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How to Stop Energy Vampires From Bleeding You Dry

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No, this kitty isn't an energy vampire - nor will she bleed you dry! 

"Real" energy vampires drain your spirit and soul by depleting your positive energy. Energy vampires, such as drama queens, leave you feeling drained and listless. 

After a visit with an energy vampire, you barely have enough energy to watch tv - much pursue your goals or take care of your life! The energy vampire's negative toxicity consumes your positive energy.

How Energy Vampires Drain Your Spirit and Soul 

Energy vampires drain positive energy in many ways, such as:

  • Intruding on your life, ignoring boundaries and privacy.
  • Making big deals out of nothing. Energy vampires are often called "drama queens" because they can turn a broken nail into a Shakespearean tragedy.
  • Complaining constantly about their partners, jobs, children, bad luck, and illnesses.
  • Criticizing your hair, appearance, job, children, partner, friends, and pets.
  • Not taking "no" for an answer. Energy vampires don't consider your needs.
  • Being unrelentingly negative - and encouraging you to be negative, too.
  • Blaming everyone else for their problems.
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    Do You Feel Exhausted, Tired, Sad?


    You know you've spent time with an energy vampire when you leave feeling depressed, exhausted, or sad. They leave you feeling empty and sluggish; to compensate or rebuild positive energy you may eat, drink, shop, or sleep for hours afterwards (or even get addicted to something strange!).

    They come in all shapes and sizes: loud and aggressive, soft-spoken and shy, charming and seductive, pushy and overbearing. They have energy leaks that need to be filled. 

    Energy vampires have often suffered some sort of crisis, whether in childhood or adulthood, and they're compensating to get rid of their negative energy. They may not be deliberately, maliciously stealing your positive energy -- but they're definitely not helping you grow or succeed.

    Is your boyfriend or husband an energy vampire? Read How to Spot a Man Who Will Try to Manipulate and Control You.

    11 Ways to Protect Yourself From Energy Vampires

  • Limit the amount of time you spend with them. The less time you're together, the less positive energy you'll lose.
  • Learn effective ways to end conversations with energy vampires (eg, I only have ten minutes to talk.")
  • Stay calm and detached from energy vampires. Don't let their negative energy consume you.
  • Be honest about your needs (eg, "I need this time to work/read/relax/exercise.")
  • Refrain from attempting to rescue them or fix an energy vampire's problems.
  • Practice walking away; the more you do it, the easier it gets.
  • Limit eye contact with energy vampires.
  • Avoid being in close spaces with them (elevators, cars, etc). Negative energy is physically catching!
  • Define and guard your personal space from energy vampires.
  • Tell them you feel uncomfortable discussing particular people or circumstances.
  • Stand up for yourself and your boundaries! Your time, energy, and resources should be closely guarded.
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    Do you think it's impossible to detach from an energy vampire? Read How to Let Go of Someone You Love.

    Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen a full-time writer and blogger; she created the "Quips and Tips" blogs:

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