How to have a social life (even if you have kids)


As parents, we now have new priorities and nearly zero hours to commit to anything but our kids. Still, I’ve always felt that in order to truly be at our best, we need to take care of our needs first before we can even consider those of our kids. And one of the best ways to feel well-rounded is through our social ties with other people.

While getting together with family and friends can be difficult, keep the following tips in mind to make it less so:

  • Once in a while is okay. You’re parents now, so it’s probably not a good idea to make plans every day of the week. Go out whenever you can because any break away from the kids is healthy.
  • Initiate. Most of your friends—both with kids and those without—probably assume you’re too busy to hang out and don’t want to intrude on your already-packed schedule.
  • Keep it small. A whole-day outing may not be feasible, but a quick lunch or coffee date can be all that you need to catch up with friends and family.
  • Phone dates count! One of my friends and fellow mom just moved 45 minutes away from me and I still don’t get to see her on a regular basis. So we catch up on the phone. Or online. Whatever we can do to stay in the loop with each other.

How important is your social life? How do you maintain ties with friends and family? Let us know in the comments below!


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