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Does Having a Baby Really

Have to Change Everything?

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Okay, you knew it was inevitable. First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes... well, technically before the baby, then comes 9-months of a transformative experience.

Johnson & Johnson claims that having a baby changes everything. I am super excited about what's ahead and I feel a little guilty admitting this, but I don't want this baby to change EVERYTHING. In particular...

1. I don't really want to gain 35 pounds. That is approximately 35% of my original body mass. If I were a hippo and I got 35% bigger, I wouldn't be able to walk. Some days I fear I will wake up and find that I've morphed into a hippo.

2. I don't want to wear maternity clothes. Yet, today I donned a NOM maternity top and an Ingrid & Isabel belly band for the first time. Instead of emulating the happy, trendy pregnant women on the websites, I felt like a boat. But I made it work:

 

3. Most importantly, I don't want to slow down. I've been asked, "So now that you're pregnant, will you be finishing school?" Um, yes, just because I am pregnant doesn't mean I will drop out of my program. This isn't like my junior high school where they would enroll girls in "alternate institutions" when they got pregnant. I live in a place called Adulthood where people have kids and jobs and pursue educations. This baby is going to know the best napping hideouts on Wharton's campus before it can even say "tuition."

The slowing down part does scare me the most. Mainly because -- and again, I feel guilty admitting this -- I have not had to slow down yet. I haven't stopped practicing yoga. I haven't had to take any days off from work. I haven't missed any classes. I haven't stopped traveling or socializing or prancing up and down the sidewalks with my goddaughter. I haven't even puked, not once. I feel great.

I mean, I do take more naps (almost daily). And I do miss sushi like crazy (more than anything else)... but otherwise, I've been lucky. This baby is already well-behaved. We get along. He/she knows that it's going to be a crazy ride and is already up for it. And I am grateful.

Rosie the Riveter

When this baby arrives, it will change everything. In fact, the baby has already changed me inside and out (refer to photo of me in a maternity "muumuu" above). I just hope that everything doesn't change completely. Just for a little longer. Please?

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robotheart 9 pts

I'm so sick of maternity clothes. Just wait until you get to the end, and you start to outgrow even those and you're down to wearing stretch pants. Hippo doesn't even begin to describe how I feel/look these days. At least the maternity clothes are only temporary, though.

The slowing down part scares the buhjeezus out of me, too. I have been really worried about what a baby will do to my career. I am finally where I want to be and don't want to have the rug pulled out from under me just because I have a baby now. Fortunately, my office has been really baby friendly, and I've been promoted (twice) since I announced my pregnancy. Fingers crossed that this doesn't change, because I'm really, really happy with where I am professionally. I want my personal life to work WITH that, not against it.

letiacharlyce 6 pts

I'm really hating the maternity clothes and having to slow down. I myself was preparing to go back to school this fall semester right before I found out I was pregnant. I decided to put it on hold and I'm glad I did because I had a heck of a hard time with my first trimester. But I don't think it is selfish to want to pick up my goals and pursuits next fall. Heck, I'm taking this as an opportunity to get back into writing. Now that I have something interesting to blog about ;-)

runnerbabe6 6 pts

I hear you! Maternity clothes don't have to slow you down, though. There have been SOOOO many newcomers to the market since my first pregnancy 10 years ago. I've been extremely surprised with the hip options out there 2nd go! I was very happy to find the Maternal America collection at http://www.justmaternityjeans.com Simply great!

LucindaA 36 pts

Don't feel guilty because you have been able to do most of the stuff you did before you got pregnant. That's great. You will adjust when you have to. And Jenna is right. Having a baby does change a lot of things but not who you are fundamentally. It just changes how you do things. Now you have this new baby and you will get to share all of who you are with this child. It's pretty cool.

JennaHatfield 134 pts

Don't worry too much.

Having a baby does change a lot of things. It totally turned my priorities around, made me a bit crazier and generally wrecked my body.

BUT?

I'm still the same person. I really am. I may look a little different. I may have new priorities, new interests. But I'm still Jenna. And you will still be you. I promise.

B-School Babe 6 pts

JennaHatfield Thanks for the words of encouragement - and thanks for featuring this in the Family section on BlogHer!