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I posted this on hootchi cootchi, my main blog, but didn't get any response. I'd like to think because I'm so eloquent and my writing is so clear and succinct, there is no room for discussion. I doubt that. (edited for profanities here)
I’ve never been a big believer in the right to gay marriage - mostly because I’m anti-marriage for everyone. Hear me out.
I GET IT that it’s a lot easier to have a load of rights when you
are married. In this sense I’m all for it - allow gay folks (all
folks!) to have equal legal rights of course. In the same way that I
would love to have the same legal rights of marriage without having to
call it marriage or apply some sort of label that I don’t believe in to
my partnership.
But what a bunch of legal rights have to do with a religious institution is beyond me.
I’m trying to understand more. I found this NY Times article
that was pretty interesting to me since the author started out sort of
not interested in the concept of marriage. She changes her perspective
once the opportunity for her to marry her partner is there.
As a longtime social activist, I’ve participated in more
than a few acts of civil disobedience, but none more profound and
wonderful.
Civil disobedience, I can dig.
And if you’re feeling especially read-happy, there’s this long NY Times Magazine feature
about young gay men getting married. (The photos are hilarious and
snarky, as you can see from the one I included here.) The guys in this
article tend to adhere to the problems I have with marriage as a
concept - the proof of love test.
Both George and Aaron said they’d also felt an added
pressure in their marriages to “prove to the world,” as George put it,
that gay relationships can last. “My ex and I really wanted to be an
example to our families and straight friends that a gay marriage can
work,” he said.
There are extra added pressures for gay folks to prove that their
relationships are valid, so I can logically understand this idea. Still
- I think there is something f*cked up about having to become “like”
the mainstream to be acceptable. Is everyone striving to be a
middle-aged, white man because that’s what the ideal is in this county?
And! With this California marriage-palooza happening now, gay folks are being asked to keep it normal and turn down the queen. F*ck that!
So you see, I have obviously read more than you on this topic,
because I will bet money that you didn’t click through and actually
read those articles. Just trust me, marriage is whack.
