God is Good

Today I'm posting an excerpt from my book manuscript. An agent advised me to edit it quite a bit, so some of my favorite sections will end up on the cutting room floor, so to speak. The following is a piece about Nana, my father's mother. It's long...which is part of the reason I'm posting it on Saturday (a total of 4.5 people read Graceful on Saturday, so most won't be subjected to this long-winded story!). Also I'm succumbing to Saturday morning laziness -- why write a brand-new, original post when I can steal something from the book?! So here it is...

Nana was matter-of-fact when it came to God and the afterlife. She insisted Jeanine and I inscribe our initials on the bottom of every Hummel and Royal Dalton lining the living room mantel. “Pick which ones you want, girls," she'd tell us. "Where I’m going, I won’t need a thing.”

And she took a decidedly fashionable approach.

“Now when I die, this is the dress I want to be buried in, girls,” she’d instruct, rifling through her closet while Jeanine and I protested, “No! No! Bleh!! Nana, yuck!” She’d carry on, detailing her funereal outfit down to girdle and shoes, every now and then testing us – “Which dress did I say, girls?” – to ensure we had committed her selections to memory (We did. More than 25 years later Nana was buried in the dress she had chosen).

As a nurse Nana had seen her share of death; she had even cared for Papa's younger brother Roland in their home in the months leading up to his death from cancer. Jeanine and I begged for macabre stories from her R.N. days; we even tried to cajole Nana into telling us which of the two beds in the guest room Uncle Rollie had died in. She refused, of course, so when she turned off the light and kissed us goodnight, we taunted each other over who was sleeping in the "dead bed."

Nana was reticent about one topic in particular, and that was baby Paul, my father's younger brother who died just a few days after his birth. In our youth we were innocently cruel, asking Nana over and over about baby Paul, but she always brushed us off, never revealing any details about the circumstances of his death. It wasn't until Nana’s wake decades later that Jeanine and I learned about the impact of Paul’s death on her.

As we stood by Nana’s casket, Ann, the wife of my grandmother's nephew, pulled a folded sheet of notepaper from her purse. My grandmother had written Ann and Michael the note after Ann had lost her own baby, and on that rosebud-embellished paper, yellowed and wrinkled soft through decades of handling, Nana's anguish, compassion and empathy were revealed.

This note, I realize now, is the most telling testament of Nana’s faith. In it she offered practical advice, urging Ann to rest and get her full strength back before resuming household duties. But she also wrote explicitly about God and his comfort.

“It was just twenty years ago that our little Paul came – and left us to be an angel,” wrote Nana. “Knowing how I felt those twenty years ago and every day and year since, I know your little one will always hold a very special place in your hearts.”

Then Nana wrote something unexpected, words that reflected a deep reservoir of faith that thrived beneath her sparkling, sassy exterior. “I am sure this is just the very beginning of the trials, and heartaches, and joys, and happiness of married life,” wrote Nana. “God is good, and as young Catholic parents you will carry on with courage and grace.”

Despite her own anguish and pain, despite the devastating loss of her own infant son, despite that and all the other trials and heartaches life had tossed her way, my grandmother felt in her heart that God was good. Nana’s profound faith had never been so apparent as it was the day I stood next to her casket and read her words, written forty-six years prior to Ann and Michael.
Michelle blogs about faith in the everyday on www.nebraskagraceful.blogspot.com.

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