January 2012 when I was still a new mom...We are in line at the grocery store, my five month-old daughter sound asleep in her baby carrier on the cart and me watching the woman in front of us unloading her cart's contents onto the belt.  The woman is blonde, blue-eyed, petite, and pretty. The little boy standing next to her - probably five years-old or so - has to be her son because he looks exactly like her. He is adorable. I can't help staring at him....more
Cynthia - thanks so much for taking the time to visit and to leave a comment. And, yes, in the ...more

Love Doesn’t Make You Color Blind

Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye. ~ H. Jackson Brown, Jr.I read an article the other day that said something like 40% of all adoptions are now trans-racial.  How fantastic, I thought!  So many families that look like ours!...more

Confessions Of A Transracial Family

Being an adoptive transracial family, we always knew we were going to face hardships other families would never have to deal with....more
You know, when my cousins were yonger, they had to deal with similar issues despite not being a ...more

The New Nuclear Family

I grew up in small town America with a mother, a father, and a brother…all under one roof.  Like most families I knew, two children in a family was common, as was three, although I did know a family with 18 children...all with names starting with the letter "D."  Very few of my friends came from divorced families, and almost all of our mothers stayed home while our fathers worked outside the house....ContinueLanita Moss ...more

Top Ten Must-Read Books for White Parents of Black Children

Happy Black History Month! As an adoptive mother of two African American children (one Black, on biracial Black/white), I am often asked what I think white people who are considering transracial adoption* should do/think/know/read. As with most parenting questions, I think there are just about as many answers as there are families. That said, there are some issues unique to Black/white interracial families -- especially when the parents and white and the children are African American -- that can be addressed in a way that is useful to most if not all of them. ...more
"Black Baby, White Hands" is a memoir written by Jaiya John, the 1st black child to be ...more


Laila finally moved in Thursday for good. What a joyous day for us. She said she was so happy to be back. Her social worker brought her to us around 1:30 that afternoon. She had all of her worldly possessions in a Hello Kitty backpack. It's so crazy to think that everything she has fits into a backpack. I will buy her everything she needs and lots of things she doesn't. I will make sure she has clothes, toys, vacations. I can't give her those first 6 years back though. She has been in 5 homes before ours. She has faced alot of neglect and rejection. She hasn't been cuddled enough....more

I teared up reading your post. I am so happy for Laila and I commend you for being conscious of ...more

Tough Week

This week has started off pretty awful. First we get a call from DHR on Monday morning. I am expecting it to be Laila's social worker telling us to come pick Laila up and bring her to live with us permanently. Instead she is calling to tell me that because there is a bit more red tape we are NOT moving today and hopefully we can move her by the end of the week. I can't describe how disappointed I was. I was so excited about moving her in on Monday and now she is stuck in her current placement until who knows when....more

You are such an encouragement to me. When you adopt it seems like everyone puts you under a ...more

Pay It Forward Friday


May I ask why you've chosen to go overseas for adoption vs. going stateside?more

Our Last Weekend Without Laila

We finally got the call today we've been waiting on. Laila's social worker called this morning to tell us exactly when "the move" would take place. After talking with Laila, she has decided to move her on Monday. Laila asked to take the weekend to say goodbye to her family and the people at her church. It breaks my heart to think about how hard this has to be for her. I'm sure it's confusing too. The social worker did say one thing that made my day....more

I can't wait!

Blessed Mommy


So Far This Week

We took Laila to church with us for the first time last Sunday. She got nervous on the way and started saying her tummy hurt. I could tell she was a little scared so I promised her that Elizabeth would stay with her the whole time. Having sister close by seemed to make her feel better. I sing in the praise team and during music I saw her sitting on the front row. During the first song she just stood there. On the second she started clapping along. By the third song she was actually dancing and really getting into it....more