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What Can't College Students Live Without? Calling Mom, According to New Study

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News flash: College students like being in touch with their parents when they are away at school. Yes, it's true. It's not only true, it appears to be normative to get on your computer or cell to Skype, text or phone home weekly if not daily, according to 24 Hours: Unplugged, a new study released by the University Of Maryland.

I was a bit skeptical of the study's finding, since my own generation's accepted practice was to not call home for days. My memories of the periodic phone call home from college were of persuading my parents they really wanted to send me more coin. Or arriving back late at night to a note stuffed in my key box reading, "Call your mom, she's worried." (Naturally, I would wait a day or two and THEN I would call her.) It seemed that most of us away at school perceived a call from our parents as intrusive -- the 'rents were calling to check up on us -- and a daily phone call home was viewed as one step away from packing up your room and moving home.

Well, that was then, this is now, and the times, they are a-changin'.

When I read the Huffington Post headline, "Study: Students ADDICTED to social media," my eyes rolled ever so slightly upward, as I recognized right away that the negative spin was meant to capture attention. But the clinician in me was curious if the study had actually been designed to focus on addiction and dependency among college students as it relates to social media use or abuse, or if there was another purpose.

To answer that question, I went right to the source. I emailed the professor who led the study, Susan Moeller Ph.D and she graciously agreed to speak with me via telephone. Who better to discuss the study than the person who created it?

Dr. Moeller is the director of the International Center for Media and the Public Agenda (ICMPA) and a professor in the schools of Journalism and Public Policy at the University of Maryland, College Park. The study participants were 200 of her students, predominantly freshman and sophomores, with a sprinkling of juniors and seniors. Moeller told me the demographics of her sample "reflected that of the national census," making it fairly representative of college students nationally.

So: Was the study designed measure and then point out college students are addicted to social media? Not according to Moeller. The purpose of the study was to "push the students to be more introspective."

Moeller said today's college students may not actually be all that aware of how many hours they actually spent involved with social media, nor are they conciously considering the manner in which they utilize social media. I asked her if it compared it to the self-hypnotic state we find ourselves in when we drive to the store and can't remember how we got there. "Yes, it's similar."

Study participants were required to give up all forms of social media, including computers, iPods and cell phones, for a period of 24 hours. Students were also required to blog about their experience, but, Moeller notes, "They weren't allowed to blog until after the 24 hours were up." That's right, they had to -- gasp!-- take notes by hand. The horror!

Moeller found that the most surprising admission from participants is quite a few of the students had "failed" the challenge because they called their moms. Some called their fathers, but most indicated they either answered the phone out of habit when mom called, or made a quick call on auto-pilot to let mom know they were safe and sound. According to Moeller's own article on Huffington Post in which she reports on the study's findings about staying in touch with family:

Well, there, actually, was some good news. About 20 percent of the students in the study mentioned their moms (only about five percent mentioned their dads)-- almost always to say how much they valued their communications with her: "The person I felt most disconnected from was my mom," wrote one student about the day off from media. "I talk to my mom on the phone every day, usually multiple times." Said another, "I usually talk to my mom every morning, so it felt as if I was going through withdrawal. I live about three hours away from Maryland, making me very used to talking to my parents several times a day." "I

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red4life0603 5 pts

I can definitely relate to thinking that students parents are way to involved in their children's lives once they move out of the house and away to college. I am in graduate school and am a teaching assistant and I am shocked about how spoon fed some of my students are!! Parents emailing about their child's grades and trying to get their absences excused. It is ridiculous!!

But when I was getting my bachelor's degree I myself was very connected with my mom who was back home about 3 hours away. I wanted to share with her how my day was and see how her's was going. So while I communicated with her often, she never once tried to jump in on my problems at school unless I asked for her help.

So all in all I think it all comes down to the way a student was raised. If they grow up and their parents take care of all of their problems in high school then of course they will continue to ask their parents to take care of even minuet problems once they are in college.

I my case, I did not grow up expecting that from my mother so our daily communication was not a hinder on my professors, my success, or my education. But I am shocked by how many of my students were raised to expect things to be spoon fed to them!!

http://mother-daughter-communication-2011.blogspot...

Cheryl

Devra Renner 5 pts

I agree with your concerns and I think another post about the downside would be a great follow-up.
There definitely is a flip side to the connectivity issue. Dr. Moeller and I also discussed how today's college student is less independent than in previous generations and their willingness to take risks has declined in the age of this new technology.

I don't think my parents ever spoke to anyone at my college while I was a student, they relied upon me to solve any problems that came up, and if I was worried about an issue, I talked it over with my parents. However,my parents would never, in a million years, have picked up the phone and called my university. College provides an excellent opportunity for maturity and problem solving. I wish the parents who hover would realize they are doing their children no favor.

Devra Renner

@ParentopiaDevra on Twitter

Contributing Editor, Family Connections

I also write at: Parentopia ( http://www.parentopia.com/blog ), Draft Day Suit ( http://www.draftdaysuit.com ),

cynthia bailey md 5 pts

My college age kids call home and I think we both feel anchored by it. Now with email, skype and facebook we can be part of each others day on so many levels. The two 'new' means of communication that I find the best are skype and facebook. Skype lets us share facial expressions, scenes from their house or dorm room and give me a better sense for how they really are doing. Facebook is just fun. I get little snippets of their life. They don't feel so far away, even though they both are.
Cynthia Bailey MD
http://www.otbskincare.com/blog/

James McPherson 5 pts

James McPherson

As someone of a certain age, I also remember rarely calling home, and then as a parent being concerned if I didn't hear from the kids for too long. As a professor, now I worry that too many of my students are still TOO connected to mom and dad, and troubled about how often I have parents who call me wanting to solve their kids' problems.