In celebration of September 20-26, 2009 being National Singles Week, and since this is my third year writing about it, I'd like to tell you about a few things I've done recently that I was able do because I'm a single woman.
I made last-minute plans to hang out with someone I'd never met: A few weeks ago I was supposed to go out with a friend on Saturday night, but they canceled just a few hours in advance. So I decided to email a guy from Match.com that I'd been exchanging messages with but hadn't had a chance to meet (I didn't even have his phone number at that point). Did he want to meet me in a few hours, I asked? It turns out he did. He canceled the plans he'd previously made and we had a really good time.
(We've been out a few times since then. Annnnddd he let me buy his U2 concert tickets -- they're playing in DC this Tuesday night -- because he had to go out of the country on a business trip and couldn't use them himself. Woot!)
I caught the bouquet at my sister's wedding: I wasn't about to hide out in the restroom, and apparently I was feeling competitive, and I know that catching a stupid bundle of flowers doesn't mean anything. I caught them, and it doesn't mean anything (and I don't want it to mean anything).
I did what I wanted this weekend, because I can: The job I've had for the past two years ended on Friday, and I start my new job tomorrow -- with only a two-day weekend in between. (I wanted a longer break but the new employer wanted me to start as soon as possible, so start I will.) So I decided I was going to take it easy this weekend.
I didn't feel like getting in touch with friends to hang out. I didn't feel like braving the crowds (or dreary weather) yesterday at the National Book Festival on the Mall or attending the Oktoberfest celebration on Capitol Hill. I've been to the gym twice, and I've run some errands, but other than that I've stuck close to home (and I'm quite proud of the dent I made in cleaning out stuff in my bedroom that I've been needing to go through).
I'm hunting for a new apartment: I've been living in Alexandria, VA for the past three years, and I'm heavily leaning toward moving into Washington, DC. I'm leaning so heavily, in fact, that I've told my roommate there's a good chance I'll be moving out in the next few months and I've already started searching for apartments.
I have a few ideas and preferences about where in DC I'd like to live...and I'm kinda happy about the fact that it's 100% my choice. I'm going to live where I want to live. I'm the sole decision-maker.
Here's what some other ladies have written about their single status:
Bella DePaulo wrote a quiz to see how well you Know Your Single People.
I follow Kris from Not a Girl, Not Yet a Wino on Twitter. This was one of her recent Twitter status updates
:
Arriving home with cat litter and Weight Watchers bread, I am the poster child for single.
Here at BlogHer, Suzanne Reisman wrote, So Some Fish Like Bicycles. What's the Big Deal?
Diary of a Smart Chick said she thinks she's "finally figured out how to create a bedroom that is truly ideal for a single woman." She lists five key features that make a great bedroom for a single gal. Here's one example:
It’s up to date. I don’t mean that my bedroom has to have trendy furniture and modern art. Instead, I mean that it needs to be up to date with me. My bedrooms always reflect my current passions, moods and beliefs. I think that this is important.
At Single Minded Women, Melanie Nayer wrote about visiting Rome by herself.
A tip for those single women who dare to travel to the Eternal City: be careful because before you know it, you’ll be strutting down the Via Conditti with all the confidence of a supermodel in stilettos.
(Contributing editor Zandria blogs at Zandria.us.)
Comments
Dating while single
I have often wondered why so many women end up dating guys who should obviously not be dated. I think it would really help all women when dating to have a set standard of qualities they want to see in a man and not continue dating those they find don't meet the criteria.
I write a blog about how men can better love their wives and was thinking it would be a great resource for women who are dating to see these qualities. I would love for you all to check it out and tell me what you think.
http://whatsheneedsfromyou.wordpress.com
Let me know,
Ken
thanks!
Bella DePaulo www.BellaDePaulo.com
Thanks for this post! I mentioned it here:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single/200910/make-your-own-b...