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Genealogy Calls: When Ancestors Beckon

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Many of us ask about our ethnic heritage.  We wonder why we love travel, hate the wind, pine to speak Italian, or have to live by the sea. Who wrote it into our DNA? What language did they speak, where did they live? Am I Irish or Dutch or Jewish, or all 3? Are the family stories about great grandpa the judge, or great great grandmother the sea pirate true?

Finding accurate data takes time and some skill. You will need to locate and use census material or passenger lists, wills and deeds and spend time in graveyards.

 

Warning: You may be required to let go of some of those cherished family tales. Australians are honored to claim a “convict” as an ancestor. Those poor souls were more indiginent and poor than they were criminal. I was enthralled as dad told of his Scottish forecousin who stole cattle, or sheep from the British. Britain shipped him to Australia as part of their prisoner relocation scheme. Being a Scot with a good eye for location, he worked hard and selected farmland in a prime spot. After he sold it, it became one of the main streets in Sydney and he became Lord Mayor. Eager for information I sent a confident request to the current Lord Mayor. The respectful answer was decorated with three golden crowns on the letterhead. My much loved tale was bollocks.

Cities are renamed, disappear, or totally change in nature and importance, even country borders move. Finding old maps gives a more accurate context for your family. Reading old hand writing and understanding what outmoded words mean can be a challenge.

Is there a right way to request information? Does it change from country to country?  British Army records require that any relative older than you uses the proper form to relinquish their right to the information. Fees are involved. How do you pay in English pounds or Euros?

Is this a real name or a nick name? How do you find her maiden name? In Scotland, as if to aid genealogists the wife is often buried as Mary McPherson wife of Angus Gillespie. Many cultures and nations like England or Holland have distinct naming patterns for sons and daughters. You have to know what is a primary source is, what a secondary source is, and when it matters?

World War II had a devastating impact on families. An infant was left on a sidewalk. Those who found him named him after the town. That cut that family tree down to a shrub. Children lived with non-parents, informally taking their names, that can turn a family tree into a vine. If grandpa was a gypsy, your tree might become a repotted plant.

Polish by decent but with an English sounding name, she said that when her father passed through Ellis Island he did not give his birth name. He read a word on a sign claiming it as his name. It stuck; it made for easy spelling of a name but the tracing of ancestors impossible. His daughter was thankful he was not passing a restroom at the time. Others shortened or anglicized their names other ways. Some Cuban immigrants have little hope of finding any ancestral information.

Brace yourself, you may find unmarried mothers and fathers, children with varying last names in the same brood, relatives you dearly love as blood relatives may have become yours by deed poll. The early 19th century doctor your family prized may have been a grocer’s porter. You may have indentured servants or slaves in your tree. Half brothers and sisters or half uncles and aunts may materialize.

Marriages can be difficult to trace, formal ones not so much but informal ones or non-registered ones are a challenge. Multiple concurrent wives, serial wives, children born before the wedding date, ancestors imprisoned for poaching or fighting could be in your genetic mix. Are you prepared to find out your parents or grandparents lied about their ages to go to war or to get married or just because they wanted to (and you wonder where you get your orneriness from?)

If you have the courage and curiosity climbing your ancestral tree can be a hoot. And there are a multitude of online helps from beginners to advanced. Programs will plot your tree and separate your 9th cousin from your 5th.

Be it a tree, a shrub, a vine or a repotted plant it’s yours. Embrace it. You can take none of their glory and wear none of

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anneisanne 8 pts

I'm amazed at the richness of information you seem to be showing here. I personally have a huge genealogy done in the 30's about my grandfather's family going back to the 1500's, but it's very dry. I know little about the people and what life was like.

GaelMc 8 pts

anneisanne

Annie I just saw your comment, if I may I would suggest you start researching what the times were like in the places they were, some one has paved the way for you. The history, the politics, the language it all adds color, you will be astounded at what you will find. You are so lucky to have the records back to the 1500's. Keep at it girl.

GaelMc 8 pts

Thank you for sharing your photographs and information. I was enthralled by those photographs. What a treasure for you and your family. I left a comment in your album but it came up as "annonymous".

To have records back to the 1500's is astounding and does reflect the work you and your gran did. And yep, testing the stories is part of the fun.

Thanks for dropping by,

xoxoxoe 6 pts

I got the genealogy bug from my grandmother (mother's side) who was able to trace our roots back to the 1500s. I've traced a few branches she didn't and found links to the Salem Witch trials - our ancestor Sarah Averill Wildes was one of the first executed - and have had some personal encounters with American history along the way, like the Deerfield Massacre in MA - we had 2 survivors - and have found an old photo of a Civil War Union soldier, my g-g-grandfather. Grandma was great at keeping things and now I've started scanning them and trying to preserve them for my daughter. I have scanned a Civil war era photo album and still trying to find out who's who - http://mariettefamilyalbum.blogspot.com/

On my dad's side it's tougher, we can only go back to the 1800s, but some of the family stories of getting out of Italy and coming to the US are wonderful. I have found out that a lot of these stories have been seriously cleaned up, too, before I really started asking questions, but that's a lot of the fun.

GaelMc 8 pts

Astute observations alex. It also gave me a feeling of context, it was like I found my place in the crowd. I knew who to stand next to, or at least which town, city, country to stand in. I congratulate you on your ancestor search. Good luck with it.

nellewrites 18 pts

Your husband must have danced a jig when he saw the name...

Mom was just searching Ellis Island records, and having difficulty. I helped her pull up a ship's manifest from 1920, so she's still on the hunt.

nellewrites ( http://nellewrites.net/ )

alexash 6 pts

For my own interest and for my writing, I began my interest in genealogy years ago.

As a writer, I find it just fascinating. The truth is far stranger than fiction. But it can also be exciting and frustrating and bittersweet. But it does make the world feel like a much smaller place.

GaelMc 8 pts

Nelle - wow!!! As my 17 year old would ask, "what is the statistical probability of THAT mom?" This work is not for the feint hearted!!! Your mom is a treasure. Every family should have at least one genealogist each generation to keep the information updated and available for those coming after. Thanks for sharing your "eerie eerie" experience.

My husband traveled back to the country of his origins, he was lost and in the wrong area. His rambling walk had surprised him by taking him to a cemetery, but it was the wrong cemetery. None of his people came to this side of the island. He felt a sudden feeling of being very close to his departed grandfather, he looked down, he was standing beside his grave.

nellewrites 18 pts

genealogy can be scary.

My mom is the genealogist in our family. She has worked at it for well over thirty years, and even at 82, she is still at her computer almost every day, working on and following some new trail.

From her I've learned some kewl facts. My surname and my ex's surname are somewhat unusual, and of different national origins. Yet in the 1790s, there was a couple with the same surnames. It just didn't seem possible.

Then there are the 6 out of the 150 charged in the Salem Witch Trials in 1692 who I trace back to. A few years back I was reading Kathleen Kent's historical novel The Heretic's Daughter. I knew then that Suzannah North Martin was my great granny 8 generations removed, but what I didn't know... I share the story of the book with my mom, this when I was about 2/3 of the way through. She responds by telling me that the main character's aunt, uncle and daughter (Toothakers) are our ancestors. I was floored...here I was reading a book for enjoyment, and it turns out to be (partially) about my family. That is an eerie eerie feeling.

nellewrites ( http://nellewrites.net/ )

GaelMc 8 pts

issas I agree, it can indeed be difficult. When I ran out of actual family leads and became frustrated I went instead to historical facts about the times and places. That inspired me to keep going. I then rewrote what I knew into a backdrop giving context for unknown ancestors. The questions I posted on bulletin boards for specific countries rendered the most engaging and helpful responses.

When I gave up hope of finding my British ancestors my cousin took up the challenge. He found more than I dreamed was available. My problem that my grandfather's name was actually an occupation, it was one of the more infuriating English naming habits. Mr Whomever became Mr Page simply because he could write or Mr Squire just because he was a squire. But so did hundreds of other Mr Whatever's.

Poland has suffered much in many ways including the destruction of precious records. May I suggest you research what was happening at the time your family left, and what they found when they arrived here? Even a generic approach to Polish assimilation into a culture that was itself forming, including linguistic challenges might at least enhance your understanding of your family's culture.

Here is the link to the Polish Genealogical Society. It is a non profit and from the webpage looks like it could be very helpful.

Good luck.
http://www.pgsa.org/

issascrazyworld 5 pts

http://issascrazyworld.com

yet it makes me a bit sad. I am unsure if I can find anything. Polish on my dad's side. Escaped during the Holocaust and pretty much never talked about family again. They changed our name to the most English sounding version of their name. I'm not sure when either. Whether it was after they were here, or upon entering Ellis Island. Makes things difficult.

GaelMc 8 pts

Jenna - thank you for stopping by and for making a comment, even on a topic that saddened you. That takes courage. In my blog titled "Genealogy Challenge" (link provided)I stated in the first line that genealogy searches are not for the feint hearted.

If the software that your mother used has updates you may be able to rescue all that information she painstakingly and lovingly collated. Also if the company is still operating they may be able to assist.

It can be overwhelming. If it is something that you want to do despite feeling overwhelmed you can take take it at your pace, as you are able. There are chat rooms where you can get support to keep going if that would help.

Another way to preserve the information for your daughter is to write it. I know adopted children whose birth families gathered information and photographs for them if they asked. One family placed it all in a simple file. When the children (as adults) did ask they were really thrilled to have that treasure. I salute you for wanting to do something this difficult, out of love, for your daughter. ((hugs))

JennaHatfield 52 pts

These posts of yours make me sad.

When I was planning on relinquishing my daughter, my mom went to great lengths to get our family's lengthy genealogy done for her. I think, however, the disc she put it on now holds outdated software and it is probably inaccessible. I'm here for her if she has questions, but what if I'm not? And what about her dad's side of the family? I started an Ancestry.com account to play around with his side of the family for her just recently, but backed out of it... it's all too big and scary for me.

This is why I haven't done my husband's tree yet either. It's scary to me.

Family Section Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ). She is a freelance writer and photographer.