how you do anything is how you do everything
One thing = everything? Really? When K first suggested a month or so ago that any one thing is like a hologram of how your whole life operates, it seemed like an over-simplification. Could it really be that obvious?
Yesterday, I had an adventure that proved the point beautifully. I was headed out to the Oregon wine country to pick up some wine donations for a fundraiser that I'm planning. Earlier in the week, I came through a bought of the worst flu ever, and by the time Friday rolled around and I was back to work, I needed some work that didn't feel like work, but would accomplish an important task, nonetheless. So I called a friend, and off we went to Pinot Noir land.
I just have to say, that I am a pretty organized person. I can simultaneously plan several events, manage a series of executive meetings, and write a newsletter while putting out a few fires, all at the same time. That said, however, I am also somewhat of a non-planner. How can this be? I don't know; I'm a marvel of complexity.
So, there I was, on a mission to collect bottles of wine armed with a list of tasting rooms, a sure-fire GPS system, and a general idea of the territory. Not long into our little adventure, the GPS started giving seemingly random directions, first telling us to turn left, then make a series of U Turns. Dear me, I thought. Maybe I should have been a little more prepared. So we headed for the nearest small town on our list and just as I'm thinking, gosh, wouldn't it be nice to find the local Chamber of Commerce, guess what? The next block up: Bingo! Chamber of Commerce, where the nice lady pulled out a wine country map and helped us find our first donor of the day. Yay!
Several vineyards later, and we are on a long and empty country road searching for a winery. "We should have passed it by now," my friend said. The GPS wasn't speaking. "Wait," I said. "Let me pull over and take a look at the map." So I pull off the road onto the dirt shoulder. "What's the address we're looking for?" My co-pilot reads the number off the list then points at the address marker posted at the edge of the drive across from where we were parked. "We're here," she said. And we were. I had pulled the car over at the exact right spot, "by accident."
So, based on the truth that inspired this blog, I would have to say that my general approach to anything I do contains equal parts of fact, intuition, luck, and a little Divine guidance. You? Love, C
My two cents: Don't get so wrapped up in the plan that you can't be open to spontaneous joy!
I was watching Oprah a few weeks ago and Geneen Roth, author of Women, Food and God was her guest. We all know Oprah has had issues with food for a very long time so I thought it would be interesting to see how she responded to the insights Geneen had to share. How you do anything is how you do everything she said. At the time Geneen was talking about how women eat like they do everything else in their lives. But it also applies to everything else we do in our lives. Oprah had an Aha moment and so did I.
I've always been a fan of making lists. What you want in a job, what you want in a home, what you want in a partner. Negotiable and nonnegotiable, the things you can't live without and the things that would be nice but are not deal breakers.
I recently had a friend who was wanting to start a new relationship, she was trying to get clear so she made herself a list, one of the biggies on her list was a man who was successful and made a great living. In other words she wanted a man who had money. Nothing wrong with that but you have to be specific. I reminded my dear friend that she might want to add a man who is generous. A wealthy man who is stingy was not what she was looking for. You have to understand someone who is stingy with their money is stingy with their time, their affection, complements, etc., and who wants that?
Stingy is stingy. How you do anything is how you do everything.
If you are a worrier, you probably worry about everything. If you are a planner you probably plan out everything from your work schedule to your kid's soccer games and orthodontist appointments. I really to be on time. Rushing and being late is uncomfortable to me so I make it a point to leave myself plenty of time, to do pretty much everything I do. like It's funny, how it works, even when I have a client who is late getting to the salon I can usually catch up and be right on time for my next client.
Sometimes life seems random but it really is just perfect. Things work out the way we set them up, even if you don't realize it at the time. My daughter, just like C is very organized. She writes everything down on her calendar. She sets things up without even thinking about it, so when she needs something it is there just the way she wants it. It's not like she decided one day to get organized she just is. She likes order. Me on the other hand, I couldn't care less. I don't write things down, I kinda like to fly by the seat of my pants. That feels more comfortable to me.
Is any of this important? Who knows, but why people do what they do is interesting to me. We are not all the same, and we don't have the same quirks. Instead of trying to change someone, I guess you just have to find people who don't drive you completely crazy and just let them be. Just seems easier that way. xo-K
My two cents: Know what you want, know who your are, then just roll with it!