How Romance Starts From Within

Drew and I manifested the
most magical week
on the Big Island, Hawaii last week. We stayed with
dear friends in a gorgeous 5 bedroom house, about 10 steps away
from the beach
where many wild dolphin swim.

It's the same bay we
visited last summer and loved. But this time, we manifested a much grander
and more convenient place to stay as well as friends to boot! Instead of
having to drive half an hour from Kona to get here, we literally could walk
outside and jumped in the water. We are both just amazed at how our
feedback mechanism with the Universe works
. We tell it what we like and
what we don't like and it gives us better!

Which speaks to something that I have been wanting to communicate lately.
Recently I saw John Gray speaking at an event and he said something that was
very much in alignment with what I teach, that in relationship, a woman's
job is to be happy and a man's job is to make her happier
. In fact, he
spoke of how women often want more "romance" and expect the man
to provide it
, but that the men can't do so if the women don't know how
to embody it.

I can't agree more. In this article you'll find some wonderful tips for how
to create romance within, because once you find the magic within your own
, it becomes much easier for a partner to create it with you.

hear often from women that men aren't romantic or chivalrous anymore,
that they don't understand what women want. And again and again, I've found
that while there are indeed men who don't have a romantic bone in their body,
that in my experience, men are often times much more authentically
, than dare I say women?

You may be shocked to hear this, but think back at the moments you've spotted
men being romantic. As women we are fed so many ideas about romance
and taught to desire it that we have collected an arsenal of images
and conceptions of what romance is...and we are constantly measuring men
against pre-fabricated notions
of Stewartian (as in Martha) love. Whereas
men, haven't had such input. So what I've found is that when men express
love, they are absolutely original
in their proclamations.

Check out this award winning website by Dave Garr which he created as his
testimony of love for his Beloved Elizabeth.

Or when Bill Gottlieb was ready to propose to Emily Mindel, he knew
how much she loved the NY times crossword puzzle. She did the
puzzle every day without fail
. So Bill called Will Shortz, the crossword
editor at the Times, to see if he could create a puzzle for them.

On the day the puzzle appeared in the paper, Bill pretended to read the paper
as Emily worked on it at the cafe, Soon Emily found her own name,
and then with "Microsoft Chief, to some" BillG (his name). And when
Emily knew the answer to "1729 Jonathan Swift Pamphlet", which was
"A Modest Proposal." She started to get it. The clincher was
"Paul Abdul 1992 song" which was, "Will you marry me?" He
got down on his knee and she said, "Of course!"

If you don't have a Beloved in your life yet, you still get to have
romance. In fact, I've discovered that in my own experience and with women
who manifest incredible relationships that they emanate romance from
Not only is it possible to be enamored by all of life but that
when you are feeling this way, you do become the protagonist of your own love
story and the relationship you want inevitably comes about.

In fact one of my top passions in life is to feel romanced by the
. But what does that look like exactly?

It was only when I started to write down "land marks" that I
would know that I was getting what I wanted. A few of my markers

a. Travel and adventures with friends
b. experiencing beautiful performances
c. having the universe speak to me using the language of symbols and

d. eating incredible food

So, last Saturday night near the Kona Airport, Drew and I got into a boat
with friends and sped out during a golden sunset to a place where divers
would sink night lights so that the plankton would gather. The plankton would
attract the manta rays we were told. As night fell, we got suited up in wet
suits and snorkel gear and then jumped into the water once it was dark. The
only light came from the stars, the moon, the scuba light
s and these hand
lights we were all given.

We waited floating on the surface, adjusting to the bluish spots of light,
columns of silver fish and bubbles
that tickled us from the scuba divers.
It felt like being in a champagne glass
, and then they came, flying in,
from the dark, stealth-like, looking as if they were going to glide right
into the divers with the lights. At the last second, they suddenly curled
backward into elegant back-flips- STINGRAYS!
They seemed acquainted with
the ritual, happy to see the divers and playfully circling and barreling on
the bottom. And then...the lights were directed at us who floated on top, and
we started to feel the peppering of plankton (tiny little shrimp) against
our faces and masks
(I was so hungry, there was a brief moment that I
contemplated being a filter feeder myself, but I resisted). And then I saw
the face of the manta ray, a wide mouth the length of my arm, coming up
towards me. So excited, the 6 of us, gathered together like sardines, getting
water in our snorkels.

Spluttering, I'd clean out my mask only to find that the manta rays were
getting closer, only a few feet under me now. I could hear the gargled
"wows, and OMGs" from Drew. "LOOK DOWN!" he said, and I
did, to find it coming straight for me. Awed, intimidated, I tried to aim my
pathetic little light elsewhere, but to no avail. He was coming and in
seconds, he was doing back flips inches from my belly.

Belly to belly we were now, human and playful fish dancing in the bluish
light, bubbles and laughter.

Riding back on the boat, at top speed, bouncing under a towel with Drew, the
moon light shining our way, we felt so alive...I pondered how was it that I
attracted this experience because it wasn't something that I consciously felt
like I had been asking for, and when I returned home, I looked up the
symbolic meaning of the Manta Ray.

From Ann Williams-Fitzgerald
"The Wisdom of Manta Ray is Ebb and Flow. The Message:
If Manta Ray has glided into your life today, 'Spirit' is reminding you to go
with the flow of life - you can afford to glide along. There is no longer a
need to thrash about but instead sit still and wait, that very thing you need
will gently float on up to you.

Then I realized, looking at my "landmarks" for romance that this
experience fit perfectly under "beautiful performances" as well as
travel and adventures with friends.

It was the Universe's offering of Romance that was far better than anything I
could have imagined, and indeed, romance and love like all manifestations
require no assertion, but rather simply allowing... allowing it to float on
up to you.

And I'm extremely excited
to announce that I'm bringing on-board a fabulous trainer, Laura Rice,
who is helping me to lead the Manifesting Your Beloved 2 Day Intensive.
We'll be sharing the stage together in only 2 possibly 3 more intensives this
Click on the date to register!

October 25
& 26, 2008
in the Bay Area

November 8
& 9, 2008
in Los Angeles!

For those of you who are too impatient to wait until then, I've been invited
to speak at PURE PLEASURE this coming Thursday September 18, 2008 in
Santa Cruz from 7:30-9:30 pm.(Yes it is a shop that sells...pleasure toys ; )
Ought to provide added inspiration. If you want to come you must register in
advance! They are charging $5 at the door which will be donated to our local
non-profit Mariposa's Art that serves at-risk youth with extra-curricular
activities such as art!

All my love, Bella

Bella Shing is a Spiritual
Love Coach who helps people who believe in the Law of Attraction to Manifest
their Beloveds by understanding first and foremost how to be that for

She publishes the monthly
"Beloved Training" Ezine where you'll get Tips, Resources, and
Inspiration on how to be the Beloved all the time. Get your Free subscription


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