Marriage: About Holding Hands

I love that you can speak so open. It is a beautiful thing!

My hubby and I have been married over 29 years now, and I am still so in love with him. And just as you said, when we were busy with our little ones there wasn't much time for to hold hands, but we were happy, and enjoyed even more those few moments that we did gain to be alone and hold hands. :)

Now that our kids are grown we are holding hands every chance we get...kissing and hugging added.

Thank you for such a warm article!

~Virginia

I love this post!

My husband and I used to gauge how long a couple has been married for by how much they talked and touched over dinner in restaurants :-)

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When our marriage grows up a few more years I want to be you.

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Great post, Jess.

It reminds me of a couple in our neighborhood. They're probably 10+ years older than my dh and me. I see them walking down the hill to town a couple times every week.
I imagine they are empty nesters, going to drink coffee at the Blue Moose Cafe. He'll stare into her eyes and she'll steal the whipped cream off his latte (He's an older man so he's secure enough to order a latte). He won't fuss her out for taking the best part. He'll let her, with a smile.
They inspire me. I told the man that too. This winter he was the Salvation Army bell ringer at my grocery store. I said, "You don't know me, but I see you and your wife walking down the hill all the time, holding hands. I think you all are awesome." He blushed, dear man.

I love that you have stepped back and focused on all the positives that make up your marriage and family!
I believe as well that you need to make time for that hand holding moment. Even if you only get to do it first thing in the morning before you get out of bed!
I have recently started to make an effort to hold hands whenever it presents itself it may not last long but it offers a moment of intimate connectivity that somehow helps.

Being married for almost 8 years, I can sure relate to this post. Now that our kids are older and don't need to hold our hands every where we go, I still love it when my husband grabs my hand, even if we are just walking into the grocery store!

Such a beautifully written, touching piece. The best part of life is watching people grow and relationships deepening with that growth. Thanks for your post.

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I've been married for 16 years. My husband and I have been together for 20. (God, I"m old.)

We still hold hands - in movies, in the car, running errands. Sometimes we've got our kids attached to the other hand, but we touch each other a lot.

I need it. We're busy. We don't get time together as much as I'd like. Finding time for sex is more complicated. All that is true.

Holding hands is such an easy way to be connected for a brief minute in an otherwise hectic life.

I love holding hands.

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I know exactly what you mean. Things change, but not because you love them less. You love them more. Well said!

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I've been married 13 years and we both make sure we hold hands and kiss and always touch in bed, even a foot to a leg, is good enough. Even when we're not happy with each other. It makes the bad times not so bad and the good times better. It keeps us close.

Thank you, we have not had the easiest road and I think instead of breaking us it has made us that much stronger. I definitely feel lucky!

Thanks for visiting me here!

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I completely agree, I always worried that somehow I would not appreciate my husband as much as I did when we first married but I still do and in many more ways.

Thanks for reading,

Jessica

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I wish for everyone to have a love as wonderful as yours!

with years, though the ways I express my feelings might change but that my appreciation of my companion deepens with more understanding of each others way of thinking, doing things, flaws and virtues.

My husband and I are married almost five years. For a woman who never thought she'd marry, this is BIG. Sometimes we still hold hands and I hope that I never lose sight of how precious a person he is.

Thanks so much and thanks for visiting me here!

Jessica

I remember reading this on your blog and loving it so much.

Written so beautifully and with so much love. You capture these moments in between getting married, raising a family, and after so precisely and lovingly.

Great to see it here on BlogHer!

Oh that vision of a tiny hand in a big strong one completely tugs at my heart. So glad you visited me here.

Thank you!!!

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I completely agree. Sometimes I think that what we have been through could tear a couple apart but it has somehow brought us so much closer together and given us a true appreciation for the little things.

Thanks for visiting me here, nice to see your face, you are gorgeous lady!!

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What a nice moment for you guys, so glad naptime was long enough to squeeze in a movie.

Thanks so much for reading,

Jessica

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I am so glad I have learned the beauty in all the simple things that is marriage. To think that I ever thought settling down for years and years would be boring. I don't think we have had a boring day yet, actually I think we would welcome some boring!

Thanks so much for visiting me here,

Jessica

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How funny, to me, it seems like linking arms would bring you even closer to someone than holding hands. I think i better just stop my analysis though and say thanks so much for reading :) !

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Oh I look forward to the day when I can embarrass my children, right now we are in the phase where they are doing their best to embarrass me!

Thanks so much for reading,

Jessica

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Absolutely, most days I find that we are both too exhausted for romance but it has been so nice to see how our married-with-kids love has evolved.

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I really never thought I could love him more than that newlywed, gazing into each other's eyes love, but I definitely do, in all kinds of new ways.

Thanks for visiting me here, this is like your second home lately :)

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They are, thanks for giving me the push to be here.

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Thank you so much for visiting me here!

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I hope you found his hand and held on tight. I never thought I would find so much new love for my husband through watching him be a father.

Thanks for visiting me here!

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So glad you took the time to read, I appreciate it!

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Thanks for reading!

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Your life sounds just like mine, it is funny how love changes into things we never thought it would. Never a dull moment!

Thanks for reading.

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Thanks so much Liz!

We were never hand holders. But I turn to mush when I see my husband hold either of the kids' hands. Mush.

Thanks so much for visiting me here Jen, and for all of your support as always!

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So true, who would have though that a kiss after a diaper change would make a husband so attractive? Thanks so much for reading.

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I totally agree, I remember people telling me before I got married that marriage was "work" but I never understood that until after we had children and that blazing romance wore off, luckily, we haven't had to work too hard yet.

Thanks for reading.

You hit the nail on the head. Life and marriage is all perspective and seeing the symbolism in the changes of life, and realizing how we got there.

A lot of people never gain this insight. Sadly, I think you have because of all you've endured as a couple.

This could be why you are able to see the big in the small.

Beautiful post. Thank you

My husband and I just sat on the couch to watch a movie together while my son napped, and we held hands the whole time. If we let go for a minute so he could reach for his mug of tea or so I could adjust my blanket, the moment my hand was back in his, my heart breathed a sigh of relief. I love holding hands! :)

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...when I am longing over the touch and passion of our early months together I am tempted to feel melancholy.

But then, I remember the coffee brought to me every morning.

And how he reads every word I write.

And how he knows to pick up chocolate chip cookies when he shops.

And I am more in love now than I was then.

Love multiplies.

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Lovely touching post.

I've never been comfortable holding hands. With anyone, not just my husband. I've often looked at other people and thought I wish I could like that but it just feels as though one of us is a kid and walking feels cumbersome.

I'm sure that means I'm emotionally repressed in some way but I prefer linked arms, somehow that feels better. Strange.

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Love the sweetness and the intimacy of holding hands. Even if it embarrasses our children and grandchildren ;)
And I loved your post!
Shanon

Awesome!!! So true. The traditional trappings of romance sometimes fade by necessity, but other better ones take their place!

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I feel the same way, just adoring the man my husband is now even more than the one I met so many years ago. I saw an elderly couple holding hands on their way to the movies yesterday, all smiles and laughing, and I knew we would be there one day.

Nice to see you over here!

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Love this! Good dads are so worth celebrating

KLZ

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I remember saying to @cfd46 something about how we would ALWAYS hold hands. We do... sometimes. And mostly we giggle about it. But there are just other things. I suppose someday we'll have more time to hold hands and embarrass our teenage children or grandchildren or great-grandchildren as the years go on. For now, we're just busy chasing kids.

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Congratulations! I loved this so much on your blog and enjoyed it just as much here!

I love this. I think there is something so attractive about a man that loves his kids and life, with all the chaos that goes with it. Off to find my husband's hand.

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I sparkled you! I thought this post was so sweet and touching! Congratulations on the syndication!

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Jessica is one of my favorite bloggers. Loved this post even more this time around.

So sweet! Thanks for sharing!

Sincerely,

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Very very sweet.

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