How Not to Sabatoge Yourself, Ladies

8. Don’t come across as a dependent person with no interests. The worst thing you can do in the dating world is come across as a boring stick in the mud. Nothing screams ball and chain like a person who shows no interests outside of their man.
Do: Take up something that keeps your man on their toes. A cooking class, art, photography or a new workout program are all great options. If you have interests, you will be interesting.
9. Don’t be a bitch. Sorry there is no way to sugar coat that. You have to be sweet. We know… it does take work and a lot of effort to turn a bad/tough day into a positive one but being mean and cranky surely will not help. And if you normally carry a black cloud around with you, then you better change it because no one deserves to be beat up by you!
Do: Be sweet. Try to be pleasant to be around. If it takes a glass of wine once in a while then go for it, in moderation of course.
10. Don’t be a martyr or overly dramatic. There is nothing worse than someone who always feels sorry for themselves. We all have trials and tribulations; you are not the only one. If you are always saying things like, “everyone has more than me” or “you never put me first” he wont take your complaints seriously as your martyr attitude will get old quick.
Do: Be cool. Don’t freak out over everything. You have to be a strong woman and come across as a challenge not a weak individual. There is nothing sexier than someone who is confident and independent.

With all this said, be a better you. Don’t do things that make you come across as needy, boring or vapid. Be exciting and fun to be around. Sometimes, it is just a matter of saying “F it, I am just going to get over it and have a great day.” If not just to be a happy person but also to be appealing to the opposite sex. Go get them, you sexy, confident women! And if your guy is the one who is always messing up, you can share our “10 Ways to not Sabotage Yourselves, Guys” with them.



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