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Forgive or not to forgive..
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How many of us allow ourselves to not forgive and don’t
realize we become the victims once more by hanging on to sadness from the bad
experience or injustice I’m not saying you don’t have the right to be mad or
angry at someone or something shocking that happened in your life. On the contrary I realize at age 63 existence
today is harsh, unfair, and disgusting and it’s never going to stop being tough
to live which means we have to learn how
to move on and discontinue the cycle of pain by living in spite of hardship and
disappointment.
When something awful happens to you and it’s not your fault
you feel distraught and confused I have the nerve to suggest you start thinking
of how you can prevent it from happening another time be proactive and decide what
you might be able to do to prevent this same thing from occurring again am I
nuts when all you want to do is feel bad yes that’s what you must do in order
to survive. Establish how or why and (when
you find the wrongdoer) the individual who was a back stabber or
disappointed you in a horrifying manner take charge and make sure it doesn’t
happen again get that person or obsession out of your life focus on moving on
as quickly as possible not dwelling in the unhappiness which has overcome
you. The longer you struggle in the pity
the more opportunity for this problem to attack your body which contributes to
depression and makes you more susceptible to getting ill. Meet with your family and friends ask them to
help you stabilize or more doom and gloom will come. It’s not bad enough someone or something
negative has already happened to you in addition it’s your added responsibility
to move on and learn from the occurrence and stop it from happening again.
In order to move on we have to discover forgiveness and
forgetting about the past and these are virtues I’ve always had a tough time
with as it seemed that revenge would feel so much better and be the appropriate
end to anyone who had hurt me. However I’ve seen friends and family wallow in
their disappointment and self pit (including myself) and miss so much good that
was happening around them and sometimes the person your mad at doesn’t even get
it and it’s only you who has been suffering.
Therefore as a 63 year old grandmother who’s had her time with pity,
grief, sorrow and sadness I pronounce with the death of Farrah Fawcett and
Michael Jackson we never know how long we’re given on this earth thus working
on getting happier should be our number one priority not getting even. Spending
even a moment of your precious life fixating on the past is counter productive
instead dream about what you’ll do to enjoy the future. One of my blogging friends Robin Easton from
the blog Naked in Eden, guest wrote on our blog grammology.com this week and I’ve
read the post a few times so I begin to make it my goal to forgive let go and
live. Therefore I’m hoping you’ll do the
same pop over to my blog grammology.com and read for yourself how to let go and be content
so you can feel again and see life for all the curious roads it’ll lead you
down when you relax and become open to the many mysteries and joys life can be
when you let it.
My best and blessings,
Dorothy from grammology
grammology.com
