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How do you build community?

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When Virginia asked for your blogging questions, I sort of forgot that she'd probably get the question I hear all of the time. The question I've made a living by answering everyday for more years than I can remember. It should also be a lot easier to answer this question than it is. "How do you build community?"

Elana said:

While I have readers, I don't believe I have a community of readers -- I believe to succeed as a blogger you need that community. I welcome any thoughts on how to do that.

One reason it's so hard to answer that question is because online community can mean something different to each of us. Our reasons for wanting to build a community can also be pretty different from person to person.

For the purpose of this post, let's assume you're a blogger like Elana. Not really looking to create a brand new web portal and building community from scratch. You're a blogger who wants a community or a network of readers and bloggers to interact with on a regular basis.

The blogosphere is already a community. We are here, online, together. By virtue of being a blogger, you're in a community. What you really need to do is get more involved within the blogosphere or get involved differently so that you can make personal and professional connections and relationships.

Blogging can be a passive activity. You change that by stepping away from your own personal blog and immersing yourself in the community around you.

Have you ever moved, like in real life? From one city to another? What do you do when you move to a new city? Do you sit in your house and wait for folks to come knocking on your door and become your BFF or your new clients? Or do you get out there and make connections, friendships, and develop a new network of clients and support?

Relationships in new cities take time and effort. Relationships in the blogosphere take just as much time and effort. Finding your people in the blogosphere is very much like finding your people when you move to a new city.

You need to get familiar with the services and opportunities in your new city and you need to do that in the blogosphere too. Learn which tools are important. Figure out what people mean when they talk about RSS, blogging platforms, Twitter, Facebook. Jump in. Do some research (Google is your friend!) Start using these tools.

In your new city, you need to get to know people and you do that by introducing yourself, by visiting places where people congregate a lot, and by participating in discussions people are having - in the place that they are having them. You join clubs or churches. You volunteer.

In the blogosphere, you go to other blogs and you express interest in what those people are blogging. You share your own experiences with those bloggers. If you have knowledge and expertise, share it openly and willingly. You join group blogs or established online communities (like BlogHer!) and become as active in those communities as you can be.

If you start a business in your new city, you have to market yourself, you have to provide services people are interested in, and you have to be very, very good at what you do.

In the blogosphere, that means your blog needs to look good. It means you have to respond to people who comment on your blog. It means you have to be a good writer, an interesting writer. There are millions of blogs out there - writing well is key. Interacting with those who take the time to visit you is huge.

You have to become a visible, contributing, supportive member of the blogosphere. You have to work to make connections that mean something to you. You have to be open to being someone people want to connect with.

There are so many great people who have blogged about building online community. You must read these bloggers. Go through their archives. Ponder their ideas. Ask yourself the questions they ask in their blogs. Don't hesitate to reach out to them via their comments for more information about something they've said. Subscribe to their blogs in your feedreader right now.

Nancy White, my personal hero, has written more great things about community than anyone I know. There's a tag cloud on the left side

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Thorne 5 pts

 This is a helpful article, Denise.  Thanks for the link.  My latest move, 4 years ago, was back to the family ranch in the Mojave Desert - 40 acres of scrub 7 miles down a dirt road from an eye-blink of a hick town and over 20 miles from the nearest Starbucks!  It's been difficult for me to build community out here, too.  Perhaps your analogy is even more appropriate to me as I have always been somewhat of a social loner (I know- an oxymoron, but it's true).  When I lived in the city it was always easy to make connections through my business and I tended to trust the Universe to send me like-minded individuals for deeper interaction. Since moving out here I think the "loner" part of me has gained power over the social part!

If I carry your analogy into the blogosphere, I see that I have been dropping in here and there with relevent comments, and have built a small community, but on a larger scale I suppose I have been "expecting"  the Universe to dump community in my lap!

I have been focusing so much on my writing and improving my blog design, on my content and mechanics, that I have neglected to fully put myself out there.  Thanks for the input and for being so willing to help via chatter.  You'll be seeing more of me around here!

"I don’t at all like knowing what people say of me behind my back. It makes one far too conceited." - Oscar Wilde

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Pamela Jeanne 5 pts

As you've mentioned here blogging is a two way street. Blogging is a conversation not a lecture. There's got to be interplay and effort made to get to know and follow what's happening beyond your own site...that's when the welcome matt rolls out.

Pamela Jeanne

http://www.Coming2Terms.com

nellewrites 6 pts

I do not see your blog site listed... would you mind posting the url here? 

llhaesa ( http://llhaesa.org/ )

renewalof48 5 pts

 Just starting to get myslef out there, so check out my blog site and also my webpage which I will be updating in a few days.  Also my radio site.  Let me know what you think.

Dr. Donia Oladeinde Gonzales

Denise 11 pts moderator

Nice! I like that. (I might have to use it in a future post - giving you credit, of course.)

:-)

~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager

Flamingo House Happenings ( http://www.flamingohouse.net/ )

Denise 11 pts moderator

That's it exactly, Elana. That's part of what happened with me. I got so immersed in the BlogHer community that I stopped building my own personal community. And that's ok with me, it was a choice I made and I'm happy. Someday I may go knocking on doors again, for myself. In fact I probably will - it's what I really like to do. :-)

You were truly blessed to have been received by Toby and Yvonne. Those are two truly amazing women in this world we live in... and well, you know how I feel about Nancy.

You can find more women like them by reaching out, knocking on some doors, listening and sharing your brilliance. It just takes time and effort. That time thing is the killer sometimes, isn't it?

~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager

Flamingo House Happenings ( http://www.flamingohouse.net/ )

Denise 11 pts moderator

You are very good at community building when you want to be and have the space and opportunity to be. Unfortunately, you just aren't in the place that allows you to ... you know.

Keep your circle small for now, the bigger community will be there when you're able to reach out to it.

~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager

Flamingo House Happenings ( http://www.flamingohouse.net/ )

Denise 11 pts moderator

I don't think I've ever been called a leprechaun before - a troll yes, but not a leprechaun. Hah.

OK more, coming up - in a couple of weeks. I have a wedding to get through first. :-)

~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager

Flamingo House Happenings ( http://www.flamingohouse.net/ )

Denise 11 pts moderator

TW, a serious "community geek" teased me for a few minutes about the whole "moving to a new place" example. I just thought it might resonate with people in a new way - and of course, a lot of people read my posts about moving, so it seemed a good fit in that way too.

For me, connecting with people isn't about shyness - it's about time management. My personal community is not so big anymore because I don't have the time to put the effort into it. There are many days when I regret that. But, I'm thankful that my BlogHer community is vast - and my efforts here pay off for me, as well as the community.

~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager

Flamingo House Happenings ( http://www.flamingohouse.net/ )

AmberS 5 pts

I'm working on getting out and 'meeting' other bloggers right now.  It's been an interesting journey for me.  I've confronted a lot of my anxieties and fears.  But I've also stretched in new ways.  It's great, really, to find out that there's this whole new world out there.

And thanks for the tips and the links.  I can see that I've got some more reading to do. :)

~ Amber

Strocel.com ( http://www.strocel.com )

Elana Centor 5 pts

 When I was five years old we moved to a new neighborhood. Because I didn't know anyone there, I decided to walk up and down the street and meet the neighbors. I knocked on their doors and said, " Hi I'm Elana. Do you want to be my friend?"

A lot has changed since 1956 and it's hard to imagine any parent allowing their five year to wander around a neighborhood by themselves.

Three years ago I moved to a new neighborhood. I didn't knock on any doors.

When I started blogging in 2004 I did knock on several doors and two people in particular were extremely generous with their time... Yvonne DiVita and Toby Bloomberg - Nancy White is a personal friend and she is always generous so she's in a league of her own.

One of the reasons why I might not have quite the community that I want on my personal blog is that I feel like I have a great community here at BlogHer.

However, I do want to have more involved readers of my personal blog . I would love for people to share their work life stories or their struggles to get a job, keep a job, deal with a job after everyone else has been laid off - I do keep people's identity anonymous.  

So please know my blogging welcome mat is  wide open. I'm also going to do what I did at four years old - I'm going to  visit you - maybe on your blog,Facebook, twitter or LinkedIn. I look forward to getting to know you better.

elana
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nellewrites 6 pts

then there are us private types, who go through spurts of activity, but in the end, we aren't very good at outward projection, and prefer the comfort of our own little bubble, for whatever reason.

All you share is great advice, superb advice really, and those who truly wish, I should say, those who claim reality and practicality as their friend and who also possess the capability, getting out and building community is the pathway to follow.

There are the hopeless cases, of which I readily claim to be one. I hated sales, a born semi-introverted technocrat at whatever I do, rather than a natural shmoozer at what I do. That is my realm. 

Why... why is this my realm, the rather write than explore? Well, I don't let people very close, only a few. You get to see past a lot of that; only a few do. I live in my alternate reality; I've coped that way for almost 50 years.

I tried last fall, did the outward projection, but I'm back in my bubble for now, happy.

I am what one should not do if they wish to build readership and community. It is Denise that can show the path... but take stock of who you are, and whether you have come to terms within with what you must do. It all starts... with us.  

llhaesa ( http://llhaesa.org/ )

sandhillsis 5 pts

because this is pure gold. Who doesn't want to build community? I do, but don't have a stinking clue where to start. This is great info! It's nice to be around people who want to share their knowledge. Don't stop with this... I'll do a rain dance, to bring more rainbows if you'll bring more gold. Thanks! Sandhill Sis

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Wilma Ham 5 pts

Denise, rest assured, you covered some real good points.
For me the relatedness to moving countries or cities is a good one.
Go out there and connect and give it time.
When I moved countries I had no idea where to find like minded people I could connect with.
The same here, where are the people I like?
At least browsing on the internet is a lot more comfortable than physically showing up!
I did notice that the topics here on BlogHer are a good indicator to find posts and then find the people you can connect with.

I also behave on the net like I behave in the 'real' world.
I am only able to handle a certain amount of relationships, 100 of friends on twitter, facebook and Chatter won't work for me.
A few good ones can work just as well in getting a community going. Seth Godin in his book 'The Tribe' says, work on a small dedicated tribe and your community will grow too.
I was very relieved to hear that :)
I don't have to change in someone I am NOT to succeed in cyberspace, yippeee.

And your one about adding value is great too; "be a contributing, supportive member!" although once contributed I still find it hard to promote my blog.
To find a balance in giving and requesting is a skill I am learning.

After having said all this I am interested in building a community on a larger scale. I think women have so much to give and share and are so willing to change that there is gold in bringing a community together to support change coming from this question I absolutely love 'is there another way to do this?'. 

Community is the way to go, alone is alone and belonging/togetherness is so much more fun and effective for lots of reasons.
There is a saying 'Love is the only emotion that extends intelligence' and I notice that here on BlogHer I am learning because of the tone on the posts and seeing how other people Chatter.  

I personally should connect with more people whose comments I like, shyness holds me back and I tend to stick with the few I have got to know. 
I can definitely do this in another way :).

Thanks Denise for your post and your encouragement; for me learning about community is spot on and very timely. 

Wilma Ham

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