Gatekeeping (1st Edition)

How are you feeling?

What are your plans for tomorrow?

I shared the back story of these simple and yet powerful questions in this post.
Over the past year I have lost two loved ones to suicide. I realize that there is likely nothing I could have done to change the outcome of their lives, but it is something that I struggle with as I continue to work through my grief and try to make peace with these women taking their own lives.
I know that many of us suffer in silence when we are going through difficult and uncertain times in our lives. It doesn't have to be that way. 
I am not asking you to tell me your secrets or your problems, unless you want to of course. But I invite you to check in here (or click over and do so on my blog) to let me know how you are feeling today and what plans you may have for tomorrow.
Here's an excerpt from the post I referenced above called Gatekeepers:
My favorite line in Meg (Hutchinson's) song (called Gatekeepers) is, "maybe every day, in ordinary ways, we hold each other on, we keep each other here."

I think that is so profound and it certainly rings true for me.

There have been countless people throughout my life that have been "Gatekeepers" to me. Though I have never seriously considered taking my own life and strongly believe that I will never do so, I have survived some very rough patches where my self esteem and self worth were severely challenged. 

I love the idea that in "ordinary ways" we can make extraordinary differences in the journeys of loved ones and even strangers that we meet throughout the course of our day-to-day lives. 
Kevin "the Gatekeeper" Briggs has done so by asking those two simple questions of strangers he has met contemplating jumping (off the Golden Gate Bridge), Meg Hutchinson has done so through her music and song, Bob Edwards has done so with the stories he shares on his radio show and you all have done so for me over the years through your comments here, your caring ways, your love and your support as my readers, fellow bloggers, friends and family members. 

Thank you so very much.
I intend to post these "Gatekeeping" blog entries now and then going forward and hope that they will present the opportunity for anyone who reads them who is having a hard time coping with challenges they are facing in life to share. That said, you are certainly welcome to comment about the things you are feeling good about too.  I believe that being able to recognize and name the things we are grateful for is essential to help us find peace and joy in our lives. That is part of why I love participating in Lori's monthly Perfect Moment Mondays.  
Sometimes it's the little things than can help keep us a float when we feel like we are drowning. Just knowing that others care and want to know how we are feeling, as well as being able to think about what we might do tomorrow has the power to help us get through tough times.
Thank you for reading and for sharing. I hope that wherever this blog entry finds you today that you know there are people in your life (I am one of them) who care about how you are feeling and want to know what your plans, hopes and dreams are for tomorrow and the days to come.
I will start us off by answering the questions myself:
I am feeling... 
Glad -- that it is the weekend (and a three day one for my husband and son at that). 
Tired -- because I didn't get enough sleep this week and need to "catch up." 
Motivated -- to get the rest of our Christmas decorations put away (which is always bittersweet after our home looks so nice and colorful during the holiday season). 
Relieved -- that we didn't "over-program" ourselves this weekend (as we have a tendency to), which will allow us to spend quality time together as a family, relax some and also hopefully get things done around our house.
My plans for tomorrow are... 
To go to church with my family in the morning, celebrate one of our friend's birthdays at his home with his family and friends for an early dinner and then wrap up the day relaxing on the couch watching Red Carpet coverage followed by the Golden Globe Awards on TV.


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