Go the F*ck to Sleep, Parents!
By flaursen on July 01, 2014
My husband and I are quite the pair at bedtime. We each have CPAP machines and SnoreGuards (a dental appliance that moves the lower jaw forward and opens up the airway).
We slept apart for about two years. Not only were we in separate beds, we were in separate buildings. We have a separate studio building that we use as an office and guest bedroom and bathroom.
When my depression flared up during my second pregnancy, I realized how desperately I needed to get a good night's sleep. Sleep is almost everything when it comes to my depression. The last time I stayed up late watching TV, I lost it with my son Zach, yelling at him, yanking him upright, and pretty much terrifying him and horrifying my husband.
Parenthood comes with sleep deprivation, that's just the way it is. But once the kids are mostly sleeping through the night, it's important to make sure we're not sacrificing sleep for other reasons or ignoring signs that we have physical problems that keep us from sleeping well.
Things that can wait:
- TV shows: I keep getting hooked on shows that are on Netflix or Amazon Prime. I just finished watching all five seasons of "Chuck" (over 90 episodes). Do yourself a favor and turn off all electronic devices by 9:30 pm. The show will still be there tomorrow.
- Books: I haven't been reading much lately (because of watching too much TV), but I do remember staying up late reading Gillian Flynn novels ("Gone Girl" is amazing!). If you have to read something late at night, try to make it something a little boring or at least short, like a magazine.
- Tidying up: Seriously, what's the friggin' point? Those darn little monsters are going to get up in the morning and trash the house again anyway. Just clear a path through the toys, blankets, and paper airplanes on the floor in the case of an emergency, and your work is done. Also, check out these hilarious and speedy housecleaning tips.
- Talking to your spouse: My husband and I realized we couldn't talk about anything too serious or talk much about scheduling stuff right before bedtime because it would stress us out or make us too anxious to fall asleep. Try cuddling or having a pillow fight instead.
- You're using the bathroom more than twice per night. This may not be true for everyone, but once I started sleeping better, I was too deeply asleep to need to get up to use the bathroom.
- You keep dropping things or bumping into things.
- As the Bloggess puts it, you're "feeling stabby." I have had a fit of rage because a pillow wouldn't slide effortlessly into the pillowcase.
I'm incredibly lucky that my husband is willing to meet our kids' needs during the night. If he's having a rough night, I still help out, but we've found it's better for the whole family to get me as much sleep as possible. I'm still a bit of a Dragon Lady even with a full night's sleep.
I urge you to take stock of your sleep habits. Are you putting other things ahead of your need and right to a good night's sleep? Are there signs you might need to get tested for a sleep disorder? (If so, stay tuned for a future blog post on this topic.)
What do you do to hoard sleep like the treasure it is?
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