How My Position on Gay Marriage Changed From Against It and Why...
In my teens and early 20's I supported Gay marriage. I was young and open minded and thought they should have the same rights. My father and I had huge debates about it. He is a Catholic and a Republican and his argument at the time was that the cost of health insurance would go up because of the AIDS factor. We now know that there are many people both gay and straight that have AIDS. Please forgive him, it was the late 90's.
Then after I had my daughter and in my late 20's my thoughts began to change. I was against gay marriage.
In my teens and early 20's I supported Gay marriage. I was young and open minded and thought they should have the same rights. My father and I had huge debates about it. He is a Catholic and a Republican and his argument at the time was that the cost of health insurance would go up because of the AIDS factor. We now no that there are many people both gay and straight that have AIDS. Please forgive him, it was the late 90's.
Then after I had my daughter and in my late 20's my thoughts began to change. I was against gay marriage. The conservative side of me and the religous side of me started to play a part. I thought if we have gay marriage then men who want 6 wives would fight for that right or radical religous groups would think that they should have the right to marry off 14 year old girls or marry their cousins. I mainly thought gay marriage would open the doors to other extreme requests that could potentially cause harm to other people.
Then my sister announced she was gay. I was 32. This was hard to take at first mainly because it was my sister and I thought I knew her. Growing up she always had a boyfriend, she had the BackStreet boys poster and had that break up in college that took her FOREVER to get over. So needless to say there was not that moment of "Oh Yea, I knew that all along" Eventually I accepted the fact that she was gay and dating a woman, whom I did not like but that's another story.
Growing up in the South there are many conservative views about everything. Some people growing up believing any drinking is bad and men are the leaders of the household. Women should only work if they have to and many men can't handle it if the wife makes more than he does.
I moved to ATL at 31. I was going from a small town in Florida to the "big city". The summer after I moved to Atlanta I met and became friends with a couple who are two wonderful women. They have treated my husband, daugthter, and I all as if we were family. They are who I count on when I need someone to help us with our daughter, they threw my bridal shower before my wedding, and drove 7 hrs to Fla. to watch us get married.
All of those things and the fact that I now have a sister who is gay have made me rethink my position on people who are gay. I have never thought it's something that they choose. I know that you can't help who you love or are attracted to. I know that I have dated some men that other people have wondered "what does she see in him". So if you can't help who you want when you are straight then you definitely can't help who you want if you are gay.
While we were planning our wedding, my two friends became engaged. My husband and I actually helped one of them plan her proposal to the other. Without thinking my husband offered to become notorized and marry them. Then Sally said, but it doesn't count, we don't get to do that. And then it hit me how unfair this really was. These two people love each other. They want to spend forever together and be able to take care of each other and be considered a family in the eyes of the law.
I have many friends who are devout to their Christian Faith and I still practice my faith. Here's my point of view on the subject. No one is asking the Church to change. We all know it won't and that's fine. That's the right of the Church to practice the belief that marriage is between a man and a woman. However, the fact that many people forget is that marriage is really a social legal contract between two people. Couples get married without GOD everyday. There is nothing stopping an athiest, Muslim, or Hindu couple to get married and none of them believe in GOD or Jesus the way that Christians do. And if you are Republican than consider this, do you think that Uncle Sam should get to take 40% or more of someone's hard earned weath just because they are gay? If my friend became wealthy and wanted to leave it all to the love of her life shouldn't she be able to do that and spare her person of choice the expense and hassle of the IRS? After all, as that money is earned they get their share the whole way down the road. Even my father, as conservative as he is, agrees with me on that!