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Penn State Scandal: I Am Angry

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I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. This means that certain things are triggering for me. Smells, sounds, songs... even the weather on some days. I often have to turn away from news casts, online stories, books, and movies because something that happens in them sets off a visceral reaction in me and reminds me of something that happened in my past.

These triggers can be the spark that sets off a reaction that ultimately leads to a depressive episode. I don't avoid these things because my head is in the sand, I avoid them for my own mental health and the health and well-being of my family.

So, hearing about what is going on at Penn State is, at the very least, very upsetting. It was also something that I could not ignore.


Photo by Joe Shlabotnik.

Here's the short version in case you aren't following the story:

  • In 1977, Jerry Sandusky established The Second Mile, a group home for troubled boys. This organization ultimately evolves into a program that is much more and supports all youth who need additional support and positive adult role models. Through this program, Sandusky works with children. 
  • In 1994, he has inappropriate contact with his first reported victim. (This victim does not report this until he is 26, which means he was around 9 years old when the contact occurred.)
  • In 1998, it is reported to University police that Sandusky has had contact with two more boys, which starts an investigation with the police department. One victim's mother, during a phone call recorded by a police detective, is told by Sandusky that he showered with her son and with other boys. He is investigated by the Pennsylvania Department of Public Welfare, where he admits to hugging the boy and says he won't shower with children again. The district attorney declined to pursue criminal charges, prompted by the head of campus police telling the police to close the inquiry.
  • In 1999, Sandusky retires from Penn State. It is unrelated to the inquiry and he is allowed access to facilities on campus. (This will be significant later.)
  • In 2000, a janitor witnesses Sandusky abusing a boy in a shower on campus. He tells co-workers and one of them observed that Sandusky's vehicle was on campus that night. The incident is reported to the janitor's supervisor, who tells the witness to whom to report the incident.
  • In 2002, another witness (this time a graduate assistant) witnesses a boy (possibly around 10 years old) being abused in another shower on campus. He reports the incident to Joe Paterno, coach at Penn State. Paterno, in turn, reports it to Tim Curley, the athletic director of Penn State. Ten days (!!) later, this graduate assistant, Mike McQueary meets with Curley and Gary Schultz, school treasurer and senior vice president. They do not report the incident to authorities or to any child protection agency. Instead, Sandusky's access to the locker rooms is removed and the incident is reported to The Second Mile.
  • In 2009, a mother calls her son’s school and reports that he was sexually abused by Sandusky. The police are notified.
  • In 2010, the graduate assistant, who is now an assistant coach at Penn State testifies about the abuse he witnessed and what he reported to Schultz and Curley. One of the victims reports that he has received voice mails from Sandusky, which he does not return.
  • In January of 2011, Curley downplays the allegations, saying that graduate assistant said it was "inappropriate," and not "sexual" contact, and referred to it as "horsing around." Schultz says he met with Curley and Paterno about the reports, but says he thought Sandusky and the boy might have been wrestling when the inappropriate contact happened.
  • The public has been made aware of the allegations against Sandusky and he is accused of sexually abusing eight boys between 1994 and 2009. Curley and Schultz are also being investigated for lying to investigators and not reporting the incidents to authorities. They have vacated their jobs and have been arraigned on the charges.

(Insert statement about people being innocent until proven guilty here.)

My thoughts on this? Every single person at Penn State University who was made aware of this situation should be fired and/or prosecuted. There are eight (and probably many more) victims out there whose lives will never be the same. Had Paterno, Curley, and Schultz been doing their jobs there would be far fewer victims. Those boys (and men) deserved better. Even the witnesses should be sharing in this blame.

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a suburban kitchen 7 pts

I am totally angry as well. Just blogged about it here.

strawberrytech 6 pts

Here is one way to keep this from happening again...these "troubled kid" places are all over, this is hardly the first or the last... please sign!! https://wwws.whitehouse.gov/petitions/!/petition/work-end-profit-prisons/yv1ZqZs4 There are people making a lot of money off places like second mile where kids are getting abused. Cafety.org has lots of examples too (CAFETY = Community Alliance For Ethical Treatment of Youth).

MinnesotaJoY 9 pts

strawberrytech Thank you so much!!

SandraGoldstein 7 pts

I'm not only shocked by the whole incidents that took place, but also by the people that were cheering and rebelling against the decision to sack Paterno. Do these people not know what happened?

It seems as though if someone is involved in child abuse they can get away with it if people like them before it happened. Much like a singer, who passed away a couple of years ago and has millions of fans.

MinnesotaJoY 9 pts

SandraGoldstein I do believe that the rioting that occurred WAS out of ignorance. Even though I've been hurt before, I still believe in the basic goodness of most people.

KarenLynnn 304 pts

If I had been that janitor who witnessed the shower scene, I would have SCREAMED "WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING"? for shame on everyone involved in the cover up. :(

MinnesotaJoY 9 pts

KarenLynnn Exactly. I'm pretty sure they'd have been carrying him out on a stretcher.

ShoreBookworm 18 pts

Regardless of whether or not the suspect is guilty, the way this was handled is an outrage. I just wrote a post about it as well, http://nourishourselves.blogspot.com/2011/11/prior...

MinnesotaJoY 9 pts

ShoreBookworm Thank you so much for your words. Could you please post the link again? I would love to read what you've written but the link isn't working.

ShoreBookworm 18 pts

MinnesotaJoY Sure thing, I probably typed it wrong. Try this link to my blog, it is the first, most recent post. http://www.nourishourselves.blogspot.com.

ShoreBookworm 18 pts

MinnesotaJoY Very weird, I just tested the link and it still does not work. But that is definitely my blog address. I tried typing it in the toolbar without the www and it worked. Sorry for all the trouble. :( http://nourishourselves.blogspot.com

Denise 326 pts moderator

ShoreBookworm The period at the end of the url is being attached to the link.

ShoreBookworm 18 pts

Denise Bingo! Thanks so much Denise. :)

Kathy K 14 pts

AMEN!! The idea that preserving the football program's income (from both the NCAA and the alumni) over the welfare of children makes me sick to my stomach. Those kids rioting last night should be ashamed of themselves.

MinnesotaJoY 9 pts

Kathy K I absolutely agree. I was stunned by the behavior.

MommaCupcake 7 pts

I'm a sex abuse/incest abuse survivor. I'm LIVID about this situation. The worst crimes are done by those who could have stopped a crime and didn't.

MinnesotaJoY 9 pts

MommaCupcake Thank you for sharing that. It's such a scary thing isn't it?? (and I totally agree!!)

elaineR.N. 144 pts

I am with you. The students at Penn State who are rioting because Coach P. was fired are ignorant. Goes to show that it takes more than a college education to make one smart -- or sensitive. My hope is that the abused boys are now survivors and not victims!

MinnesotaJoY 9 pts

elaineR.N. My biggest hope is that the boys are survivors and not abusers. :(

elaineR.N. 144 pts

Hopefully they will be getting the therapy they need to not have that happen!! MinnesotaJoY

MinnesotaJoY 9 pts

elaineR.N. I hope so. My fear is that they didn't tell. So many never do.

Jet 11 pts

I agree with you. Every bit. And I want to take it one step further:

When these people WITNESSED inappropriate or sexual contact between an adult and young children, why, for the love of all they hold sacred, did they not SAY SOMETHING right then. RIGHT F***ING THEN.

These kids were let down. By every one concerned. And that will ripple out for their families and everyone they know.

MinnesotaJoY 9 pts

As I continue to think more and more about it, it just gets deeper. Also, keep in mind that he probably started that organization JUST to troll for victims. It is chilling.Jet

MinnesotaJoY 9 pts

Jet Yes. YES. I was so very outraged when I knew that two different individuals could have done something AT the TIME. :(

mamikaze 6 pts

Preach it, sister! I am livid that these adults reported it to their supervisor only. It sickens me that it was brushed off for so long. Everyone knows it was to protect the football team.

MinnesotaJoY 9 pts

mamikaze Sadly, yes. I too am livid.

Conversation from Twitter

SavorySweetLife
SavorySweetLife

VirgoBlue I can't read anymore about this. I am too upset and angry to read anymore.

MinnesotaJoY
MinnesotaJoY

SavorySweetLife thank you for the support though. Knowing people are reading is helping me to be strong and keep yelling.

buppyspek
buppyspek

MinnesotaJoY i'm surprised it took this long for him to be fired. Btw, your blog post was powerful. Well written. I'm proud of you!

MinnesotaJoY
MinnesotaJoY

buppyspek Thank you friend. So much.

coolzebras
coolzebras

MinnesotaJoY Now I really want to see it! #PennState

MinnesotaJoY
MinnesotaJoY

coolzebras Here's the short version. I cried a lot. :P

coolzebras
coolzebras

MinnesotaJoY Well, duh! How could you not?

Jennandtonica
Jennandtonica

MinnesotaJoY WHOA!

Jennandtonica
Jennandtonica

MinnesotaJoY so awesome!

MinnesotaJoY
MinnesotaJoY

Jennandtonica Thanks. I'm going to throw up now.

Jennandtonica
Jennandtonica

MinnesotaJoY you may feel better, y'know.

MinnesotaJoY
MinnesotaJoY

QueenofSpain Thanks Erin for the RT. Seriously. Love you. <3

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Polish Mama on the Prairie
Polish Mama on the Prairie

Kelsey, my hubs is convinced he is going to Hell lol But that won't stop him from dying to save a child, etc. I have to say proudly that he once was at home sick with the flu and a local teenager was getting pushed around outside by 3 grown men and he went outside (knowing they were gang members and one possibly carried a gun usually) in pjs barefoot in winter and threatened to beat them to death with their own shoes. They never returned to the neighborhood. Was so proud of him. He and I both believe that mean people do what they do with disregard for others because they know that people *won't* go outside and say "No, your behaviour is wrong and if it comes to blows, let's go rounds so that someone weaker is protected". We also have stepped in countless times for others. Because it's the right thing to do. Hugs, lady!

Kelsey Ann Norton
Kelsey Ann Norton

Good follow up. Thank you Denise for sharing it with us.

Polish Mama, I think we put too much hope into the quality of our society. Each of us can only try to do our best, but it is overwhelmingly obvious that most people are simply too afraid, worried, or oblivious to what goes on around them. Sure, we put our safety first ... but what about the safety of that child? What about the safety of a teen who gets brutally murdered on a bus while many look on? What about the child who is repeatedly beaten by a parent and teachers ignore the warning signs? It doesn't just apply to sexual assault, abuse, and/or rape.

I know for a fact that my husband would jump into pretty much any situation regardless of the consequences - he has made his peace with God, and therefore is able to look at situations differently. If he dies saving someone else, at least he knows where he is going. I could only hope that if I was ever in that dire a situation, that I would put my life on the line for someone else.

I can clearly recall almost a dozen incidences where I, my husband, or both of us, have stopped to help or called for help.

Does this mean I try and do something all the time? No. As a woman, I am very aware that I am the 'weaker sex' and I will not stop on my own. I will call the police though. There have only been a handful of times I have stopped on my own to offer assistance. I will do what I can, within my limitations.

That being said, this situation makes my blood boil. I was taught from an early age how to win a fight, and damn straight I would go to bat for that child or any other child I saw in that situation.

I believe that if more of us would stand up for the rights for victims, that we would have less hurt and anguish in the world. We allow horrible things to happen, and the consequences are not always true to the crime. We need to be advocates. We need to be protectors. We need to hold love in our hearts and we need to care about people.

*Ending soap box rant* :)

BlogHer
BlogHer

You might also want to read her follow up post: http://www.blogher.com/today-i-am-humbled - Denise

Tracie Maxwell-Certain
Tracie Maxwell-Certain

Thats sex abuse

Tracie Maxwell-Certain
Tracie Maxwell-Certain

I am also a survivor of sex I am disgusted that as a society sexual abuse is still such a huge issue. What the hell! People need to be able to intervene and secure a childs safety. Why didnt the player call the police. It doesnt matter what the abusers job or status is. I hope this makes sense. Its difficult to compose properly when im so mad

Polish Mama on the Prairie
Polish Mama on the Prairie

Kelsey, I wondered what a victim would think of the idea of someone walking in on it and not stopping it and immediately attacking the perpetrator. I would think we as a society would all attack or at least help the victim in the case of someone walking in on someone being hit and attempted to be killed by someone else. Right? Or am I putting too much hope on the quality of our society?

Kelsey Ann Norton
Kelsey Ann Norton

I'm a survivor as well. Not CSA, thankfully, but still ... my husband and I talked about this last night when it came on the news for all of one minute. I don't care who you are - if you see something like that going on, you barge in there, save that kid, and while you're at it, boot stomp the heck out of the perv who thinks doing that is okay. Trigger or not - we cannot allow our fears to rule our lives. The situation disgusts me and I fully believe that if a person can see what is going on and walk away, they are fully responsible as well. They should be brought up on equal (or close to) charges as they have done almost as much damage.

Polish Mama on the Prairie
Polish Mama on the Prairie

And I have wonder, how can someone walk into a situation where a grown man is sexually or physically or even verbally attacking a child and not go totally "ape s***" on them? How can you hold yourself back from physically attacking that person? I'm skinny and I know, oh my sweet dear Lord, I know I would have at that moment physically been sick and attacked that man. Because that is the only right thing to do in my opinion and that is the least of what that man deserves and that is the least the victim deserves. How can that child feel, being hurt like that, seeing another adult walk in (or finding out later), hoping beyond hope that the abuse stops, and....... NOTHING. I'm sobbing thinking about that.

Polish Mama on the Prairie
Polish Mama on the Prairie

I was never a victim but still am angry anyway because I am a mother who loves her children and who was raised by parents who also feel that same anger/hatred/loathing for child molesters. When I hear someone argue in favor of this coach staying on after what happened, I question their motives and sense of right vs wrong and honestly, sanity.

Louise Pleasant
Louise Pleasant

I to am a survivor and I can totally relate. It makes us stronger than most, but weaker as well.

Christine Perkett
Christine Perkett

A brave post, indeed. Bravo. I'm angry, too.