How to stop bad moods before they take hold
By allisononeill on May 07, 2009
You can learn how to snap out of a super bad mood and change your state. It takes a bit of practice and an ounce of self growth, but you can learn to master your moods. When you drift into a bad mood don’t forget you are also drifting into a much lower energy vibration. Call it hormones, call it being stuck in traffic, or call it dropping a kilo of yogurt all over the kitchen floor – it can be overcome.
Up until I was about 17 years old, I was an impatient and moody person. Now at the ripe old age of 24 I have slowly mellowed. I now have a better handle on my moods, my state and my brain. I’ve learnt that I really am in control. If I’m in a bad mood it is not only my choice it is also my fault.
I now automatically seem to almost get outside myself and see situations from a much broader perspective. As my self-awareness and mental capabilities have grown I've gained more self control. If my computer starts locking up and I sigh (then nearly unleash an array of bad words) a red light starts flashing in my head, and I choose to conquer the mood rather than have it conquer me. I see that the situation really is not as epic as my near bad mood wants me to believe it is. This seems to happen naturally for me now – its automatic and not an effort.
I’ve noticed that the pettiest things can create a bad mood. It helps to identify the exact cause. If I’m a bit short with hubby he asks “why are you all grumpy?” I always think carefully about it and tell him the whole truth. This proves how embarrassingly easy it is to flick the mood switch. The other day my answer was “because when I was putting on my jersey the sleeves of the top I’m wearing underneath got all rolled up and it took ages for me to get my other sleeves up so I could pull the other ones down again” (!!!) this was classic – and really not enough reason to be grumpy. When I can see how silly the cause of the mood is, curbing it becomes easy. I will not allow myself to be in a big grump just because my sleeves got rolled up!
Often an ‘overload’ can make you grumpy - when one thing adds to another...... like you’ve just spent ages tidying up when something spills, as that happens a family member enters the room and asks a million questions while getting right in your way just as the phone rings. Then the doorbell goes and a guest arrives who would like to use the loo which you haven’t had time to clean yet!!!! **Sigh**! If you deal with the most important thing first and leave the rest, your mood will thank you.
Tools you need in your ‘stopping bad moods’ toolkit:
1. Notice how you are breathing. I guarantee you will see you are barely taking in air. First things first breathe deep and properly.
2. A tool I find useful is comparing my behaviour to a person I know whose temper lives a wild life of its own. I see the similarities of myself in the moment and realise there is absolutely no need to react the way I am.
3. Keep those closest to you informed – have a system that gives them a warning and they can support you and understand rather than get annoyed with you. I tell hubby "I feel so mad I could cry" or "I feel so mad its like I've taken P" (luckily I have no idea what the drug is actually like). The reference to the drug P is not the most socially acceptable description but it clearly explains I don’t feel at all like myself but a real crazed madwoman.
4. If all else fails try a bath, some exercise, meditation, positive thoughts, affirmations or just change your surroundings.
For more ideas check out this awesome article on http://www.selfgrowth.com/ http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/A_Bad_Mood_5_Energy_Healing_Tips_to_Get_Beyond_It.html I especially love this part: “Every time you choose not to let something hard sink you, every time you choose to energetically rise above it—you evolve automatically. Your energy field radiates a little brighter and vibrates at a little higher frequency.”
If you no longer wish to tolerate negative states and super sour moods know that you can learn to overcome them. The more practice you have the easier it gets. Life is a lot more peaceful and it’s great for the soul!
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