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How Feminism Has Ruined the World

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Recently, I google blog searched the term feminism. I decided to this after looking for feminist perspectives on a specific topic that I planned to write about. When I put in various search terms and included the word feminism or feminist, many blogs spewing vitriol about the horrible things that feminists have done to what was otherwise a perfect world came up. I thought a search on just the word feminism might prove illustrative. Oh, how right my hunch was!

By far my favorite discovery from this academic exercise was a post from Andrea Grimes at Heartless Doll. Grimes deconstructed a ludicrous article in The Weekly Standard (a non-ludicrous article in The Weekly Standard would be an oxymoron, I know) about the "New Paleolithic." Any time an article compares our cavepeople ancestors' behavior to that of people today and finds people today lacking (due to feminism) is going to be ripe for raging mockery. Grimes more than delivers. Go read it now. Fall down laughing. I shall wait patiently. Brilliance. Grimes may be my new hero. I certainly worship her prowess.

On the not funny side, I learned that feminism is not about equality between the sexes, but female supremicism; that feminism is insane to question the objectivity of systems put in place only by men without any input from women; and the rise of feminism coincided with the increase in the incarceration rate of men and thus is responsible for the Prison Industrial Complex. OK, that last charge does make me laugh. I really liked this serious post by Colleen Hodgetts at Gender Across Borders about feminists and chocolate. (This really had nothing to do with how feminists ruined the world per se, but more about how we can help it by thinking about our food choices.)

After the chocolate and feminist post, I decided to narrow my search. I entered "feminists ruined the world." Seconds later, I learned many exciting things! Missy at Redefined Juliet wrote about how upset she was when a Christian radio show "talked about how feminists have ruined the family and the correct relationship between men and women by saying that women should be able to choose to work outside the home." Of course, this is old news to me. I clearly perverted my defined role in the universe by denying offspring to my husband, although that has nothing to do with my decision to work outside of the home.

Feminism, though, has not only ruin the family. It also, as Dorothy Parker at loon pond reports, ruined Catholicism for nuns. Her hilarious post about George Pell's comments on the soon-to-be sainted Mary McKillop is a treasure. See, Pell said that feminists forced nuns out of positions as leaders of Catholic hospital and secondary schools. Among other excellent, uproarious comments, Parker remarked:

Those bloody feminists. Drove the nuns out of the church they did, with their snarky shrewish ways, unlike the Pellists, who have the most wonderful attitude to women in power in the Catholic church. Provided they don't have anything to do with the important business in front of and behind the altar.

Then there's the always popular notion that feminism "women’s lives by making them fussy, neurotic whiners who Can’t Find Love," as noted by Thrifty Gal Tracey's Thrifty Tips. She's talking about Lori Gottlieb, who has a whole book about the lies that women tell themselves about finding partners of equal value when we should just take any dude who's willing to cum in us and give us offspring to raise without their household help. Perhaps that links back to feminism ruining the family, though.

Don't forget, feminists also ruined men by saying it is OK for them to cry. We ruined politics by running for office. We destroyed sports by reporting on them. We ruined domestic violence by making it illegal. We ruined rape by saying its never the victim's fault. Seriously, what good is the world after feminism?!?!? Let's just set off multiple nuclear devices and let the roaches take over. Anything, according to feminism's detractors, would be better than dealing with people who want men and women to live their lives as each individual best sees fit. Nothing could be more awful! Thank goodness for feminism!

 

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved

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Suzanne 5 pts

Seriously, to everyone who commented, I am very glad that you are all taking your role as spoilsports so seriously!  It would be much less fun to rain on patriarchy's parade without you!  :)

And yes, I will not allow people who hate women or gender equality to define for me what a feminist is, even though a large portion of the world seems happy to take Rush Limbaugh's word on it.  That said, I also don't really consider women who hate men to be feminists, either.  There's no room in feminism for hating other people for their gender.  It's not going to make the world a better place for anyone.

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants ( http://cussandotherrants.com ) and is the author of Off the Beaten (Subway) Track ( http://offthebeatensubwaytrack.com ).

WisTex 5 pts

One thing that I have discovered is that feminism means different things to different people, and I have meet many women that would be considered feminist by some and not feminist by others.  Also, even people who label themselves as feminists are not all alike.  In fact, I would say some women give feminism a bad name.

I have personally meet women who have an ax to grind with men in general, usually because of some abuse they had by some jerk they knew, dated or married... or sometimes because their mother taught them to be that way.  These women lump all men into the bad category, treat even the nicest of men like crap, and in general want to dominate and punish all men for what a minority of men have done.  They believe women are superior to men.  They frequently turn good men into bad men, just as a bad man turned this former good woman into a bad woman.  Negativity begets negativity.

I have also meet women who truly believe in equality of the sexes, who respect men and get and demand respect from men, and are a true partner in a relationship, both supporting their man, while at the same time allowing him to be supportive of her.  They are loving and caring and have respect for others, including themselves.  These women actually believe in equality, treating others equally and expect to be treated equally.

I have also met women who want to be respected and loved and treated well, but do not subscribe to the stereotypical feminist lifestyle of having a career and working outside the home.  They actually like being a mother and want to stay home and care for their children. They want the man to provide, and they value his contribution as well as their own, and are looking for a husband who values her work in the home, which is as valuable, if not more valuable than someone working outside the home.  The don't want to be abused, but they don't want to have a career either.

In many cases, all of the above can call themselves a feminist, since all of them want to be respected and treated well by men, but the first one shouts it out as an excuse for being a jerk and treating men poorly.  It is these women that give feminism a bad name.

What is frequently missing is love and respect.  In the past it was the women who tamed man, soothing his soul and taming the beast.  But now we have some embittered women who need to be calmed and soothed, and ironically it is the good men now who are doing that.

What is interesting is that I originally only considered the bitter women a feminist, while most feminists would consider the first two feminist.  Now I understand that feminists consider the second woman a feminist, so I can understand your language.  But I bet that most of the people who think badly of feminism only think lady #1 is a feminist.  It's a classic case of misunderstanding due to different definitions of a term.

What you think a feminist is, is probably not what they think a feminist is.

Jaded16 5 pts

I'm very very proud to say - I've read seven books on the list. Though I'm not a Marxist/Leninist/Anti - Semite, these books were very good (except Mein Kamph - couldn't see the logic of that one) My favorite was Feminine Mystique - I've never read such a passionate (true) account of public-space crimes commited by media. I've read The Beauty Myth and Misconceptions by Naomi Wolf but I think Betty Friedan's oeuvre is much better. 

I like what they wrote about Feminine Mystique and The Communist Manifesto. Pretty funny stuff.

~ Jaded16  

http://jaded16.wordpress.com/

Virginia DeBolt 5 pts

Feminism in the U.S. has a ways to go, that's for sure. However, after reading "Half the Sky" I'm convinced that equal treatment of women is a battle that's just beginning. Women who have achieved something approaching equality tend to forget that there are other women who have not. In percentages, the number of women in the world who fall into the  category of semi-equal treatment is not a majority.

Virginia DeBolt
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mashadutoit 5 pts

This reminded me of a list of dangerous books according to " 15 conservative scholars and public policy leaders".  I especially like what they say about the Kinsey Report.

Here is the link: http://www.humanevents.com/article.php?id=7591

Jaded16 5 pts

While I'm familiar with the outrageously hilarious angry harry website (http://www.angryharry.com/), I thought Feminism/Feminist bashing was more or less a guy thing. This Andrea Grimes woman is so hilarious. She almost reminds me of Sarah Palin when she's on the warpath against us sluts. Obviously, because I choose my career and writing over boyfriends and marriage, I'm a lesbian as Pat Robertson would see it. Throw in a little witchcraft and I can see a made-for-tv movie made on my life.  I used to laugh at all this but now it just makes me plain mad!@#~^!

PS : I left a nasty comment on that Heartless Doll post. The world makes sense again. 

~ Jaded16

http://jaded16.wordpress.com/