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How to Keep Black Friday Spending Under Control

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I did Black Friday one time. It was a year when we had Thanksgiving in Kansas City without my husband's family for the one and only time I think we've done that since we got married -- we were broke, broke, broke that year, too broke to take a car ride/cheap hotel Thanksgiving roadie, and I was willing to try anything to stretch my holiday dollars farther. I got some good deals, but I also threw up in my mouth a few times at people's behavior, so now I try to avoid Black Friday at all costs. However, I am not going to judge anyone who wants to do it. So let's talk about how to do it best!

During my Black Friday experience, I noticed something about myself: I got sucked in. All of the sudden I was asking myself if I needed stuff I'd never even thought about because it was seventy percent off -- it was usually stuff we needed to replace around the house, not stuff I would consider giving for the holidays. Does this happen to you? Usually I'm pretty immune, but maybe this is because I don't shop for entertainment anymore, ever. It's gotten me into trouble every single time I go shopping with anything other than a specific item in mind. I hate clutter! But that Black Friday, I still wanted to buy crap that I knew in my heart was probably no better than what I had sitting at home, but it was NEW!

Ruth at Living Well, Spending Less has a great reminder that I'm trying to keep in mind this holiday season:

Value quality over quantity

Perhaps this is just my personal preference shining through, but I would much rather have one nice high quality item over 10 cheap ones that won’t last. Although it is always important for me to try to find the best price, it is equally important for me to find things that have true value. As easy as it is to get caught up in all the stuff, try to remember that Christmas isn’t about what or how much you can get. Spend your money wisely and value those things–and those people–that really matter.

That's precisely what I'm doing for everyone in my family except the seven-year-old, who could care less if her ducky house is made of cardboard if that's what she fell in love with in the catalog. Knowing that she's only going to want to play with toys -- real toys -- for a few more years allows me to throw the notion of quality out the door without feeling too much remorse. The child wants quantity, and that's why Ebay was invented. She also does not care if her fake American Girl's clothing is also fake or -- even better -- fake and used. She just wants the joy of rolling in a whole bunch of doll clothes, and I'm happy to do it. Everyone else? I really want their presents to last, and I'm not rolling in the dough this year. I'm looking for things I know fit their interests and that are well made, and I don't have a budget in mind. If I can find what I want to get them for less, I'm not going to pad a quality present with more junk just to hit some spending limit in my mind. They'll never know the difference. (Well, they will if they read this, but I'm sure they wouldn't care.)

If you, like me, want the deals but not the chaos, you could try these tips.

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Credit Image: HIKKERS on Flickr


Fashion Diva Mama at Best Black Friday Secrets shares this:

Super Secret #1

Go shopping the night before Black Friday for deals, many times the sales items will already be in the stores computer system, and they will give it to you for that price! This is a huge opportunity for Black Friday deals! Use the little scanners in the aisle to check the prices. If anything, you'll also get a sense of where all the sales items are!
This doesn't always work, but when it does you score bigtime! Some of the larger chains have caught on, and wrap up their Black Friday merchandise before the sale now!

My stars. Seriously?

Karen at Saving the Family Money has this tip:

Price Adjustments – If you know you want a laptop from Best Buy but you’re worried about it being available on Black Friday, or

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Sonia W 6 pts

I avoid it like the plague. It's not worth seeing people act like fools over some item they think is priced low for the taking. Marketing at its best, but at what cost? I love Cyber Monday because it's less stressful and I am in more control of what I spend. Not only that, there isn't a rush to fight with someone in person, but yourself. To each his own.

Rita Arens 50 pts

Sonia W I am finding myself pretty overwhelmed by Cyber Monday. I only need a few more gifts and they are clothes -- I just can't shop for clothes online. I need to see and touch it.

Gena Haskett 13 pts

Or we could fight the programing and just not go out? Because there is no real need to shop on that day or any other if not for essential goods and services. I know it is a recreational day for some folks.

There is something kinda skeevy about being told to be at the store at midnight for a super special deal.

gregnazvanov 5 pts

I have a tip that worked for my clients. Put your credit card in an empty milk container, fill it with water and place in the freezer. After few hours you will see an ice block with your card inside. This way before you make a purchase you have plenty of time to think waiting for the ice to melt. Keep it in the freezer!

Rita Arens 50 pts

gregnazvanov I think if I really wanted it, I would just bludgeon the ice. :)

labuenavida 12 pts

I *hate* shopping on Black Friday, but usually end up doing it every year--we have 6 December birthdays in our immediate family and then about 10 people to buy for (and that's just kids in the immediate family). Shopping the sales on Black Friday is usually the only way that I can stay under budget...but MAN, I hate it.

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Patricia Bagadion
Patricia Bagadion

I will spending under control by NOT DOING ANY, at least on Black Friday.

Ranny Levy
Ranny Levy

Rae's the author of these books

Ranny Levy
Ranny Levy

I am buying gifts from friends who make things. Just bought two books from my friend Rae Taylor to gift to two girl friends. Like the idea of helping my peeps rather than corporations

Nickie Cleveland
Nickie Cleveland

I have a list and will not stray from it. And I've already told the kidlets there won't be as much this year.
I don't expect any issues because they are grateful for everything they get. I love to surprise them with extras of stuff I know they'll love or is unexpected.

Annie Fredrick Bidia
Annie Fredrick Bidia

I only shop for a few things, and take cash. Never use the debit card or check book, and that'll keep you on budget. I love shopping online or locally, too. (We live in a great place for food gifts!)

Carla King
Carla King

Finished shopping and everything wrapped before Thanksgiving. Now I'm not even tempted and I can just enjoy the season. I shop all year and find sales. I'm done.

Andrea L Boyer
Andrea L Boyer

I was gonna say, patronize small businesses instead! Avoid the long lines and the headaches, and get everybody something awesome they haven't seen all over the television already!

Polish Mama on the Prairie
Polish Mama on the Prairie

No I am not because I give my money to OUR economy. I shop small business so you will see me shopping on Small Business Saturday.

Rebecca Crawford
Rebecca Crawford

I work in retail. That's cured me of ever actually bring a shopper on Black Friday.

Barbara Rocha
Barbara Rocha

Ahhh Black Friday scares me..I go the week before with a list.

Breath Of Life Daily
Breath Of Life Daily

Know Exactly what I want, and be the first one there! #Ready