One Year ago

One year ago today I traveled to Chicago for the third and final IVF attempt. Being a gestational surrogate, I wasn't used to failure. I was the one that couples turned to when they had problems getting pregnant because I was a "first try, every time" person. This was my third surrogacy and after two failed attempts I was beginning to doubt myself. Maybe I was getting too old? Maybe I had used up all my good luck? Was I putting my couple who I loved to death through more pain just so I could try to experience the joy of pregnancy and surrogacy one more time?...more

6 Things I Want My Children to Learn an Open Letter

To my Three Boys,Everyday I make a wish for you to live and grow to be healthy, strong, happy, smart, and successful.  I also make a wish for me and your father to have the same so that we can better help you find your happiness and achieve your goals.As you grow into men, I hope that I can teach each of you the six lessons that I feel are most important to your happiness and wellbeing....more

The Age of Sticks and Stones

I should've known from my own childhood that my boys don't need a lot of toys to have fun.  Some of my best memories are digging in the dirt with my brother, climbing trees, catching bugs and lizards and putting them in jars or bottles that we found.  I even remember the one time when my parents bought a new refrigerator and my brother and I got to keep the box, that box became our official ninja turtle lair, storm shelter, and on the sunny days we would take it outside and put it under our favorite climbing tree and swing into it....more

"That Moment When Your Heart Explodes From BlogAwesome" #FakeUpworthyTitle

**Yes, that was totes a clickbait title. MADEJALOOK Every year before I revise and repost, I remember. I relive. And even if it's just for one shining day, these memories make everything else fall away: all the petty irritations and frustrations, the dislikes and grudgy feelings...all of the things that, in the long run of life, aren't worth the importance we place on them.  This story is what matters. #TheseLivesMatter ...more

How to make pumpkin butts

Think Twice, Creep, it's Mi Vida Loca; Friday the 13th Birthday time.

The title names the #1 songs in the UK, US, and country charts on this day in 1995 - which happens to also be my kids' date of birth. I think the song titles are all fairly appropriate.Think Twice = with twins, you have to.Creep = yes, they are creepy. And creeps.Mi Vida Loca = IT TOTES IS.  It is time for the Annual Birthday Post!Simmah down, I can see your excitement from here. ...more

Pregnancy Humor: 10 Things I'm Not Grateful For

November represents thankfulness. Individuals are up for the colossal challenge of expressing and releasing what they are grateful for and appreciate during November. They volunteer to participate in many of the daily challenge clubs on Facebook, Twitter, and even Instagram. In fact, I am one of those grateful enthusiasts, but I work every month to share and show my appreciation, not just during the month of November....more

The Twins Who Just Wanted to be Sisters

Fourteen years ago, I gave birth to a beautiful set of identical twin girls.  ...more


something super surprising that i’ve discovered since we announced that we were expecting was all the negative mommies out there. not to say that the vast majority of women that i’ve encountered haven’t been amazing or sweet or provided helpful tips – but there’s also a group hidden in negativity that you don’t find until you, yourself are expecting. so, what does that look like?...more

Braces: Behind the curtain the twins were six we started talking about whether or not they'd need braces. It was an interesting topic for me, because I've never had them. I was excited. By the time they were nine we knew the direction we were headed in, so I called a few Orthodontists in Texas to get an idea of the process and cost. Here's what I didn't expect to find out - it's a secret. It's like Fight Club. Seriously....more
I just had my first get *out* of braces! In case you're curious, what you found is very similar ...more