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There's a thought process that goes like this: Women dress for other women. Because men don't notice or care about your shoes. Or your earrings, or your outfit, or your purse, or your makeup, or your hair... Oh, no! You are doing it for yourself and your sisters. It's got nothing to do with him.
I call total BS.
Oh, a man who says this certainly *thinks* it's true. Unlike your female friends he may not notice your new shoes. He probably won't complement you on your beautiful earrings or perfectly dyed hair. He doesn't understand why you need a variety of shoes to go with the variety of women's clothing for various situations. No, he lays it all on you and your vanity and your female friends and your personal love of the shiny.
And we're complicit. I hear women say it all the time.That women dress to impress other women. Because men don't see or appreciate.
I call Total BS, and I Can Prove It.
Because I work in the entertainment industry where we create film and television. You probably watch or at least have watched some film and television. And you know what shows you like and what you don't. You know some shows leave you cold, while others turn you on, make you excited or happy or sad or moved or simply drawn into the story, whatever it is.
But if you're not in the industry you probably don't see the lens length and how that effects your experience. You may not be conscious the same way I am conscious about the editing choices. The color choices. The shot design. The film stock. The sound edit. The sound mix. The directorial and acting choices. You see them, but you don't *see* them the way those of us in the business of making shows see them.
If I was the filmmaker and you met me, you probably wouldn't say, "Was that the Red Camera? Wow, your crane shot was really well done."
But you would know if the film moved you, and while the screenplay, the story, the content, is absolutely the most important part of what you perceive about a show, all the other elements are interconnected and integral. You can't make a good show without them. And a great show requires that almost all of the elements are great.
I don't care how much you're drawn to the story, if the sound's bad, I guarantee you, you won't even make it through.
So your man may not say to you, "Are those shoes Franco Sarto? They work great with that dress!" But if you're his type, he will know that you're hot, or earthy, or sexy, or simple, and that you appeal to him. He doesn't see the elements, but he sees and appreciates the show.
He just thinks that that's who you are. He may not even realize that you have ten different people in your closet.
But most important? As much as I love it when other filmmakers complement a specific shot or directing choice I've made, or ask me about the camera or the crane shot or any of a million other wonderful filmmaking details that are the absolute joy of my life, at the end of the day, most filmmakers don't make shows for other filmmakers.
They make them for the audience.
Your girlfriends may notice your shoes, and that's fun, but for me, I care a heck of a lot more about how my presentation effects my man (when I have one), even if he doesn't realize how very much he actually does care about my shoes.
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Linky goodness:
What to wear on a first date - from everybodyisugly on Chictopia. Super cute article with some great tips. Love her theory on lipstick.
What to Wear for Men: Casual & Romantic Date - from Nicholas Morine on Suite101. I loved this article so much that I couldn't resist including it here. Something to forward to your male friends who feel uncertain when dressing for dates.
First Date Wear - a quickie from QueenMAB on Fashion Breakdown. When in doubt, wear these shoes?
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Contributing editor Liz Rizzo also blogs at Everyday Goddess and loves her burgundy Mary Janes.
