Finding the Time to Shower

I'm not sure how it happened, but in the last few years motherhood and work have taken over to the point that showering has fallen low on the list of priorities. As I sit here and write this, my hair is starting to look stringy and I'm growing a remarkably scratchy layer of leg stubble. This is not an unusual occurance - the stringy hair syndrome is common enough that I've developed a very effective hairstyle for masking it (it involves lots of upside down brushing of the hair and a barrette). How did I get to this point? When did showering become a luxury like pedicures once were?...more

We are Allowed to be in Awe of Ourselves

My gawd, we are women, hear us ROAR, for crying out loud....more

Screw Work Life Balance: We Need Work Life Policy! Here's All You Need to Know to Join the Movement at BlogHer

For over two years, The Four Hour Work Week has been a national bestseller. Why? Because most of us resent feeling tethered to our jobs and we know we could still do great work even if we had the ability to control our schedules and factor family needs into our day.  We are grown ups: why don’t employers get it? ...more
I was just about to add a link to Riane Eisler's Caring Economy Campaign address for free ...more

Living the Dream! Working Mommy and SAHM

For about eight weeks every year, I get to live my dream!    ...more

Dear lovebugs

Dear Lovebugs: Today was a great day.  I hope when you are older we still do this.  Right now we start everyday talking about what a great day today is, and every night the last thing you tell me is today was a great day mommy.  (well last thing before I tell you good night, I love you, see you in the morning).  I love when you tell me today is a great day, it reminds me that today is indeed a great day.  Even if I am so consumed with getting us all where we need to be, fed, napped, etc.  and consumed with somehow getting my work done, and frustrated be...more

I'm okay with Accidental Alpha - just don't let me turn into Ward Cleaver.

On the old "Leave it to Beaver" show, Ward Cleaver arrived home from work at the end of the day to hear about what went on with everybody, and spend maybe an hour or two with his kids before bed.  He never had more than a vague idea about what his kids were up to, but that was okay because his wife, June Cleaver, had things well in hand....more

Working Mother Magazine's Most Powerful Moms

We have heard a lot of talk about how women have tipped the balance in the workforce. There are more working women in the U.S. than there are working men.  Seventy percent of working women are mothers.  ...more

It's always rough trying to juggle both your career and spending time with your family. ...more

What Are the Long-Term Effects of Childcare on Kids?

It is difficult to write anything objective about childcare when you are a parent who makes use of childcare. I don’t know about you, but there isn’t a day when I don’t question if I’m doing the right thing by allowing my son to be raised 35 hours a week by someone else. I am the norm: mine is one of the eighty-nine percent of children younger than five with employed mothers who is in a regular child care arrangement. When I heard there was a major new study about the long-term effects of care on kids, I needed to read it. And the minute I read the study, I knew what the headline in the media would be “Day care increases risk taking in children, study finds.”  ...more
I would just like to say, if you are using 30-35 hours a week only, you are not the norm. My ...more

Where Did Mommytracking Come From?

Today I saw a horrific billboard from Microsoft’s Hotmail. The ad campaign is titled, “The New Busy.” The tagline was, “The new busy think 9-5 is a cute idea.” I read into the Microsoft message that really busy -- e.g. successful and in demand -- people work way longer than 9-5. If you live in a culture where working long hours is the sole measure of success and ambition, then how can parents really ever succeed and see their kids?  ...more

As a mom who worked full-time equivalent jobs that were often management, I remember days of ...more

Working moms on the verge of a nervous breakdown

My friend Jane* has a problem. She works full-time for a government agency in California and has two little girls in preschool. Jane is really good at her job. Jane is losing her mind. “All I do is work, run home to pick up screaming kids because it’s 5:30 and they’re tired. Wrestle through the evening with them, then clean up the house, go to bed, and do it again.” Jane told me this one evening over the phone, after we’d both wrestled our kids into bed....more