How Not to Be An Asshole When You Grow Up

I have these three beautiful boys under my thumb and raising them is a task I take seriously.  I want them to be successful adults.  Everyone wants that for their kids.  But I want more.  I want them to be good husbands.  In fact, not just good husbands, but fucking awesome, irresistible, can’t-live-without-you, can-you-believe-this-guy husbands.  Only I have to raise them without a husband as a role model, because they don’t have a daddy.  It’s suddenly occurring to me that this is not a damning scenario.  (Queen of spin.)  If you’ve been reading my blog a while, you know that I have a fear of my geriatric years.  Why?  Because the bitches who marry my sons are going to determine whether I’m in a quaint mother-in-law cottage with some pretty flowers and a carafe of fresh water on my bedside table, or whether I succumb to death in a pee smelling nursing home with naked old men flashing me their putrid body parts that I certainly won’t want to see when I’m 98.  I want the cottage, baby.  Preferably near the ocean.  And to get the cottage, I need to make sure these boys know how to be men.  Not just men, but men that the madwoman herself would marry.  Who better to teach them how to be awesome men, than a woman who loves men, right?  I mean, granted, the madwoman has landed in unfamiliar territory.  The madwoman has loved and lost.  But, I have extracted superior knowledge from life’s lessons.  I know what I like.  Hence, the madwoman’s guide to being the perfect man:

1.)     Tell the fucking truth.  Always.  Tell the truth when it hurts.  Tell it when it makes you look like a fucking clown.  Tell it even though it might fuck up your day, and hers.  Tell it even though the world may crumble and fall apart around you.  There is no other option.  Truth.

2.)    Tell your woman what you love about her.  Don’t just say, “I love you.”  Everyone says that.  If her cooking is extraordinary, tell her.  If her ass is to die for, tell her.  If you like how it feels when she runs her fingers through your hair, tell her.  You can thank me for this later.  And you will.

3.)    Be a good daddy.  Play with your kids.  Play with everyone’s kids.  Encourage your kids to be like you used to be when you were little.  Show them how to climb trees, ride bikes, wrestle and play sports.  Build forts with them.  Sit down and have tea and dress a baby doll.  Your wife is sick of doing this shit.  Your kids will think you’re a rock star.

4.)    Whatever your career, be good at it.  Whether you’re the lawn guy or a rocket scientist, be great.  I get that we all can’t be the best, but we all can try damn hard.  Being lazy is not sexy.  Trying hard is.

5.)    Be sexy.  Very few women really like the hair on your back and shoulders.  If they love you they may lie and say it doesn’t matter.  It does.  Shave it.  And tidy up that cock fro while you have the clippers out.

6.)    Burn your fucking copy of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.  Because that shit is over, that’s why.  If you want to slink off to your man cave everyday and pretend you don’t have a family, then go marry a cave woman.  This isn’t the fucking stone ages.

7.)    Put your family first.  Making lots of money is great, being non-existent because of it isn’t.  Every day is precious.  If you knew this was your last day on earth, would you really work till 7 pm?  Would you really stop for drinks on the way home?  Would you really just get your kids every other weekend like the court papers say?  Or would you come home and wrap yourself up like a pretzel around the ones you love?  Any old man will tell you the truth.  Ask one what he regrets.

8.)    Learn to cook.  Cooking is important, since without food we die.  Participate in meal planning, like you are shooting the fucking game yourself.  Women get overburdened when responsible for every meal.

9.)    Learn to be funny.  Humor is everything.  When your world is spinning out of control, a fucking belly laugh is an anchor.  Some people are born comedians.  It’s in their genes.  If it’s not in your genes, then learn to relax enough to find the funny and laugh at yourself.

10.) Be positive.  Find the good in whatever you can.  Seek God.  If that doesn’t ‘speak to you,’ then find a good vibration and hang on to it for dear life.  Negative people suck.

I’m not even going to give a number to ‘don’t be an addict, don’t beat your wife or kids, don’t be a gambler, a cheater or a thug.’  If you are, I hope your wife leaves you until you come to your senses.  Because ‘for better or for worse’ doesn’t mean living under the kind of oppression that comes from living with that shit.  Been there.  Done it.  Survived it.  I know what the fuck I’m talking about.  There is no piece of paper marriage license worth living under the black cloud.  Sorry, but it’s true.  Get right or get out.

 

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