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Child Kicked Off Squad When Mother Protests Cheer

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COVENTRY, ENGLAND - JULY 17: A Girl from the Pedmore Panthers is thrown in the air during a performance at the BCA International Cheerleading and Dance Competition at the Ricoh Arena on July 17, 2010 in Coventry, England. The annual competition is the largest of its kind in Europe with over 1800 cheerleaders from 47 teams from across the UK and Europe performing for the coveted title. (Photo by Dan Kitwood/Getty Images)

The world has changed. In our effort to accept all cultures as equal and worthy of respect under the banners of multiculturalism and democracy as well as our human tendency to pass on practices while forgetting origin and context, we arrive at controversy. Let's look at the case of the recently great Michigan "Booty Cheer" drama.

Most of us who are parents share concerns about the sexualization of children, especially little girls dressing as scantily as exotic dancers or mimicking Beyonce's moves while singing her hit "Single Ladies." Consequently, we readily agree that six-year-old Kennedy Tesch's mother was right. The so-called "cheer" taught to little Kennedy's cheerleading squad that roots for the Madison Heights flag football team was inappropriate: "Our backs ache/our skirts are too tight/we shake our booties from left to right."

For questioning the appropriateness of this chant, however, the mother was not rewarded but penalized. Her daugher was kicked off the cheering squad. Well, that hardly seems fair.

If you watch the MSNBC video on the story, you may surmise, as I have, that kicking Kennedy off the squad was much more about punishing her mother for challenging authority and going public with the story than it was about any love of the grand old "booty cheer."

As Tashi Singh asks "Was it worth hurting a child, her parents, and ultimately the reputation of the school in order to keep some silly cheerleading chant?"

Singh is not the only one asking that question to which they answer may be crazy things happen when human egos are on the line. The other question arising from the story is this, "Is that actually a cheer and where did it come from?"

I was born in 1960, am 50 years old, and was raised in the African-American community of New Orleans, La. When this story came to my attention in email, I responded that the infamous "booty cheer" is a marching chant or cadence, and I remember hearing variations of it as a child and teen. One of those is this one:

"To the right, to the left, to the right, left, right.
My back is aching,
My drawers too tight,
My booty's shaking from left to right.
To the left, to the right, to the left right left.

The words shift with time and audience. When adopted by girls "drawers" become "bra." In cleaner versions "bra" becomes "shoes," or "drawers" become "pants" or "belts" and "booty" becomes "hips."

I remember hearing this chant outside while playing with other children and as I got older, possibly on the bus following a football game while the boys beat out the rhythm on the back of bus seats. Checking around the Web, I recalled hearing other adaptations that came after my playground years that were used by cheerleaders along with "Bang Bang Choo Choo Train," and someone said in the email thread that she recalls the "booty cheer" as part of Double Dutch jump rope games.

How the "booty" version of this rhyme evolved to being taught directly to children by an adult, however, makes less sense. I do not recall an adult ever teaching children this chant or a teacher promoting its use at any formal event. It was passed strictly from child to child or teen to teen, or in the case of what may be its original use, adult soldier to adult soldier. At least that's how I recall its origins and use and that's how I explained it in the email thread.

Memory, nonetheless, is a tricky thing, and so I called old friends and relatives asking them what they recall of this old chant-become-cheer. One friend who now lives in Maryland and whose children are in high school said she remembers cheerleaders saying it at football games, but as we talked

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JenTesch 5 pts

I am the mother in question. I have finally had the time to google all the articles and blogs regarding this situation. Thank you all for your support. This blog is very well written and has such an interesting viewpoint. I promise that I didn't lie when I said that I never heard the cheer before. I hadn't. But after going public with the story, I have heard from many many people who know of this chant in some version or another. But they all agree that it was never meant to be a chant that is done in front of a crowd as an organized cheer. It is inappropriate. Thankfully Kennedy is now cheering for an association who focuses on teaching children team building skills such as good sportsmanship and respect. Thanks again for the blog. I really enjoyed reading it!

chicktech 5 pts

I mean, any parent should have a say in what their children are taught at school, especially when it involves children at this stage when they learn the most. Taking the girl of the team was downright cruel in my opinion.

Nordette Adams 6 pts

Thank you for your comment and the link to the NYT article. I'll be passing that along.

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Nordette Adams 6 pts

"Eat the back of my butt, woo!" I have not heard that version. I can see how the counselors at the Y would not have known better than to introduce, teens. But I'm surprised someone with more authority did not determine before hand what counselors should and could present to children.

I'm glad they listened to your mom and that she was paying attention.

Thanks, Emily.

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ModaMama 5 pts

I'm concerned when parents decides to compromise on behavior because it's all in good fun. If other parents weren't chiming in to say, "You know, I think maybe that other mom was right..." I'm a bit concerned about the community in general and not over this one cheer that seems to have been in bad taste. Yes, people in authority positions make mistakes, this isn't appropriate for a 6 year old to learn from an adult. You own up to it and don't punish the children for your momentary lapse.

I remember all sorts of schoolyard chants, taunts, cheers. They seemed to spring up between kids. Even if they were the strictly white-bred suburban variety kids knew there was a difference between what could be said on a playground to another child and in ones home to parents.

I'm sure their saucier counterparts existed for other communities for ages and I'm really glad that you presented this unraveling of the chants history. There is so much that has been culturally misinterpreted through history and become common place, it is not wrong for a parent to question what their children are hearing from other adults.

You've reminded me a of a NY Times article from a few years back, it tracks the distortion of a simple song through history. This has more life impacting repercussion than whether or not girls get to yell something their mothers consider vulgar in public.

http://www.nytimes.com/2006/03/22/international/af...

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catdelouise 5 pts

This brought back some memories for me! In 1975 or so when I was five I went to the Y day camp and was taught this march by my counsellors who were teenagers I guess, and of various races.

I remember it like:

Left, left, left, right, left
My back is aching, my belt's too tight
My booty's shaking from left to write
(Can't remember this line)
Eat the back of my butt, woo!
Eat the back of my butt, woo!

When I came home singing this in front of my parents they went apesh*t! They called the camp and raised some holy Hell. I don't know if the counsellors were let go, but they were definitely talked to and those types of chants were never sung at camp again!

Looking back on it and seeing the chant, especially "Eat the back of my butt"?!?!, I would have flipped if my little girl was singing this too!

Why were these parents treated differently? I guess it is a sign of the times and we should all be used to that kind of language, but I certainly don't find it cute.

Emily

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JenMcb 5 pts

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I just caught the tail end of this story on the radio the other morning. It didn't make sense to me that a coach would go so far as to removing the girl from the team and thinking it was okay.
I am the same age as you, but don't remember the cheer. I do remember not having the coordination to double dutch.
Kind of ironic that girls that age are dressing provocatively with adult cheers and I doubt that many even have enough time during recess to jump rope and make up their own chants.
It was much easier to be a kid back in the sixties then now.

Nordette Adams 6 pts

Yes. The coach was not thinking about the words and how they could be interpreted at all. And I know you're not lying. LOL. Some of my friends were surprised to learn the cheerleaders' coach was white because, being my age, the heard it in the black community but not in the white community.

And it was also nutty to try to hold onto a silly cheer that was inappropriate more than to consider how kicking Kennedy off the team would make her feel.

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Nordette Adams 6 pts

Some things we should just leave to kids. Talk to them when we see or hear them doing or saying something inappropriate but leave it alone otherwise. We definitely should not teach them to do and say something inappropriate that might cause them to focus on adult interests too soon.

I think the mom was right to question the words.

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amanda75 5 pts

I learned a lot from that post. Like, Jennifer, I had never heard that cheer/chant. I'm a white girl from Arkansas, though, so maybe it really was more of a cultural thing when we were kids. (Small town, all-white school.)
I also know there were a lot of things we *did* say on the playground that would not have been appropriate for an adult to teach us. Sometimes, you have to be grown-up enough to know when to leave the kid-stuff to the kids.

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NotJustAnotherJennifer 5 pts

I would like to add that I've never heard that cheer (not lying!), not that I was a cheerleader, but my sister was. We did sing little chants and cheers as kids on the playground, but nothing like that was ever taught to the kids by adults. I'm also a white girl from Kansas, so maybe that's why!

It's completely inappropriate and immature of the coach to punish the child for the mother's actions, even if the mother was wrong (which I don't think she was at all).

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