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So a funny thing happened on the way to this blog post. I was going to write about... well I wasn't sure what I was going to write about, but I had few ideas I was researching. And then I got distracted by shiny things." Gold Stars" to be exact. Actually, I was first distracted by a post written by Marc Wilson, a gay man, about how he slept with a woman for "science." I really don't know what sort of outcome he expected; if you're not attracted to someone, I don't care how much booze is involved, the sex is not going to be good. Anyway, that's not the point. In the comments, someone mentioned how he lost his "gold star." And I thought, "Ooo, shiny things," and then I couldn't focus on anything else.
In my world, that would be the GLBT one, a "gold star" is someone who has never slept with someone of the opposite sex. Why it's called "gold star," I do not know. If anyone knows the origin of this terminology, please fill me in because I'm interested in knowing and I'm not having any luck finding it. I did find Star Gays, which can be used to qualify your level of gayness. According to Star Gays, a "Gold Star" is someone who has never slept with anyone of the opposite sex. A "Silver Star" is someone who has slept with one person of the opposite sex, and a "Bronze Star" is someone who has slept with two or more people of the opposite sex.
It sort of seems like there should be a star or two that comes after Bronze. I mean the difference between two, or more, can be quite vast. Or more, could be 3, or it could be 103. It would make more sense if "Bronze Star" was like 2-5 people, followed by "Nickle Star" 5-10 people, followed by "Copper Star" 10-15 people, followed by "Super Nova."
I've seen a few references to stars other than gold, and they all seem to, mean something a little different. Sasha, of Card Carrying Lesbian suggests the following star rating:
So you see, I’ve been sleeping with women for two years longer than I was mistakenly sleeping with men. Maybe we can get some sort of credit for that? Like a silver star once you’ve slept with women for as long as you slept with men? Or once you’ve slept with more women than men. You get a bronze star once your time in Homo City has surpassed your time in Hetero-Ville.Shoot, maybe we could get a tarnished gold star once we get married to the woman of our dreams and adopt a bi-racial baby? -read full post, Born Again Gold Star Lesbians?
Does gold tarnish? I don't know. I kind of think once the genie is out of the bottle, there is no going back. You've either slept with someone of the opposite sex, or you haven't. You're either a "gold star," or you're not. But really, does any of it even matter? Does being a "gold star" make you more gay, or a better gay than someone who is a "super nova." So what if someone spends a few years looking for love in all the wrong places. What matters is where they find love now. So while it's fun to talk about what kind of star you might have, does it really mean anything?
Now if you'll excuse me, I'm taking my somewhere between "bronze" and "super nova" star and heading to bed to join my "Super Star." Hmm. Now I'm starting to think that really, I'm a "Lucky Star."
What do you think, does "gold star" mean anything? What about the rest of the star rating system.
Check out these "gold stars" by other bloggers:
- Gold Star, by 1soul2spirits
- My hetero-curious gold star, by Sweet
- You're a gold star lesbian? How precious., by Chanel
Zoe is a BlogHer Contributing Editor (Life-GLBT). She also writes about her life most ordinary at gaymo
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