Heating Things Up in the Bedroom


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When it comes to bringing adult sex toys into the bedroom and introducing your lover to the newest vibrating contraption that guarantees explosive orgasms while it makes toast, approach is everything!!


If you want to spice things up a bit with a few play things, that’s great…as long as your lover isn’t vehemently against anything non-traditional in the love department.  Some people have not explored their own sexuality and may be closed to the idea of expressing themselves sexually.  Bringing a surprise sex toy into this situation isn’t advisable. There may not be a magic pill out there that enlightens ones sexuality but you can encourage your mate to explore and find out for themselves what turns them on. Then they can tell you all about it when you get home at the end of the day!


If you’re hoping to convince your slightly more sexually aware lover to add a few ‘play’ toys to your love making, I recommend the following approach:


  1. Timing is everything!! Don’t approach the subject at a time that may create undue pressure or feelings of inadequacy, such as just before making love or just after.  I suggest bringing up the subject of adult sex toys in a light hearted, noncommittal way.  Ask what they think about sex toys or vibrators? Have they ever owned one?  Not even in college?  Are they secretly curious and just reluctant to ask for their own vibrator? Would they like it if you surprised them with one some night soon?
  2. Don’t go too fast. Let them get use to the idea.  Maybe their open to surfing the net and looking at what today’s technology has done to the sex toy world.  Starting off slow and simple will assure a more positive experience, much like entering the pool from the shallow end. 
  3. Keeping this philosophy in mind, start with a sexy piece of lingerie and a mutually satisfying and simple sex toy like a vibrating cockring with a warming lubricant. Slip them to her, gift wrapped, at dinner one night while you’re seducing her and she won’t be able to resist.
  4. Sensuous massage with aromatic massage oils is also a great way to break the ice while you arouse your lover with your touch, scent and desire. Tease them and tell them what naughty things you’d like to do if only there were a sex toy nearby.
  5. Introduce a sex toy only when your are sure your lover is completely receptive and ready to move on to the next stage of foreplay.  If they’re nervous and still not ready yet, no problem.  Keep it handy but don’t pressure. Let them know its there in case they want to experiment alone. Don’t worry!! They’ll change their mind eventually.


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