Homeschooling a child with behavior issues...well he really doesn't have those
By Ms. Ali on August 13, 2014
So my son is starting his first day of homeschooling tomorrow. I am so excited, but at the same time terrified because he is in the 10th grade and Ifinally decided to take him out of public school after years of his not being able to function. For many years we were told he was a child with behavior problems. He couldn't sit still, he was not able to pay attention in class, he had ADHD...blah blah blah blah. My son has always been afflicted with one issue, he is an African American/Black boy. That was it.
Most of the teachers he has had did not understand why he was unable to follow the rules like the "normal" kids. I have read so many different articles and magazines on different learning styles and how the teachers should be able to incorporate those methods in their classrooms. Only most of the teachers my son had did not care about learning style. They only cared about classroom etiquette and what was easier for them. If my son's learning style would have been fostered in previous years, he would be a thriving 10th grader, not labeled a "delinquent" who is trying to make up his credits.
I get it there's no budget, no time, no motivation. OK. I also get that teachers are not paid enough to care most times. I completely understand. However, as understanding as I am, that does not overshadow the love I have for my son. Teachers do not understand how difficult it is to parent a child who is labled from birth as a problem. They do not understand how much of a stuggle it is to watch your child being pushed aside and kicked out of school because it is easier for the adminstration to have him leave, than to have to deal with him on a daily basis. I wanted my son to be able to be afforded the same opportunities as other children his age. I wanted him to be able to earn student of the month and gold stars for good behavior. That just did not happen.
From first grade I recognized that he was going to have a difficult time, but at that time the only option for homeschooling was to stay at home or hire a teacher. Now there are so many more opportunities for children of mothers who have to work full-time, and we are finally taking advantage of the opportunity to give him a chance to redeem himself. He wants to return to public school at some point. We will cross that bridge when we get there, but for now I will bask in the enjoyment of my son's face when he actually gets the material; as opposed to the look of defeat he has experienced over the years because no one was available to explain the work or cared enough to do so. If I hadn't seen him thrive in the midst of all of his issues with school as I did when one person took the extra time and cared enough to explain things, I would not have believed it possible. It is because of that experience that I felt homeschooling at this point was the best option.
Hopefully, this will be the turning point in his life where he will be able to achieve the greatness for which he was destined, and hopefully he will be able to go to college follow his dreams. Crossing my fingers.
Stuck in Limbo
Hopefully not for the rest of my days