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The hardest stage of parenthood is when your children are newborns. All they do is eat and poop and cry and they can't do anything for themselves. You are certain you will never sleep again.

Rose Cries

The hardest stage of parenthood is when your children are toddlers. They're into everything and eating everything, including everything they're not supposed to eat, and no surface is safe from their grubby, grabby hands.

The hardest stage of parenthood is when your children are preschoolers. Their motto is I CAN DO IT and sometimes they can't, but tell them so and risk unleashing a monster. They are equal parts charm and insanity, and there is no reasoning with them.

The hardest stage of parenthood is when your children are in elementary school. They're trying hard to sit still when all they really want to do is play. They struggle (and you do, too) with independence. Don't dare call them a little kid, even when they're crawling into your lap to snuggle.

The hardest stage of parenthood is when your children are in middle school. Hormones make a tween a crazy person. They have the body of a young adult and the decision making skills of a 4 year old. They will make you beam with pride, until you discover the boogers they've wiped on the wall.

The hardest stage of parenthood is when your children are teenagers. All they want to do is get away, and, sometimes, you wish they would get away. You try to reconcile their increasing freedoms with your own overwhelming fear. You are tempted to kick them out the door, then scramble to pull them back in and never let go.

The hardest stage of parenthood is when your children are grown. When you stop being number one on their speed dial, and days go by when you don't even know what they're doing. When they talk about their 'family' to other people, and you realize they're not talking about you.

The hardest stage of parenting is the one you're in right now.

The good news is, it's also the easiest.

 

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Laine Griffin 659 pts

What a great post!  It brought tears to my eyes! It really is so true that the hardest stage is the one you are in. My husband and I were remarking recently about this, about how difficult our daughter was when she was an infant. We thought it would never end! And then, one day, it just did. And we were on to the next stage, and the other difficulties were a distant memory!

LilyPad 5 pts

Well put! Every stage is the hardest and the easiest. Hard in the moment easy when you look back....

momstoryteller 6 pts

This is so true. With 4 kids from 5-16 years old, I've watched everyone of them go through stages that were wonderful, and a few that were horrible (anyone else start checking the return policy at age 7?). But every time I think I must be a horrible parent, they say something that makes me realize they've been listening all along. Or they do something that shows they really do have a good heart and the courage to do the right thing, even when it's hard. It's those moments when you realize the sleepless nights, the messes, the back talk, the constant pushing for more independence- they were all worth it. I mean, sure, at the time I wanted to ground them for life. But now, I just realize the challenges are part of how they figure out what kind of person they want to be. (Now I just have to keep reminding myself of that when my 9 year old rolls her eyes and assures me I'm the one with the problem.)

nikonMom 27 pts

The hardest part of parenthood is thinking "Ok, this is the best stage. I wish they would just stay like this forever." Then they transition to the next stage, and you realize "No, I was wrong. THIS is the best stage. While I'm sentimental and nostalgic about the last one, I'm having so much fun now!". Then they instigate a battle of the wills, and you think, "No, I was wrong again. This stage is sooo hard!".

Motherhood = Constant emotional contradictions. And I wouldn't give it up for ANYTHING!

cdnkaro 44 pts

Great post! So far (mine are 4, 3, almost 2, almost 1), each stage has presented its own challenges, and has seemed overwhelming and very difficult. Once mastered (or at the very least understood), we move on and then begin anew. At least each stage is easier the next time around.

sharongreenthal 50 pts

The hardest stage of parenting for me was infancy. The lack of sleep, the self-doubt, the fear of "breaking" my babies. I was so much better off when I could communicate with them through words.

After that, I'd have to say middle school. Just a big hot mess all the way around - growth spurts, hormones, drama.

I love having adult children (19 and 21). There is such pleasure in seeing them as grown-ups navigating the world...but still needing their mom and dad sometimes!

won 5 pts

Forgot one (at least in my world - and it's very profound).

The hardest stage of parenting is when you have to help your young child slip away from this lifetime - to be there 110% for them, to comfort them both physically and emotionally while breaking inside yourself. The hardest stage of parenting begins when you have to sit your child down and tell them that they are going to die.

Hands down hardest.

Diane McNeil 6 pts

In retrospect, the stage I was in was the easiest and the one I am presently in seems the hardest. Looking back (oldest is 34 and youngest is 25) all those years were great and not so hard. I just made it that way, mostly by my worrying. We all have to live through this. Adult children need as much love and support just not advice or suggestions. Peace is kept that way.

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chryssanthe

aspaonline that was so true though I am in the first stages kid 2,5 year old

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chryssanthe It seems like yesterday my kids were 2,5... Time goes by so quickly!

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Jellyzbean
Jellyzbean

blogher honestly, all of it. The minute u have a child, u r letting ur heart walk outside ur body. It's thrilling & terrifying at same time

AmySuesPlace
AmySuesPlace

blogher wait..There is an EASY stage???

BlogHer
BlogHer

amysuesplace No, I think it's hard, harder, hardest. ;) -Momo

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Polish Mama on the Prairie
Polish Mama on the Prairie

I'm finding the school years to be hard for me to deal with. Because when she has issues with a child at school or feels hurt in some way, I am not there hugging her and comforting, I can't take away the pain for her, all I can do is hope the "tools" I've given her were the right ones. Heartbreaking.

Jennifer Diamond
Jennifer Diamond

Agree. Newborns are wasted on new parents. It's the 3 year olds that get ya. Ugh. Please give me back naptime.

Leslie Whitney
Leslie Whitney

Oh, and for me newborns are easy peasy. They just sleep, eat and poop. Seriously.

Leslie Whitney
Leslie Whitney

Right now! Ages 1.5, 4 and 7.

Sue Dudley Bolls
Sue Dudley Bolls

There are challenges at every stage! Some seem more traumatic than others but you always find a way to get through them. Growing pains make everyone and every relationships stronger.

Christina Lane
Christina Lane

has been different with each child so far - nothing harder I think than a super colicky screaming newborn though.

Esther Kraig
Esther Kraig

My son is the hardest stage. He has Autism - so he's a perpetual toddler, but getting bigger by the day! He's five and still has the reasoning skills of a one year old. MOMMY!

She Writes It
She Writes It

Til three, then til seven, then til teenager, then til adult.

Kimberly Gorman Gavagan
Kimberly Gorman Gavagan

Toddler. Still wearing diapers, on the move, no sense of danger and openly defiant.

Pam Styles
Pam Styles

Well said..."hardest stage...you're in"

Jacki Carugati McHale
Jacki Carugati McHale

For me, newborn to toddler. I had some rough PPD that I didn't get treated for, I was in denial, and with a boy and a girl 22 months apart, and my husband gone all the time working 3 jobs, I'm not surprised I was as crazy as I was.
Now they are almost 4 and 6 and we are doing much better.
I agree everyday is hard, I just need to keep working on patience.

Marie Stanley
Marie Stanley

my youngest is almost 30, i have three grand daughters, it's still hard.

Barbe Beaty
Barbe Beaty

The hardest stage is from gestation to about 35 years old... LOL

Jessica Orlowicz
Jessica Orlowicz

Toddler. They're old enough to get into everything, but too young to reason with.

Jenny Nicholes Tufford
Jenny Nicholes Tufford

Ha!! TEENAGERS.

Alisha Brignall
Alisha Brignall

Preschooler - they have a mind of their own. :/ babies can be moved around and don't protest too much. ;) in my experience anyway. (ps. Elementary age is awesome)

Tracee Sioux
Tracee Sioux

Before 3. It's heavy lifting and hard labor until they can dress themselves, go to the bathroom themselves, communicate what they want and fix themselves a snack.

Tatiana Powell
Tatiana Powell

Newborn, by far. Those first five weeks were such a terror that I'm still 100% opposed to a second pregnancy... and my kid turns 3 next week.

Ramee Larson
Ramee Larson

Our youngest daughter was born 18 months ago with many special needs. Every stage of this has been hard, it's true--but currently she is getting 4 of her large back teeth. She doesn't sit up on her own and can't move around to distract herself so it has been constant screaming for 3 weeks. We're making it but it sure is trying!