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How Do I Lead When I'm Not in Charge?

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I get a little nostalgic in October remembering my late parents whose birthdays were this month. So when Bonnie McEwan, president of the public interest communications firm Make Waves, suggested I write about how people in middle management can be leaders, I chuckled to think of one of my father's favorite sayings:

Everybody puts their pants on one leg at a time.

That conjures up amusing pictures that equalize people regardless of their stature in the formal organization chart.

But the question of how to be a leader whether or not you have the formal authority isn't about cutting others down to size. That famous scene from the 1980 movie 9 to 5 where the secretaries, played to the comedic hilt by Dolly Parton, Lilly Tomlin, and Jane Fonda, tie up their boss and make him beg for mercy. It's sweet revenge in fantasy, but in reality comes from a place of feeling powerless to influence or lead in any other way.

It might be more productive to remember that everybody needs help now and then--even those whose position on the formal organization chart is higher than yours, even if they are peers that you have no formal authority over, and even if they hold a CEO title. As Aletha, a commenter on my blog recently observed, “Steve Jobs kept Apple fiercely independent, but even Apple had to ask Bill Gates for assistance when it was near bankruptcy.”

Here are three ways anyone can lead without being the formal leader:

leadership puzzle

Credit Image: wilhei on Flickr

Value Your Piece of the Puzzle

The fact is that everyone in an organization holds a piece of the puzzle, without which the full picture can’t be completed.  Your superiors need you as much as you need them. Without you, they'd have to do all the work, for one thing. But more importantly, none of their goals can be achieved until your puzzle piece is in place. There is much more mutuality than most of us perceive when we think about working relationships; the idea of teams rather than hierarchies extends way beyond project management.

I asked McEwan, who also teaches leadership courses in the Milano Graduate School of the New School in New York, how she would answer her own question. “First,” she said, “I tell them that they need to change their attitude regarding their own power. They need to view themselves as powerful, in a constructive sense, and understand it in terms of the ability to influence for good. Many of them seem to view power as negative and miss the positive aspects of it.”

That’s not unlike my prescription in No Excuses, to shift our thinking from an old fashioned oppressive “power over” to an expansive and self-empowering “power-to.”

And when it comes to using the “power to,” the first task is to assess and value what’s already there in our hands or back pockets.

McEwan asks her students to analyze their own personal power bases. She highlights two key sources of power that are within their control: referent power, the power of personality or presence, and expert power, or their abilities and skills to contribute to the work. “Once they understand that they have personal powers that are independent of formal position, they begin to see how they can use those powers.”

Deepen Relationships

In their book Influence Without Authority, Adam Cohen and David Bradford write about the case history of Nettie Seabrooks, who as an African American and a woman felt she had more than her share of hurdles to acquiring influence at General Motors where she worked. Nevertheless, the authors concluded that in addition to the obvious—her quality work--her capacity for cultivating strong relationships and avoiding self-inflicted traps such writing off people who were difficult to work with or failing to notice what others want and what their motivations might be helped her to be effective beyond her formal position.

The world turns on human connections, after all, so it’s not surprising that many experts suggest deepening relationships by getting to know people and their motivations is as key to making things happen regardless of one’s position.

Communicate Authentic Value

When I spoke at the YWCA Tucson’s Women’s Leadership Conference recently, a nurse practitioner approached me with a worried look on her face. “I see where our patient care could be improved significantly,” she said, “But how can I exercise leadership when I’m not the doctor and not the manager?”

It can be frightening to think of telling the boss something he or she might not want

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dr.leigh 5 pts

I've worked across many teams in which the person who 'lead' the team was not the official leader of the the team.  There are often person(s) that you go to for advice, for clarification, to vent.  They can have far more influence of the project work than the person in charge.... 

Dana Theus 5 pts

Gloria-

Great article and right on point to the powerlessness so many people feel in large organizations where it seems that all authority, responsibility and power is matrixed to the point that everyone's just stuck in the spider's web, despite the spider having left long ago. I use your "power to" as opposed to "power over" quite often because the only way to unstick ourselves is to claim exactly the type of power you're talking about. No one can claim it but us, because it lives within us. Thanks for such good insights on such important subjects!

Dana

Gloria Feldt 8 pts

Thanks, Dana. Funny I think that people at all levels of organizations, or not in organizations at all, have that stuck feeling you describe from time to time and need to unstick ourselves. I appreciate your insights.

Gloria Feldt 8 pts

On twitter, @NjugunaN said "how about leading by example, role modeling?"

On Facebook, Aspen Baker commented: "This is great. The idea that authority = leadership is such an important myth to bust."

Just wanted to share these comments with appreciation and encourage the conversation via any medium.

Aletha 6 pts

It might be fruitful to consider that many people in authority are actually not good leaders. The obvious example was George Bush, but he represented a paradigm that defines leadership as narrowly as it defines power. In the conventional sense, leadership is having power over others, being in charge, dominating through fear. In the wider sense, leadership is all about ideas; thus anyone with a good idea could be considered a leader, and anyone in authority who deserves that position ought to be open to good ideas from anyone. Unfortunately many of our politicians are adept at pretending to be open to good ideas from anyone, but that is all too often more public relations spin than the reality. Sadly, I would have to include President Obama in that category.

Gloria Feldt 8 pts

Just in case you're in NYC, I'll be talking No Excuses and signing books at the Financial Women's Association. Details here: http://www.fwa.org/event/2011_1017_ent_wpowerw.htm

It's at the beautiful WNYC Greene Space, 44 Charlton St, starting with networking at 5:15, program at 6. I'd love to see you there.

Jennifer Sertl 6 pts

Gloria,

So I am thrilled that you are "jumping" in on this! So many people want to be "leaders" or they want to follow rules. Life requires that we negotiate and dance between leading and following -- and at the heart is influence! So we all need to be better at influence regardless of our title or role. I think there are three fundamental steps in this process:

i) self esteem to understand that your presence and impact make a difference

ii) a clear understanding of what needs to happen for a result to occur

iii) the vocabulary or language that can connect to the person you hope to influence.

All three of these require practice and can be done very independently of an event or an issue.

Practice can be as simple as beginning to write in a journal your daily accomplishments.

Practice can be as simple as reverse engineering a project into 15 steps so that you always see what needs to happen next and writing the process down to train your brain for long view thinking.

Practice can be a simple as telling the same story to three people be practicing using different word choices for emphasis to see what connects differently etc.

Ironically, I just tweeted this about 30 minutes before reading your blog:

“Practice isn't the thing you do once you're good. It's the thing you do that makes you good.” ― Malcolm Gladwell, Outliers

Practice where you are safe so you have safety when you are scared!

Cheers to everyone here making a difference choice by choice, voice by voice.

Jennifer

Gloria Feldt 8 pts

Thank you @jennifersertl Jennifer Sertl --your comments are an outstanding addition to this conversation and I know they will be helpful to readers. I especially found this resonant with my belief that a leader is someone who gets something done:

"Life requires that we negotiate and dance between leading and following -- and at the heart is influence!"

There is no magic to leadership, and how very true it is that we dance between leading and following, in all spheres of our lives.

Please feel welcome to continue contributing to these comments, especially if you have examples of how people can your ideas to lead through influence.

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robb_sterling

DanaTheus what is in power coaching?

DanaTheus
DanaTheus

robb_sterling thx 4 asking, Rob. build your inner power to handle any situation. No one can take it away. Ever. http://t.co/f87O9sRN

robb_sterling
robb_sterling

DanaTheus I wish I could take your classes.