With a team that is currently at 2-9 for the season, being a New York Jets fan is painful already. If you are a female fan of the J-E-T-S you get the added humiliation of being sexually harassed at halftime.
...on Sunday, several hundred men lined one of Giants Stadium’s two pedestrian ramps at Gate D. Three deep in some areas, they whistled and jumped up and down. Then they began an obscenity-laced chant, demanding that the few women in the gathering expose their breasts.
David Picker - New York Times
I find this infuriating. As a female sportsfans don't we go through enough already? I've known since I was a little girl I would never play in the NFL or NBA, and now I can expect a chant of "Show us your tits" if I want to use the ladies room at halftime?
While I can honestly say that I have been to many sporting events in several different stadiums around the country, and I have never run across this sort of behavior, it seems like this is a New York Jets tradition. It is called a Gate D party.
Erin from The Queen of Spain even found proof on You Tube:
Huffington Post contributor Leora Tanenbaum says, “I hate to sound like a broken record, but the sexual double standard is alive and well. Boys will be boys, and girls will be sluts. And across the land, people continue to believe that this is the way it’s supposed to be.” Tanenbaum drew attention and questioned the behavior while commentors asked for proof.
Let’s watch some YouTube, shall we???
As the NYT reports, this whole Gate D party is a tradition at Jets homegames....Some women comply. Some women walk away clothed and get heckled. Some women are spit on. Some women have bottles thrown at them. Some women are groped. More importantly hundreds of men think this is ok.
I think Erin has a great point. Why do that many men think that this is a reasonable thing to do? How would these guys feel if it was their mother?Or sister? Or daughter?
Suzanne from CUSS had a great comeback to David Picker and the "man" he quoted in his article:
I read your quotes in the New York Times article . The article details how hundreds of men line up on the ramps outside Gate D during halftime at Jets game to shout obscenities at the women forced to pass by you. It seems that you have a fucked notion that you have the right to chant at these women, "Show us your tits." It also seems that if a woman does not comply, you find it appropriate to spit at her and hurtle plastic bottles at her head.
Patrick, you happily boasted to the Times that harassing women at the stadium "is the game." After one woman refused to reveal her breasts, Marco, you told the Times reporter that you were "very disappointed." I am glad that both of you are so honest and think harassment is so much fun. Since you like games so much, I promise that I am going to play one with both of you. If I find either of you, I am going to send you thousands of emails demanding that you show me your balls. If you don't, I am going to throw virtual bottles at your heads because I am "very disappointed."
There is another great post on this up at Shakesville.
Thanks for the lead on this one, Suzanne.
Contributing Editor Sarah also blogs at Sarah and the Goon Squad and Draft Day Suit.
Comments
The right to bear breasts...
It may not be pretty. It may not be nice. But at least we can do it, with or without being accompanied by a male relative. What's that you say?
How about being gang raped and then, as the victim, being sentenced to six months in jail and 200 lashes. LASHES!!!
If you haven't heard the story, here it is.
Quite frankly, while this Jets "controversy" (and I watched the Youtube link above) shows a certain fraternity environment and arguable bad taste, it doesn't seem that outrageous by comparison. Heck, if they threw around some beads, you could call it Mardi Gras. "Drinking beer" and "cheering for girls to expose themselves", isn't that what they do in the celebrated destination called New Orleans? Or is that Spring Break? Girls gone wild, indeed.
As a woman, of course I want to see greater justice and equality. But perhaps we can have greater impact by exposing (pun intended) the horrible conditions facing women in other nations, and fighting to enact change for them. I'd much prefer to show some tit than have men dictate that I couldn't show my face or walk the streets without male supervision. Who's with me?
Not and And/Or Situation
While I completely agree that women in other countries face far graver situations, I don't think it is fair to say that sexual harassment in the US in any situation is undeserving of commentary just because some women have it worse. I think all of the writers and contributing editors at BlogHer work hard to bring attention to a variety of issues and conditions that women contend with around the world. Being forced to "show some tit" or risk being spit on is not any less of a situation in which males dictate how women behave than it is to say that if you show your face, you deserve to be spit on. Whenever women are forced to comply with male demands or be repaid with some degree of violence, we have a problem.
Sarah, thanks for writing about this situation. I find it infuriating that in this day and age and place, I can't go out for an afternoon of fun without the possibility of being harassed by cretins like those men at the Jets games.
Suzanne Reisman, Contributing Editor - Feminism & Gender
Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS)& Other Rants
I never said...
...the Jets story was "undeserving of commentary." That is a misrepresentation. Instead I was simply comparing and contrasting, adding my part to the conversation.
If the purpose of comments is only to provide approval, then I misunderstood. Again, my intention was merely to draw attention to a far greater issue regarding women's rights, and one that I see nowhere discussed on this site.
Whenever women are forced to comply with male demands or be repaid with some degree of violence, we have a problem.
Suzanne, I couldn't have said it better myself. So how can we be so dismissive and unconcerned about a 19-year girl, being brutally gang raped by seven men (In her own words) and then, unbelievably, punished further with jail time and being whipped, like a modern day slave? And guess who will be administering the 200 lashes?
Answer: "cretins," the men who believe she is not the victim, but deserving of it.
Will they be verbally assaulting her as well? Will the lashes just be on her buttocks or across her chest and face? Will they be delivered all at once, waking her up whenever she passes out in between? Think about it.
It may not be as popular to criticize and condemn as Guantanamo, but this is REAL barbarism at the hands of Islamic law. Is that why no one will touch it? As activist bloggers, shouldn't we mobilize, giving it the widespread attention it deserves? Seems like many are ready to let it fade off like any other news story.
Should this not be a rallying cry for all feminists around the world? Speaking out to make a difference, to affect change, ending the oppression, inequality and violence against women in countries that not only condone it - but make it national law.
As for some men in America behaving towards women like it's Girls Gone Wild, maybe we should also turn our attention to the entertainment industry and the "Mardis Gras" mentality that pervades the sexuality of our youth and college campuses. But that's another story for another time.
No one is dismissive
I'm sorry if I misunderstood you. No one is dismissive of the story you report. It is horrible.
Suzanne Reisman, Contributing Editor - Feminism & Gender
Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS)& Other Rants
There is no fear here
Since I blogged about Guantanamo earlier this month, I think I should chime in.
I know of no one here who is afraid to write about the oppression of women in Islamic nations. For example, I published this post last year that led a number of members of this online community to write letters to the government of Iran to protest the planned execution of seven Iranian women by stoning? Other folks here have also written about what is going on with women in Muslim countries. More recently, our discussion of the murder of journalist Chauncey Bailey considered the relevance of Islam in fostering the mentality of Bailey's alleged killer.
As for the case you raised, it's abhorrent, to be sure. I learned about it from reading your comment, and I thank you for raising it. As BlogHer's lead editor on the law beat, it's a reminder to me to keep my eyes and ears open for stories about justice issues outside of the United States.
Kim
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