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I Am the Acorn: What I Learned at BlogHer '10

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"Hi, I'm Megan. I blog at An Acorn Dreaming. What's it about? Well... um... I write about, you know, my life and my kids and, um, stuff like that. It's a personal blog. Kind of a slice of life thing, you know. The acorn? Oh, that's a symbol of potential, you know, like the possibility to become something big like an oak tree. So, uh, I'm the acorn, you know, growing and stuff..."

Yes, I actually said that. I actually said that countless times at BlogHer, and it sounded stupider each time.

"I need a better pitch. I need any pitch," I bemoaned while sitting in the hotel bar with GenieAlisa and Neilochka.

"Why do you need a pitch?" Neilochka asked.

Why do I need a pitch? I don't really know why I need a pitch except that all the panels I had been attending talked about needing a pitch and a niche and a platform. I felt like I needed an easy way to explain this blog. How do I explain this blog? What is it anyway? What am I doing?

I spent some time at a session on monetizing your blog. Then I attended a session on the changing publishing ecosystem.

Could my blog make money? Could I make I turn my blog into a book? Do I need to find ads? Do I need to do reviews? Court marketers? How do I drum up more readers? Do I do giveaways? What am I doing with this blog?

It wasn't until I was sitting in a panel discussion called "Little Fish in a Big Pond: Loving Your Small Blog" that I remembered what I'm doing with this blog.

I'm writing.

I don't do reviews and giveaways because I'm not a reviewer. I'm not a marketer. I'm not a salesman hawking goods out of my internet cart. "Step right up, ladies and gentlemen. Step right up and see this wonderful new product." I'm fine with other people who do it, truly. I mean, free stuff is one way to get a bit of a return on all the time and energy a blogger expends writing their blog. But it's not me. It's not what I'm doing here -- even if it means I don't get the best swag or invited to the fancy parties or free tours. Even if it means my stats aren't high. I'm not a salesperson.

I'm a writer, and this blog started as a place to practice writing, as a place to rediscover my voice.

I didn't even start it. IT Guy started this blog. I stopped writing for years when my kids were little. After years of writing journal entries, essays, poems and stories, I just stopped. It was too hard to find the time to think, much less write. Writing requires a quiet space in your brain where words can shuffle aimlessly, somersault and bounce off each other until they fall into place. Kids, at least my kids, took up all that space for years and the words could only skitter and stutter, crash into walls and fall into tangled, meaningless piles.

IT Guy looked at me one day and saw those piles and piles of letters just behind my eyes, and he set up this blog.

"Here," he said. "I made a place for you to write. What do you want to call it?"

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"An Acorn Dreaming," I said without pause, like I had just been waiting for a blog, a space, a voice.

IT Guy made me a place for my words and I let them out. I dropped them into the "Add A New Post" box one at a time -- slowly at first and then with increasing speed until the letters were like rainfall in the text box. I was writing again.

And I haven't stopped.

As I sat in the "Little Fish" panel, I realized I know exactly what I'm doing with my blog. I'm writing my stories. My blog's purpose is to be the space for my words, my stories, my life.

It's not about ads or money or popularity. I forget that. As long as I'm writing, my blog is a success.

That's why I can't pitch my blog. My blog is a life built of words. Life is layered and messy. A life doesn't lend itself to niches or platforms or pitches. A life can never be a brand -- unchanging, always consistent and easily understood.

This is a blog about a life --

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hayes080505 5 pts

Congratulations on finding your purpose!

I enjoy the readership numbers and comments; they tell me that I am speaking to someone at some level. I feel a connection of sorts. Does that make sense? Or, do I need to get out of the house more often?

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maomau 5 pts

thank you for this post. i often wonder what i want to do with my blog or what its all about but in the end its my space to do whatever i want.

i wish i had made it to the conference but its also nice to hear all the recaps from other bloghers :)

CRB-H 5 pts

I couldn't agree more. I did not make it there this year but last year I went to Chicago and left feeling like I had failed the blogging world with not a focus on what my blog was about. I have decided that I am me. I love to write and I write about what I know, my life and the world as I see it in my little corner. So here, here...cheers.

Jill Miller Zimon 5 pts

I started my blog more than five years ago and I started it for my writing work - just a place to practice and put the overflow. Not to make money, not to get traffic, not to influence anyone or attract anyone. Just for me. And I've always talked about writing for yourself.

The elevator pitch is a great concept, but it doesn't work for all of us. In more than eight years of freelance writing, I still don't have a good elevator pitch and I have in fact been rejected from media trainings I've wanted because they told me they needed me to pick a topic and stick to it - but I couldn't. And I wouldn't. I do not WANT to be a this expert or a that expert. I want to know what I know and offer what I know when it's needed - why would I restrict myself just because a program asks me to in order to give me training? Ack. It's nice to have expertise, but why must it be just one thing?

You sound like you know exactly what you're doing. Good for you and do not doubt that the choices you make are the right ones, for you. No matter what others appear to be after.

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In The Arena: Jill Miller Zimon, Pepper Pike City Council Member ( http://jillmillerzimon.blogspot.com )

blackbeltmama 5 pts

I love this post and I loved meeting you at BlogHer10. I'll say it again, your final line: there's your "pitch." Not that you need one. . . your writing sells itself.

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acorndreaming 5 pts

Believe me, I have lots of angst and jealousy and all that good stuff. I'll probably have it again. I'll have to remember to come back here and read this then to remind myself of what I learned.

Glad it was helpful to you.

Megan writes at www.acorndreaming.com ( http://www.acorndreaming.com ), a chronicle of her life and all the beautiful, crazy people who inhabit it, including her ADHD son, Ace, her old soul daughter, Tink, and her husband, IT Guy, that liar who used to wear tights. 

acorndreaming 5 pts

I still haven't figured out what I'm supposed to be when I grown up. Or I can't figure out how to get paid for it. I think that's where I got lost. I want to write for a living, but when I realized what I would have to do with my blog to make any money off it, much less make a living off it, I realized I didn't want to do it. This is my space to write and it's important to keep it that way.

Megan writes at www.acorndreaming.com ( http://www.acorndreaming.com ), a chronicle of her life and all the beautiful, crazy people who inhabit it, including her ADHD son, Ace, her old soul daughter, Tink, and her husband, IT Guy, that liar who used to wear tights. 

amberpagewrites 5 pts

I had the same kind of half-hearted pitch, because I'm in the same boat. And ever since I came home I've been all growly about it all. "What do I do now?" Blah, Blah, Blah.

I think I'll go back to thinking of it the way you are. I was happier that way.

etowndz 5 pts

Well said!

I went through that same thought process when I went to the BlogHer reach out tour in Boston about two years ago. I enjoyed myself, but also came home a little panicked about monetizing and SEO and building traffic and BLAH BLAH BLAH.

Sometime between then and now, I came to the realization that, well, I don't really care about all of that. Traffic and readers are lovely, comments rock. Opportunities because of your blog are awesome. But I'm not doing this to be a job. I'm doing it because I like having the space to write and document and have a core community of people.

I loved that Small Blog session, too. Three cheers for the little people.

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justlinda 10 pts

I needed to read this today.

I've had swirly thoughts since the conference too. What is my goal, where am I going, how will I get there? How can I get there if I don't even know where it is?

I haven't worked it all out yet, but I do know some things... I'm not a salesperson or a marketing person. I'm not a product reviewer nor am I doing any of this for money.

My post on my blog today is sort of like this, only full of angst and questions. Seems like you've worked through it more fully than I have, and it was good for me to read that. So Thanks.

JustLinda

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Melissa Ford 5 pts

Absolutely beyond gorgeous: "My blog's purpose is to be the space for my words, my stories, my life. It's not about ads or money or popularity. I forget that. As long as I'm writing, my blog is a success." You said it perfectly.

Melissa writes Stirrup Queens ( http://stirrup-queens.com ) and Lost and Found ( http://lostandfoundandconnectionsabound.blogspot.c... ). Her book is Navigating the Land of If ( http://thelandofif.blogspot.com/ ).