Building a New Balance After Losing Your Job

One of the things that 'life experience' gives you is the experience of loss. We lose friends, lovers, and often, jobs. When we experience these losses, we either learn from them, or we repeat them. Job loss can be especially stressful, in part because we are trained to not acknowledge that we are mourning when we lose a job -- even a job we didn't love.  We mourn our connection to co-workers, our spending power, the sense of security a paycheck provides, the sense of status that our job title had given us....more
@kulls2 thank you. Too often we experience loss as 'the end of the world' vs. 'the end of ...more

What Take Your Daughters and Sons to Work Day Means When You're Among the Long-Term Unemployed

Exactly nine years ago this week, I was in Toronto's Pearson International Airport sitting next to the co-creator of Take Your Daughters and Sons to Work Day....more

So Much To Do, So Much Time

Since getting laid off from my full-time day job on the last day of 2012, I find I am just as busy as I was before, but things are definitely different.First and foremost, my stress level has dropped significantly. I know this goes without saying. Working forty-plus hours a week while taking care of a large family and elderly parents, volunteering and trying to launch my freelance writing career while stalking literary agents would make anyone's blood pressure rise, right?...more

Coping with the Tough Times

Over the past few months I have struggled with the decision to talk about my personal life (in detail) on this, and other, blogs. My FAVORITE thing about most of the blogs that I read is the raw honesty the bloggers give to their readers, and their openness to divulge their very soul.This has been a tough choice for me, because as a newlywed much of my personal life is directly linked to that of my husband. We lead fairly private lives, and always have. How do you cross that line?...more

Unemployed By Choice, Part Two

What do you do when the job you have taken has taken the life out of you? When the end of the road comes at a job before you have something new lined up, what's the next step? Do you stick it out or do you leave on your own terms? I had reached that crossroads. I had a decision to make. I knew that being in a job that compromised my integrity and held me back from achieving my true potential was not the place I wanted to be....more

Unemployed By Choice, Part One

Many people live in the fear of losing their job and not being able to find another one. The recent dismal unemployment numbers show that this fear is not unfounded. What if you don’t lose your job but leave by choice? This is the unemployed group that no one talks about. What happens when you find yourself in a soul-crushing job situation or one where your morals are being tested?...more

Q&A: What is this Cookbook Project and How Does it Work?

Whether you're a long-time friend or an infrequent visitor to Frankly, My Dear... you're probably aware that I'm trying to raise funds to publish THE UNEMPLOYMENT COOKBOOK, SECOND EDITION....more

Walking in Denethor (Steward of Gondor)'s shoes

"So passes Denethor, son of Ecthelion."  --Gandalf, Return of the King. In Return of the King we meet Boromir's father, Denethor, the steward of Gondor, a man who uses the palantir of Minas Tirith in hopes of discerning the future -- and falls to despair when Sauron shows him is plans. Logic told Denethor that there was no way to beat Sauron.  By might of arms, as even Tolkien fan knows, Denethor was correct.  Sauron could only be beaten by destroying the Ring. ...more

Spooky Style

Dear blogging world, I find myself on the brink of a new career. After many moons of being a jobless statistic, I have a job starting tonight in a few hours. I am going to be a spook girl for about two weeks. This should allow me enough money to put gas in my car, to pay part of the rent and maybe, if I'm lucky, buy some fresh produce. This is a new, semi-local, haunted ride for both children and adults. I will post further thoughts on this after tonight's dry run (literally). I get paid to run and scream that is my job description. We'll see how it goes....more

The price of unemployment paralysis

I've been unemployed for three and a half years.  In that time, only ONE two month temp job -- at the US Census -- has come my way.  I've been on less than 10 interviews total and seriously broke the big toe on my left foot trying to go to one when the security door to the office ran over it.I've moved three times as a result of my unemployment.  First to a tiny studio in Midwood Brooklyn, then to stay with a friend in Cresson, Pennyslvania, and finally to my current apartment in Oakhurst Johnstown, Pennsylvania....more