I Was An Enigma To My Obstetrician

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melanie jean juneau


After moving to the Ottawa  Valley with our first child, I became the patient  of a very feminist Doctor who was childless, although she did have tropical fish and a  parrot. I was an enigma to her as she was to me. The waiting room was filled with well off, professional women needing gynaecological care and women in their late thirties or early forties pregnant with their first child. Then, I would walk through the door, at first pregnant with a toddler on my hip and by my last visit with three or four other children clustered around me. Enshrined on this doctor's desk and encased in glass were birth control devices that glared at me every time I sat across from her.

After one visit, my obstetrician said, in a teasing tone,

"Would you quit bringing your beautiful children to my office. Someone always wants a reversal (from tubal ligation) after you leave."

 A similar comment about our kids came from a priest who said,

 "You and Michael are nice looking but you make absolutely beautiful babies!"

Pregnant with my fourth child, I came for a scheduled appointment even though labour had begun. I preferred to see her right away rather than wait for her at the hospital because I wanted to  go home after visiting her office and put everything in order and arrange for childcare. I was not expecting my doctor's reaction,

"This baby is coming soon. You don't have time to travel all the way home. Use the phone in the office, get a hold of your husband and get someone to meet him in the hospital parking lot to pick up your kids and you go straight to admitting ahead of him."

 I walked into the waiting room, called my brother-in-law and explained the situation, laughing at my self as I apologised to him. A contraction hit, I breathed through the pain and then gathered all the kids together and left her office for the hospital.

An hour later she bustled into the delivery room and announced,

"Well you sure impressed my entire waiting room! Everyone thinks you are super woman."

Two hours later, standing with assistance and enduring long contractions that were turning my baby completely around,  I was anything but super woman. I wailed,

"I thought you said this delivery was going to be fast!"

It didn't help that seven or eight student nurses, obstetrical residents and medical students stood in a half circle around me, watching a woman give birth without drugs or an epidural, to her fourth child. (I was not trying to be super mom,;natural  birth was better for delivery because I could work with my body and therefore prevented tearing and stitches. I would sit cross-legged on the bed right after giving birth and feel wonderful  and much lighter.

The last baby this doctor delivered of mine was my fifth because I could not face her next time I was pregnant. It was quite the production. All through my pregnancy I had asked God,

 "Please, not on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day." 

God had His own ideas, though. It was Christmas Eve. I had just bathed the kids, baked a tortiere  in the oven (which was almost  ready for an early dinner) and laid out dresses, white tights, ribbons for the girls  and outfits for the boys to wear to church when the contractions started coming hard and fast. In fact I barely could get my boots on.  Michael drove very quickly to the hospital. When I stepped into admitting, the lights were dim, Christmas lights were shining on the tree and strung along the walls and two relaxed nurses were leaning against the counter.

 "So ", one of the nurses calmly asked, "Is this your first?"

" No", I gasped, "My fifth."

"Your fifth?", her head jerked up and her eyes popped open. "Sandra, get the elevator right now and then grab a wheelchair. I'll phone obstetrics so they can get ready for her!!!"

Michael followed the parade carrying David who refused to stay with our baffled neighbour; Dad assumed he had time to take him back home.The obstetrical  nurse looked at my husband incredulously,

"You aren't going anywhere if you want to see this baby's birth. Give him to the desk clerk and tell her to give him crackers."

 My dress was literally yanked over my head, my tights whipped off, the doctor ran in to the delivery room and Emily was born 45 minutes later.(By the way, David thoroughly enjoyed his adoring fans out at the nurses' station.)

I loved the large ,vacant four bed  ward room I was assigned because the it was peaceful and relaxed. Christmas morning ,Michael trouped in with all the kids dressed in their holiday outfits and huge grins on their faces. He had pulled off Christmas set-up (that's a whole other story) but he sheepishly handed me the hairbrush, elastics and ribbons admitting,

"Well it was difficult but  I managed to set up everything for Christmas morning and the kids were thrilled with everything this morning. I just couldn't handle the girl's hair."

He pulled off their hats and their hair was still a tangled disaster. I laughed and laughed and everyone joined in.Then little people hopped up on the hospital bed as they took turns holdinh their new sibling.








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